my bf is from another country.he has a gf of 5yrs at home and says that he is just too tired of their fighting,but doesnt want to tell her that its all over between them,doesnt want to hurt her.he wants to be with me and says he loves me.he calls her from my house,they fight,his gf cries all the time.she says that she feels that he changed and he got someone.i get really upset when he calls her and they talk in other language,i cant even understand what they talk about.i know he loves me,but they have a really strong bond,i dont think i would ever be able to break it. She is kind of girl,who starts to panic if her bf cut his hand and she would always run after him,but would also give him a hard time.A few weeks ago he told her that they should be just friend, but he still called her everyday from my house.After i asked him,he stopped calling her at all.2 weeks past,he was at my place crying that he misses his ex-gf so much and they didnt talk for whole 2 weeks. Please,help me!!!!
2007-03-05 09:49:14 · 24 answers · asked by Mystery_gal 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He uses a phone card,so there is no influence on my phone bill. i figured she is far away and im here.so,what me and him have is real.what he and his gf have is just phone dating and i dont buy long-distance stuff
2007-03-05 10:04:01 · update #1
Sweetie he is just using you! You should get out of this relationship before it gets to serious. Talk about having his cake and eating it. He is using you. Why do you let him call his "other gf" from your house? If my boyfriend was doing that i wouldn't let him call her especially not in my house in front of me. I cant believe he started crying to you saying he still misses her, didn't you feel sad and upset that he is with you but misses his gf. I hope everything works out for you and you find someone who will not mess you around . Good luck sweetie
2007-03-05 10:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating on his g/f with you. You want him to leave her and you think he won't do the same to you someday? Also, if they are talking in another lanugage you don't understand, then you have no idea what he is telling her. For all you know, they may not be broken up. He just may not have called her for those 2 weeks. You need to get outta the middle. Knowing he had her at home to begin with you should not have been there to start with. If he was calling from your phone, you knew she was there. Remember what comes around goes around. You don't want that happening to you one day in a relationship. Don't help contribute to other's misery.
2007-03-05 18:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he was never true YOURS....I would just let him stay with her because it seems like he is trying to have his cake and eat it too. If he is with you why is he telling you that he misses her. Also why is it that he is calling her while supposedly being with you. This just doesnt sound right to me. Also if he loves you then Im sure he would respect you enough to end this other relationship. I believe you can do better and find someone that knows how to be faithful to just you. He truly needs to make up his mind because its not fair that your sitting here in the mix of things. Also it sounds like your the female on the side. Does his girlfriend at home know about you. If not and you only know about her then you are the female on the side and his main female is at home. I would say let it go unless you just like waiting to see what he wants to do next when it comes to you.
2007-03-05 17:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by babi_gurl513 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off , don't let a him call another bit** from your place. That is disrepectful. and then they speak in different languages so again that's disrespectful. Cut him out your life and move on. Sounds like he wants to use you for free phone calls.
2007-03-05 17:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by Miss G. H. Etto 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because your letting hm have is way with you. How would you feel if you were the other girl and you found out he was cheating on you with her? He doesn't love you dear, he's using you and there is a huge difference. I suggest you learn to respect yourself a lot more and tell his this guy its either you or her.
2007-03-05 17:59:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he cares more about this girl then you, you should so dump him and if he comes back to you, begging you say no because he knows you might be the next chick he cheats on.
2007-03-05 18:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by loveya1092 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And 1 day it will happen to you!!!!! wot gose around comes around!!!!!! if you found out that your boyfriend that you loved to pieces was cheating on you how would u feel???? dnt let him do it i feel 4 that gurl. kick him 2 the curb if he misses his x then uz just anit meant to be 2ghter and you will 4eva be jelouse and worryed about her SORRY
2007-03-05 18:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by ilovscotty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you let him run up your phone bill? Get rid of him. It rarely works when two people are from different cultures. Been there done that.
2007-03-05 17:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Something to think about,if he cheats on her with you,whats to stop him from cheating on you? Usually,not always, but once a cheater starts they cant stop.It's like a wild animal that gets that first taste of blood,they crave it and have to have it.
2007-03-05 17:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by rockman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he cares more about this girl than he does about you. He's only getting away with having two girlfriends because you're letting him get away with it. Dump him and let him figure out this mess himself. He's not going to leave her until you leave him.
2007-03-05 17:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋