ok, so theres me and my best friend who lives down the street from me. we have grown up together and have been best freinds our whole lives. overtime ive just fallen in love with her and find it hard to be just friends. we've both had relationships and we are okay with it. the thing is she doesnt like me back in the way i like her. i find it hard to talk to her and go to her house when i know my feelings are only one way. what should i do, keep being friends, or just end the friendship, for my own sake.
2007-03-05 09:31:18 · 12 answers · asked by nate-da-saint 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WOW I know how you feel...getting stuck in the friends zone...been there and it really sucks...but you really need to make a decision. Do you want her in your life as just a friend or not at all you see what i'm saying. Also sometimes you just gotta grit your teeth and hold on because if you really feel that she is the one than she is and one day she'll come around and have the same feelings as you are. For all you know she might have those feelings, but i've found out that sometimes it can be scary dating a really close friend because when you're just friends then it's easy to fight then get over it..but loving relationships can completely tear people apart and i think that sucks more than not getting to give them that kiss you've always wanted to give them or that romantic moment because you'll soon realize that you really don't want them in your life...but you need them!
2007-03-05 09:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by Comedian Man 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I was in the exact same situation 3 months ago. Except that I'm a girl. I liked this guy. He was and is my best friend. We go on camping trips. I used to try to get him to dance with me. Well, then I hadn't seen him in a few months and I asked him to come to the Homecoming Dance, at my school. Well, we went and we had a good time. But I figured that in his arms, once I was there, it wasn't where I wanted to be at all. We were more siblings, and we could never be lovers. I knew he didn't have feelings for me, but he took me anyway. Now, we know that we're siblings and he's one of my closest friends.
2007-03-05 17:42:02 · answer #2 · answered by Time goes by 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there done that, wasted many years dealing with that crap. Trust me you have to do something about this now, if you will fry your brain with what if's for a long time. Also you may be so pre-occupied with this that there may be your soul mate around and your not seeing her because your obsessed with your best friend, you may have blinders on. Confront your friend with your feelings, they will eventually come out anyway and if you do it know you will have control over what you say.....trust me you dont want this to come out during a drunken night or over the phone. You have to find out if she feels the same, if she does great!! Move ahead, if she doesnt take her word for it....move on. You can still be friends but untill you have fulling moved on you will have to keep your distance for awhile. In my case, I used to get calls from him talking about his hot dates and such.....it killed me inside. When you are comfortable, you can resume the friendship.....it may not be the same, but no friendship ever stays the same anyway. Good luck.
2007-03-05 17:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no friendship to end, since you have already done that by changing how you feel toward that person. Fact is she was never really your friend to begin with, you always wanted more just fail to realize it.
Tell her how you feel but be ready to move on if she doesn't feel the same. It would be better that way.
2007-03-05 17:36:16 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be selfash of you to just end the friendship cause she doesn't have the same feelings about you. I think the only real reason you should do that is when you get to the point where you feel too much for that you can't be just friends....... or if you really feel that she is taking your feeling for granted.........I would say that you are the best judge of how far you will let yourself be drawn in to her with no feeling back.... Just remember that it you feel this strongly with her in your life... imagin how it would feel if you still liked her and she wasn't there!!!!
2007-03-05 17:39:53 · answer #5 · answered by Lordes D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't loss a friend over hard feeling's when she has nothing to do with it. it's in your hands and in your feeling's. SO it's for YOUR own sake because you trying to make something out of nothing & it seems as if you don't get what you want you rather loss her as a friend and make seem it's between both of your when it's really you.Keep her as a friend..if somthing come's of it later then take it from there.
2007-03-05 17:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are going to be able to just end the friendship if your feelings are that strong. You are just going to have to accept the fact that she does not care about you in those terms. Don't ruin a good long lasting friendship because of it. Easier said then done, I know. Believe me, I really do know.
2007-03-05 17:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by Speedy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wish I could Help, I'm in the same situation with my friend, but I tried asking him out and all I got was a "I can't say yes to that just yet" so I'd say flirt with her a lil and wait to see how she reacts, if it's positive. then by means go for it.
Sometimes friends are the best to be with in relationship b.c they know how to deal with you, and your open with them all ready about problems, and they all ready wait with open arms
2007-03-05 17:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by Redfox 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
look ask her out again. tell her you relle love her. and that you can not go on anylonger without her. also tell her that look i relle like you and that i can not control my feelings for you and i understand that you do not want to go out with me but i still will not understand. i was just wondering if we could hold off being friends for a while until i get my thoughts straight.
2007-03-05 17:36:05 · answer #9 · answered by kelly s 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you should wait a lil while to c what will happen and then see the results to see if she likes u or not. if she doesnt maybe tell her how u feel and if ur cool stay friends til then
2007-03-05 17:35:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋