My ex-girlfriend of 9 mths broke up with me 6 weeks ago. We haven't had any contact for 1 mth. I decided to not contact her to give her some space.
I was thinking I would contact her in the next few days to "test the waters".
She contacted me a few days ago. She said hi & that it had occurred to her she owed me some money and could she call me to discuss. I am not fussed about her giving me the money.
I said I was fine and asked how she was and told her she didn't need to give me money. She replied and said she was fine and that she had a dvd of mine & suggested she bring it round to me.
I didn't know what to do really so suggested we speak on the phone in the next couple of days.
Is she interested or is it just about letting me have the dvd back? I don't know what to make of it?
I want her back but don't want to be too pushy. What do I do?
I am thinking her coming over might not be the best thing but something neutral like coffee might help me sound her out?
2007-03-05 09:26:09 · 10 answers · asked by hantsguy1977 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
jesus!! just let her call with the dvd. she wants you back!!! big time and when she does ask her if she wants a coffee and take it from there.
2007-03-05 09:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both separated for a reason. You must understand this will bring back old feeling open wounds that may not even have fully healed. And that reason, is it still there? You have to understand you broke up because the relationship was broken. is it fixable? It's not going to be easy for you that's for sure. What ever you decide to do make sure it in your best interest 9 months is long enough to developer a significant amount of feelings for someone. learn from what went wrong the first time, and correct what you can. Good luck to you.
2007-03-05 09:39:18 · answer #2 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...Face it dude...she still has sparks for you reasonably...and she's using the formality of a dvd to try to get to see you originally. You're kinda smart though...ain't you? She wouldn't be bothering with some silly dvd thing otherwise. I'm not saying curiosity in anyone kills the cat though. She's making a play for you dude...she misses you without telling you so. This stuff doesn't register with some of us guys sometimes reasonably....we're just guys after all. Get busy dude...she wants you seriously...just don't make it look so obvious....until you both toss your clothes off or something. Make up sex is pretty darned special any way's...as long as it's with someone you truly care about with sincerity. Get busy partner...before you talk yourself out of it foolishly. Best regards to both of you two....
2007-03-05 09:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to get your hopes up, she may just want to give you the things back to make a clean start. On the other hand she still may have feelings for you but not the same way as you did when you were caught-in, take things steady and dont assume that she wants you back, by all means carry on talking to her as friends do and see where you both want to be either as friends or lovers. Good luck.
2007-03-05 09:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm..... sounds like she wants you back, but go with your gut instinct! There's only you that knows what went on before, but you obviously still think about each other if you have continued texting for 8 months after you split up. Meet somewhere neutral and see what vibes you get there....if the ching ching is still there then I'm sure you will both get a happy ending x
2007-03-05 09:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by squeegy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put too much thought into it. Allow her to give you back this DVD and meet her in public. Only she knows why she really contacted you and if you want to know, just ask. Only way you will get an answer. Good luck!
2007-03-05 09:35:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coffee sounds good. Tell her to meet you there. Sounds like she's finding any excuse to see you again alright! Maybe she wants to tell you she's sorry for taking you for granted & she was wrong. Don't let her slip back in so easy! I'm sure you have things you don't ever want to happen again! You should never chase after her anyway! Good thing she contacted you first! Don't let her know you were going to call her up! Let her sulk before you jump in so hastilly!
2007-03-05 09:33:17 · answer #7 · answered by lisalikes70scheese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants you back but doesn't want to say so in case you don't want her. Get your finger out for goodness sake! Why oh why do people play games instead of saying how they feel. Tell her you want her back before she finds someone else.
2007-03-05 10:20:19 · answer #8 · answered by Sandee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your stuff back (if you can) and get rid of her. She's lonely and knows you're available.
2007-03-05 09:32:45 · answer #9 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your coffee and ask her.
2007-03-05 09:32:16 · answer #10 · answered by Trauemer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋