The other day, one of my best friends and I were in my bedroom having a "girl talk"... talking about our boyfriends and boy problems and college everything. She told me something very funny and it reminded me about something my bf told me about himself that was fricken hilarious, but it's something I shouldn't have shared with anybody (cuz it's kinda embaressing on his part). And come to find, BOTH of our bf's were outside my bedroom door listening to EVERYTHING... My bf heard what I told her, and said he didn't care, but I feel like a horrible person, because I know I would have been livid if I were him. It makes me sick to think that he trusts me enough to tell me his secrets, then I went and told one of my friends about one I thought was funny. I feel like ****, I almost want him to be mad at me, but he thinks its nothing and says he isnt at all mad about it. Should I just forget about it??
2007-03-05 09:24:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont think you should forget about it as its a lesson learned.
However I think if you were to sit down with your boyfriend, apologise to him and say that you realise you were out of order, then once he has accepted your apology you close the subject. Just respect his privicy and trust in you in future and consider yourself lucky!
2007-03-05 09:29:09 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, until he says that it really upset him, I would leave it alone. Since you feel bad about it, if you can find other ways to repent (if you're religious) or make it up to him without sitting down and talking about it (get him a small present and an apology card?) that might help your own soul out.
But if he said it doesn't bother him, you don't want to push a conversation about it onto him, because that might bother him even more. You might find out it's just not a big deal to him, and then you learn a life lesson for next time, don't worry that he's not mad. If he really is mad and is just playing it cool, eventually he'll crack some other way and have it out with you. Just be wary of warning signs like him being short-tempered over silly things. Otherwise, just let it go and don't do it again.
2007-03-05 09:32:18 · answer #2 · answered by Slacker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly he probably does care a little bit, but he doesnt want you to freak out like you are now so he's saying that it doesnt matter. See i'm a guy and what i know is that when you really love someone you're not going to let something stupid like this interfere in your relationship. Not only that but EVERYBODY tells other people's secrets, so it probably didn't shock him too much. Anyway what i'm trying to say is that even if he does care he's going to get over it because if he wasn't then he would've already acted like a huge jerk and went too far so i'm sure that he's going to let it pass so you definitely need to as well.
2007-03-05 09:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by Comedian Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he's really ok with it, then you should move on, but, you don't want it to bite you in the butt. Later in life if you're fighting, he could throw it back at you. Just let him know you feel bad, and you won't let it happen again. DON'T let it happen again. Hopefully he really means it when he says it's no big deal.
2007-03-05 09:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by MentalCaseMaggot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't have a problem with it, then move on. But, intimate secrets with a mate should be kept between you and him only, but that is if he told you not to tell anyone. So, if he told you to keep it between you two, then don't say a word. Keep it to yourself and no one else.
2007-03-05 09:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...that's a tough situation but if it didn't bother him then don't worry about it and let it slide..don't stress girl! but on your part try to be a little more careful with what you say
2007-03-05 09:28:05 · answer #6 · answered by Mandie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has forgiven you, let it go and move on.
But remember how it made you feel so that you won't be tempted to tell secrets again!
2007-03-05 09:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by Annette R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...nothing worse for somone who sez its no big deal...than to have someone continue to act guilty and weird instead of moving on like they clearly have done...although if he uses it against you later he has to own what he said.
2007-03-05 09:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by duras 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have forgiven you but he will never forget that you betrayed his trust.
2007-03-05 09:29:33 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! Remind me not to tell you any secrets. YOU CAN'T BE TRUSTED
2007-03-05 09:29:01 · answer #10 · answered by nemraC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋