why am i the least favored kid in the family?
every time i want to go visit my 24 year old sister i always get squeezed out of the plan so that i don't get to go.
one time my brother went to the mall with his friends and got his ears pierced and his hair died. when he came home my mom said she was proud of him for making grown up decisions. when i asked if i could do the same, my mom went ballistic. (it wouold be maybe a once in a year thing if I could go to the mall as a tag along...
I'm just tired of hearing my brothers and sisters hearing: "you did a good job." or, : " I'm so proud of you!"
as when i do the same thing i get into trouble. what should i do?
2007-03-05 09:22:42 · 8 answers · asked by james b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
u need to make some decisions for Ur self and prove to them that u r a grown up now..... change the way u talk make Ur voice seem more stable loud and reasonable....... trust Ur self truthfully if u cann't act it until u r truly sure of ur abilities....... stick to new adult hobbies like reading or written....... show them Ur full potential and change the way u treat them .... they will change towards u...... it's simple if u want to be loved and appreciated among Ur family show them success in all fields possible... they will come around
2007-03-05 09:49:59 · answer #1 · answered by enasshalaan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents treat every kid differently. And, you have to learn to not take it personally or else it will just cause you to be resentful towards your family later on. You need to tell your family though, how you are feeling. Most parents honestly don't know what they are doing. I know mine don't and once I let them know how they were favoring my other siblings, they started to change a bit. It didn't completely change, but I think letting them know was the best thing I could do for myself. It was almost as if by saying something I was making a statement that I was important and deserve equal treatment, which is what all anyone wants for themselves.
2007-03-05 09:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I think your parents are just a little too busy to notice they haven't told you what you need to hear. As for copying your brothers and sisters, don't do it. Do something of your own. Something that is YOU. But not something bad. Something good and something that you want to do anyway, and something that expresses who you really are. If they don't notice that, then at least you will be proud of yourself for doing something original and right for you.
I think your parents love you more than you realize. It might be a good idea to tell them you love them and would like more time with them. That should get their attention!
Best wishes, dear!
2007-03-05 09:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by martinmagini 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with all of your family and have a talk. Like an intervention. If things don't change Rebel, I normally steer people away from doing these things but in problems like this I give a thumbs up.
2007-03-05 09:27:49 · answer #4 · answered by Hoodie Hood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes i feel the same way, but they probably dont want to leave you out--or mean to. if u r the yungest, that culd b why--u r the baby in ther eyes and they dont wanna see that change. just let them kno that u feel like ur treated differently and tell them that u think it's time u make adult decisions and u wuld like to hav a socail life. maybe it'll work, maybe it wont. good luck.
2007-03-05 09:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by iheartme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you adopted or a stepson? I'm wondering. Is she really your mother? Or maybe because you're too young? At any rate, your mom is a bit rough on you. Talk to your dad; he knows her better than anyone of us here. Good luck kiddo! Hug.
2007-03-05 10:57:10 · answer #6 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, well you should say to your parents that hey how come when they do this and that it's cool but when I do it, it's like no one cares, I feel like there is a problem, like did I do something wrong or something. Just try to express yourself as best you can, don't keep those feelings bottled up. It must be hard, very hard on you but just work yourself up and say something about that.
Chow.
2007-03-05 09:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be you need to sit your family down and tell them how you feel and then listen to what they are saying, because it could be that your family is just so use to you doing o.k that they feel As if you can't handle any thing that you want to do so just sit them down and talk about how you feel
GOOD LUCK!!!!
2007-03-05 09:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋