I'm a single, 24 year old guy who is really lonely. I'm a good-looking guy, intelligent, articulate, and I'm ready to start dating and get into a committed relationship again. Where do I go to meet new single women if bars/clubs aren't my scene? Second question is what would a man come up to you and say at one of these places to get you interested and curious about him and go out with him? Pointers? The more specicific the better...really tired of being single. Thanks!
2007-03-05 09:20:29 · 10 answers · asked by chrissexysmile 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you have to get into the mind of girl and go where we like to be - plays, movies, ballets, the park, concerts, festivals, etc. I am willing to bet there are a SLEW of single chicks there! And, the fact that you are there, doing what most men won't do, will make you even more marketable!
Now, as for the "line" - that will get you shot down from the get go. Your best bet is to approach a girl that you find attractive, tell her that you noticed her from across the room and wanted to come over to see if she was single. This is very respectful and flattering. If she is single and interested, she will let you know.
2007-03-05 09:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I'm a 24 year old, single female, who doesn't like bars either. Therefore, I feel I'm in a position to give decent advice on this matter... lol
First off, if you are intelligent, you will be drawn to women likewise. Intelligent women see through the bull. So don't use lines, unless they are so hideously horrible that it's obviously a joke. I find it suspicious if a guy sounds too practiced, i.e. like he's used the lines before, or that he read them out of a book. It tells me that he's scared or hiding something. I'd rather a guy be nervous, and just talk to me like a person, than try to make some kind of show of it.
As for where to meet women, the best way to meet people is to go to places you enjoy being. For example, if you like bookstores, hang out at your favorite one.. Keep an eye out for women who are looking at books in sections you enjoy. I guarantee you, there are women for every genre! This makes it easy, and establishes a common interest prior to even talking... Makes for a great conversation starter... This can work in music stores, at the mall, at a coffee house, just about anywhere. Don't go outside your comfort zone, because it will create more awkwardness.
Basically, be yourself. Don't be afraid to go out on a limb. Don't be scared of the girl shrugging you off or the inevitability that some will have boyfriends. The best way to break out of singledom is to be open to all possibilities. Good luck!
2007-03-05 09:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by Lynn G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Well, you are on the right track as far as not wanting to meet a girl in a bar.. that's usually nothing but trouble or a dead end. I think the best places are just places you enjoy being (because then you have something in common) or places you go everyday (grocery store, gas station, etc). The best way to get a girl interested (me anyway) is to say something funny. Just make a joke about something stupid that maybe you are both looking at, or something that is going on around you. After you both have a laugh shake her hand and say "hi! I'm ___ " That would do it for me.
Good Luck!
2007-03-05 09:26:56 · answer #3 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you in College? That might be a start, you may find a girl like yourself there, or if that's not you then just go out for a walk or something when you see that girl you want to try and hit it off with go for it, I met so many of my old boyfriends just cruisin down the street on a nice summer evening. Now I have the love of my life and we met through a homeless person, starnge I know, but **** happens.
2007-03-05 09:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, if you're still single and are ready for a committed relationship, I say... your #1 hasn't shown up yet!!! Just kidding... Don't be picky!! You'll never know that the girl right beside you may be the one. Look, if you approach a woman, DON'T SCARE HER!! Don't be too direct that's even more scaring!! Just be yourself and relax. A girl will like you for who you are, not a fake one. Introduce yourself after you make her laugh or after you make an impact on her. Just keep your eyes out and stop being picky and maybe you'll see a the GIRL. And if she's not into you..... she's just not into you dude!!
2007-03-05 09:32:30 · answer #5 · answered by lAVi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use the dating sites. I don't go to bars/clubs either. I like it cause you can get to know the person a little before you actually go out and see if you have anything in common.
2007-03-05 09:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you go to college ?try a restaurant stay going there for a while watch the singles and buy them a drnk or somthing sometime and do me a fovor dont try a dating web site they are B.S.
id go out with you my self but im taken .But if i ever get sick of my boy freind ill always have you in mind O.K.?and if that doesnt work just E-mail me and ill set you up with one of my freinds or someone in my school...E-MAil:sleeping_beuty1992@yahoo.com
2007-03-05 09:41:23 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Univers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cafés.....parks, theaters. just the past couple days I've had to wait for friends in cafés and you'd be surprised how many guys struck up a conversation just cause we were both sitting next to each other having nothing in particular to do but wait.
2007-03-05 11:11:44 · answer #8 · answered by papaya tree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
library or museum! just ask something about the place or a book or a piece of art. do try a club though your chances maybe better. just be yourself
2007-03-05 09:25:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry i am taken...
2007-03-05 09:23:58 · answer #10 · answered by rebel5689 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋