I am a single mum , 3 sons (10 13 &14) , 2 sons are unwell , one has ocd and depression the other has alopecia , i work part time as well ... do u ever feel like i do ?
The alarm went off this morning and i just thought oh god here we go again ... i know it will pass it always does , but do any of u others get like it ???
2007-03-05 09:18:50 · 24 answers · asked by jizzumonkey 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Hi Ladies ... thank u sooo much for all of your replies , its nice to know that i am not alone ... the problem i have is deciding who to give the points to so i am going to have to leave it up to the general public to decide ... once again thank u all so much ... xox
2007-03-07 01:24:48 · update #1
Laides and gent i meant opps ...
2007-03-07 01:25:20 · update #2
My mother in law had the same problem. She made house rules and had a reward system in place. Sometimes she did want to strangle her oldest (my husband) or the middle kid, mainly because they always ganged up on the youngest. But she got through it all three are successful and one has a baby on the way.
Hang in there.
2007-03-05 09:24:08 · answer #1 · answered by kittenbrower 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
In answer to your first question - yes! I have been a single parent for near on 10 years now and i do get tired of having to be both parents. My sons father wont give me a penny and i have had to work since my son was one year old just to make ends meet. It is hard to be mummy / daddy / full time worker and housekeeper 24 hours a day and at times its extremely stressful and as much as i love my son, sometimes i have felt like running away. Thankfully, you find the strength to carry on through it and you need to remember that as much as it seems like this is the only life you will know, it wont last forever and you can look back and give yourself a pat on the back for bringing up your lovely children single handedly. Feel proud of yourself when you are starting to feel low. Every coin has a flip side. Wishing you all the best. X
2007-03-06 10:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All the time. I'm not a single parent but I do do everything and I mean everything! Instead of having two sons I tell people I have three kids two boys and a husband, he is just as bad as the kids i.e leaves wet towels on bathroom floor, dirty underwear next to the bed, he doesn't know how to make a bed. Infact the kids do more because they do HOMEWORK! I get away from it all by having a girls night out once a month and even then I take the kids to their nans for the night. But I gotta hand it to you, you've got a lot more on your plate than I have, you must be one good mum to cope with all that. Best of luck for you and your sons in the future. xxx
2007-03-05 17:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you, cause it is the hardest job in the world and thats doing it with a partner never mind on your own. I am a single mum but my two eldest are 30 and 25, but I have a 12 year old at home so I know how tiring it can be. I didnt want to get out of my bed this morning but like you said we have to. Your sons sound like they have stress related illnesses and I would like to think you have been offered help for them and yourself, and not too much medication. I hope you get a break now and again or else you will go crazy. Tell you something a lot of dads have a lot to answer for, when its us mums left to carry on with all the hard work. Give yourself a pat on the back love, and WELL DONE. When your sons are older they will appreciate what you have done for them and hopefully will look after you then, hope so.
2007-03-05 17:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by janeybest 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I have read all the preceding answers and now here is the practical advice, Get some professional assistance with the boy who has OCD. Ask for some respite from your local services, make sure you have 30 mins every day at some time for yourself, rope in your family and get them to help, if no family ask a neighbour or friend. Make sure you are not run down and take your vitamins. If you are not coping at all or it is getting harder then see your GP about your stress levels. Get them to join the local sports clubs and make sure they have lots of activities to go to. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, just dont let them blow the candle out!!
2007-03-05 18:12:30 · answer #5 · answered by boomedly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you. I have 2 children of my own and I also take care of my Step daugther. I know that it is a little different because I have my husband is here, but believe me the only thing he does it bring home the money. He doesn't help clean or give baths. I take care of his and his ex-wifes daugther more then they do and it gets old really fast. There are some days that I would like to pull every hair I've got in my head out. You need to find some time for yourself that is the only way that you will have any mind frame.
2007-03-05 19:57:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mary 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not single but I am a stay at home mom
I take care of their every need (I have a 3 and 1yr old) all day and night. My husband works all day...and I've got to keep the house clean and make food for him while taking care of my little ones and then he comes home from work and doesn't help me take care of them....even on weekends when he is not working, he watches tv or stays on the internet and won't at least watch the 3yr old so that I could have a lighter load than usual and on top of that, is if that were not enough, his twin brother lives here(and has ever since we got married 4yrs ago) with his new fiance and they make a mess as well, like my husband (you know, stuff like dirty dishes everywhere, clothes all over the place and don't clean up after themselves, don't even offer to help with dishes or cooking...etc)......so yes I do get fed up!!!!!!!
Mostly I'm fed up that my husband can at least help me take care of the little ones on his day off and I'm fed up with his brother living here and acting as if he is a guest....his lazy butt should help pay for stuff, like at least groceries, around here and him and his lazy butt fiance should get jobs so then they could move out and get their own place and their own automobiles, instead of using ours cause they don't ever pay for gas and they go joy riding all day and night and should be picking up after themselves, not making more of a mess than my children make!
2007-03-05 17:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes but you have to remember your basic love for your children. I would do anything for my son, he always comes first. Obviously your going through a depression moment (you may need to see a doctor for some antidepressents or alternately brandy helps) it happens a lot at first but after time it will disappear and you get to a stage where yourself doesn't matter. Your life is your kids and you dont worry about what you are missing out on it simply doesn't matter. The kids are important and need to have the best life possible.
2007-03-05 17:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by jennifer W 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your not alone, i feel the same, everyday is a struggle, one thing after another after another, the feeling passes for a while but usually returns, the past 3 years have been like groundhog day for me, at times i feel like im going crazy. the only thing that keeps me sain is my son. and dont you just love the compliments about what a lovely child you have, thats the good part, thinking i did that all by myself, it was a stuggle but i do the best i can. its perfectly normal to feel like that, i know its easier said then done but try to make sometime for yourself. that 1 night i have every 3 months really does help!
2007-03-05 17:32:34 · answer #9 · answered by ROXY 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard bein a single mom as im 17 with a 5 month old. but u seem to have handled things really well so far . god doesn't give a man more than he can bear. u will be fine just keep ur head up and be strong. take care x x x
2007-03-05 18:03:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋