i'm 15 and can't find the right boyfriend. What should i do?

Question

i light skin and very pretty. but the thing is i'm also very muscular.boys get imtimidated by me. now i'm single.

Answer 1

if boys dont like you now, they will soon. teenagers are easily intimidated by muscly girls but you'll soon find lots of guys find it attractive. just be patient and wait for the right guy, don't force anything with the wrong guy or even a mediocre guy. do NOT settle.

Answer 2

In other hand, you are a black female, goodlooking, and athletic. You want men.

What my mother's answer would be is to show your girlish side, but in some other way. Indulge your love of fancy hair ornaments, painter shirts, and long skirts. Read poetry in public, openly sigh over puppies and little kids. Hang around whatever church your family attends (or go on a religious kick if they don't, and find one of your own!) and volunteer for everything. Get involved in whatever school activities will get you around people in general.

When you're around boys, don't make anything a contest. Ask for help on your algebra homework, or for repairs on your bicycle. Ask "What do you think?" a dozen times a conversation. Listen, and at least act as if you're going to act on what they say.

If all else fails, remember. You're 15. You don't need a fellow (unless socially) until you're 20, if you plan on kids, and if you don't, not at all!

Answer 3

If you really wanted you could accentuate your more feminine characteristics with clothes, make up, mannerisms etc. etc. Of course this would make you more appealing to the opposite sex. However to find what you really want you should try and meet with guys that will respect you for yourself. Especially if you like being athletic, if a guy is intimidated by that and you like this guy then try to soften up and show him a "weaker" side of yourself so that he'll have the confidence to ask you out. Or you could express a public interest in him, however be warned that if it's too blatant he might also think you're desperate. Just try and do things that would make him think he has a chance with you and will make him realize that there is nothing to be scared of.

Answer 4

Honey, if ANY woman could answer that question at any age, she'd be a genius. We women have been looking for the right boyfriend our whole lives. All I can tell you is to keep trying - trial and error. That's the way dating works and it sucks but that's just the way it goes.

However, if you feel that you are really meeting guys that are downright bad for you, then you have to change the way you are meeting guys, or where you are meeting them. The only way to change your situation is to CHANGE the situation - stop looking in all the same places and try something different - like special interest clubs, athletic clubs, library, church or school events. You sound like a nice girl - you should have no problem meeting nice guys - you just have to keep a keen eye out for them.

Good luck!!

Answer 5

Relax. A lot. If you get too hung up about finding the right, or finding a boyfriend you'll probably just end up putting yourself in situations where you get hurt. Granted getting hurt is part of learning, but try to keep in mind you're relatively pretty young (proably only started to become really interested fairly recently).

The best relationships you'll find won't be from guys you meet and just are instantly attracted to. I mean they might, but the fact is you don't know someone you just met and therefore the best relationships are built off of solid friendships. If you're interested in finding someone who is 'right' for you, I suggest doing other things, join sports teams, clubs, do activities which have nothing to do with dating and just meet people and have fun. Why I suggest activities which are unrelated to dating is because dating activities tend to lead to a feeling of expectation, you go to these things thinking you will hook up and therefore feel a failure if you don't, as a result you end up with less then stellar relationships.

Anyway, good luck and try not to worry about it.

Answer 6

Why is it that all these young girls are so hard pressed to have a BF? Life is NOT what you see on television and 15 year old shouldn't be stressing over not having the right BF. The purpose of dating is to find a husband and at 15, your not at the point yet. So, why are you trying to rush it???

Answer 7

Hey Buddy,
Why do u need a boy friend at this age .. U have lot of time to do that .. jus do what mama and papa tells u till u become 18 . and also dont forget to reduce ur self . u can be a very awesome female by 18 ..

Luv
Peter

Answer 8

There are women much older that can't find the right man - don't wait for them, have fun and try not to think about it, you've definitely got a lot of time ahead of you for dating. That's great you have an athletic build, you're going to love it even better when you get older.

Answer 9

i'm 36 and can't find the right woman...

focus on school and not on the need to have a bf, it will be much healthier for you now and in your future.

while it seems that in high school every little thing matters like the world depends on it, after you've graduated and grown a little, you'll realize how much a joke it was/is.

Answer 10

If guys are too intimidated to date you because you are muscular then they are just immature. Wait for a couple years and a guy will come to you but dont change what you are so you can have guys swarming all over you now enjoy life for what its worth at this point and eventually someone will come to you.