i really like this guy.
ive liked him for about 2 months.
hes hurt me about 2wice before, but now he says he "really loves me" he treats me soooo good. were not going out or anything but we do some "sexual" things and we talk on the phone alot. he tells me he loves me and always makes me smile. im just really afraid of getting hurt. and idk if i should be afraid, or just go for it. help?
2007-03-05 09:15:03 · 21 answers · asked by JEn K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I LEFT OUT THE FACT THAT WE NEVER HAD SEX. IM 14 WE JUST MAKE OUT AND STUFF.
i didnt mean "sexual" as sex, sorry!
2007-03-05 09:24:15 · update #1
u never know what will happen...
2007-03-05 09:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by rebel5689 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you love somebody that has hurt you twice in a short time and also have sex with him? You were hurt twice before and if you are afraid of getting hurt again, break away from him. There are plenty of other guys that would like to court you. But, the way you worded the question looks like you are not ready for a relationship. Wait awhile. You will know when Mr. Right comes along and he in turn will know he has found Miss Right.
2007-03-05 09:23:09 · answer #2 · answered by Yafooey! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know what love is? Do you know what love is?
I am sitting back looking at your question over and over. Wanting to answer this to every detail BUT knowing would this really help you.
Quick and simple, A wise young women once told me. When I was at one time in the same situation as you.
"Never go back with your past, if it did not work the first, second time then it will never work in the future"
Your instinct is telling you what you should do, listen, don't confuse it with any other emotions.
What sort of help do you think you need?
Why do you think you need help?
Is he that irresistible?
Has he been the only one for you?
2007-03-05 09:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by Tazz H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to love your self before you can love anybody else. From what I read you are having sex with someone who your not dating. Sounds like you need to step back from this and take a look in the mirror. Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. Trust and honor are. Do you really think this guy loves you when he wont make the commitment to call you his girl but comes to you when he wants some.
2007-03-05 09:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's all on you, sweetheart. Honestly, I'd say head for the hills. It sounds like this guy likes using you as a "jump-off"- a girl he can always count on to be there for him when the ladies he's really trying to get aren't giving him any play. I don't think that someone who would hurt a girl twice is gonna change permenantly- he probably can't find anyone else at the moment.
2007-03-05 09:20:06 · answer #5 · answered by TooMuch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would use extreme caution.Chances are he is using you for sex.
If a man is not willing to marry you and does marry you first he shouldnt be having sex with you.Please be careful.Realtionships based on sex rarely if every work out and all pain is an extreme factor.I am seeing the very same thing going on in a relationship my son is in right now.
2007-03-05 09:20:49 · answer #6 · answered by Buck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first of all why does he say that he loves you when you say that hes hurt you twice before. sometimes guys will say anything for some sexual things but dont take it in a bad way okay.it normal for you to be afraid of him hurting you. but if you know what type of guy he is then you shouldnt be afraid. if you really like him then give him another chance.
2007-03-05 09:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by latraviesa0816 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...Hmmmm...???...let's see here now! Hmmmm...!!! He's hurt you twice before...say's he NOW really loves you deeply,...you two both do some sexual stuff together...but yet you two still are NOT going out together,...yet still he always makes you smile? Geezez Mother Sweet Mary Jesus!!!.....HUN?.....I'd be very afraid. In fact...I'd be so afraid I'd stop doing anything with him completely. He's using you darling...plain and simply using and abusing your mentality and your body here in the process too! I say "can it with this guy immediately babe". .....and you go see your therapist too. Something 's not right with you here hun. Go find out what it is though....cause it smells like scum.....your love interest guy that is...Yikes!!!
2007-03-05 09:28:53 · answer #8 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously enjoying the no strings arrangement that you guys have going on and if you ask him for more, he will more than likely hurt "AGAIN". You just need to stay away from him and stop doing things with him. Find someone who will really care for you
2007-03-05 09:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by triste_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well love is pain. and sometimes u do have to take risks. but in this case he has hurt u twice so giving him a 3RD chance is very risky. but hey nobody can really tell u what to do. if u feel that he has changed then go ahead and give him a chance. but just keep ur eyes open but not ur heart so much. keep ur eyes open
2007-03-05 09:29:35 · answer #10 · answered by prchik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. But think about what he did to you and play hard to get instead of letting him get what he wants. If you don't get sexual and play hard to get, you'll find out whether he REALLY likes you or if he's just a player. Best of luck!!
2007-03-05 09:20:50 · answer #11 · answered by lovin' it 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋