I'm an attractive guy, built very well, sensitive, nice, caring, and have a lot of love to give. I keep getting hurt. Why do women lie to me? What is it about me that this keeps happening? I am honest, faithful, and attentive. Lately I have felt used and worthless, what do I do?
2007-03-05 09:14:09 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
*****? I guess I failed to mension my 2 state Golden Gloves championships, and the fact that I served 3 years in the US Army and am now a disabled veteran.
2007-03-05 09:20:06 · update #1
The problem with most young women today is they were taught what true love is from Soap Operas. The definition of love in these shows is what the Greeks call "eros". This love is greedy, all consuming, jealous, self loathing which mirrors as mega ego and many other "not too nice" words describing human behavior. They are selfish and self serving and act like they are princesses who deserve a bad boy imaged man who is you behind closed doors.
This is a real shame.
In the 50's women were taught that they come last after their husbands and children. In the 30s and 40s it was about trying to survive and before that women were just property.
The way they act today is a slingshot opposite to the past. It should swing around with education and positive role models in the media. Should is the operative word there. I have little hope for the future of humanity because of the shear numbers. We are breeding in stupidity, selfishness, unhealthy bodies and minds by the way we interact.
Imagine if half the men in the world were as you describe yourself....the crime rate would drop...women wouldn't be killing their abusive husbands....the world would be a better place...and yet....there you sit ignored and alone.
It's a shame.
I suggest you read a book called "Women who love too much". It is a book for women about women but to understand women better, you need to get into their heads. These cobwebed scary places will tell you a lot about what to do with the next "miss possible".
Good luck and please...read the book. You can get it from Amazon.com.............share it with your friends and family and you can thank me later.
2007-03-05 10:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by mrscmmckim 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I meet so many guys who are absolutely convinced they are the proverbial "nice guy" finishing last... but after a few dates, they turn out to be not really so nice after all... but needy, insecure, demanding, oversensitive, etc. But we'll assume you're a genuinely nice guy.
Don't assume that this is something they are doing purposefully to you - 99% of what people do has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with themselves and their own issues. You might be Mr. Perfect... but you can't be everybody's Mr. Perfect! You're just not meant to be with these specific women, and that's just the ways things are, not anybody's fault.
Also, ask yourself WHY you keep ending up with these women? What quality do they have in common that you are so drawn to? Do you find yourself always playing the hero or sympathetic shoulder to their drama queen or little girl lost? Look for patterns, find what's unhealthy about them, and then start to break those patterns.
2007-03-05 09:24:26 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you're too nice, and the mean girls know this and take advantage of you. Keep your radar out and choose a girl that is nice, like you. If you know she already has a bad reputation, learn from that and don't go out with her.
Don't spill out your life story in 2 dates. Know your standards and values and don't let them change it. Know what you will stand for and what you won't. Don't pick the first girl that comes along-be choosy and wise. Be friends with them first the next time until you get to know them better.
And then don't rush into things like moving in together, getting married, or buying her lavish gifts. She should like you for YOU, plain and simple, and if she's unsatisfied with that, leave.
2007-03-05 09:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by Niki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have had some bad relationships with women and now that you are single again, you are pondering as to why. The first step is not to think about what is wrong with you. Ever stop to think, what could be wrong with them. Why do they lie? Not all women are the same and someday you will see that. You will find that woman who values you for you. Sounds like you have many wonderful qualities. Be yourself and no one else. If they can't see past your exterior, then they aren't worth your time. Might be time to start playing hardball and stick to your guns. Once someone lies to you, end it. Not worth prolonging as it will continue to bring you heartache. Good luck and happy dating!
2007-03-05 09:22:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, I have the same problem with guys, they lie and lie and lie! what is your problem? why do you men lie and break hearts?
I guess its just the matter of the time to find that perfect one for ourselves! You and I tent to find ( fall in love) with the wrong people! its not that all the women are like that, I dont lie or cheat, I am sensitive, yet the guys that I meet are liers and heartbreakers! =(
2007-03-05 09:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by Scorpio Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you clingy? It sounds like that may be the case. If you always want to know whaere she's at & what she's doing, always want to be be her side, she may feel like she has no freedom. You have to give her space & take your own space & time for you as well. If you're too pushy, or clingy, they may lie so they don't have to tell you no to something, or maybe they just don't want you there. Ladies do need their own things. They won't lie to you if you don't corner them or pressure them too much that there's really no other way out. Find someone who really likes you for who you are, but remember to give her her own space to be herself. See who she is. Let her talk to you openly. Don't judge her, or give your opinion when it's not asked for. A little insecurity is easy to see. Remind yourself that you have to let her be her & not stand in her way, be supportive of it!
2007-03-05 09:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by lisalikes70scheese 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because you let them. You teach people how to treat you so these nasty women know how to take advantage of you and you sit there and take it. When you project out that you feel used and worthless, the kind of women you will attract will be those that use you and make you feel worthless.
2007-03-05 09:18:09 · answer #7 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, u sound exactly like me, the same thing has been happening to me all my life, I get the finest women, treat them like gold and they always end up leaving me crying and depressed and I do everything for them, they seem to be the sweetest women at first but in the end they turn into a cold-hearted demon, don't get it, selfish chicks man!!!
2015-07-29 06:54:31 · answer #8 · answered by Timmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe women see you as vulnerable. Maybe you're too nice, caring and sweet. Sure, those are great assests but maybe you go a little overboard. Try to come off as more confident and sure of yourself and women will probably take you more seriously.
2007-03-05 09:19:06 · answer #9 · answered by aka goddess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay I honor your both apperence and your personility. But no offence it sounds to me that you seems to think a liitle much pride of your self since you put all your looks and charms and all that. Trust me some women sees that as your weakness. And I believe that may be the reason why.
2007-03-05 09:19:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋