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Hi, i am a school student. I have straight A's in school, am part of some school organizations and got almost a 2000 when I first took the PSAT and above a 1900 when I took a practice SAT. After I come home from school I start studying at around 5 pm and go all the way to around 12 am or 1 am or 2 am. However, my parents are still not satisfied. EVerytime I do something for fun they say "You're not studying". My Dad says its not the total score for the SAT that counts and that although my essays are good so I get most points from them I need to work REAL hard on my critical reading and math section. But I tell him, I DO work alot, most of my friends got REALLY low when they first took the SAT and I've got to work little to bring it a little up. But still they say "You dont work hard enough." I love music and play guitar in local concerts on weekends. They hint for me to give it up. I dont understand. I tried to tell them but they dont either. What should I do?

Answer 1

From the looks of it, you seem to be doing okay with your standardized testing. I assume your GPA is at least average, and you got good ideas for your essay. You need to allot some time to develop your other talents as well as your social traits in order to be the well-rounded student most universities seek as their future student pool. University admissions officials look at the student applicant as a whole, meaning, they assess not only the academic capability of an applicant but the social, emotional, interactive, physical, and psychological makeup of the individual. In other words, they check the "health" of the applicant based on several criteria, of which the GPA, the SAT/ACT scores, and essay are only components of.

Answer 2

I am a mother of a 20 year old (now in college at UF) who was just like you. Studied all the time (was an IB student) and it is really hard for us parents to relax when we see such potential in our children. I am sure they only want what is best for you. You should really sit down with them and have an open conversation about what you feel would help make your working so hard more enjoyable (music, some free time, concerts, etc.) Life is short and what you do now can most certainly affect the quality of the rest of your life however you don't want to burn out either so maybe if you talk to your parents and come up with a solution that you both feel comfortable with would help keep you focused on school and give you time to do things you enjoy. My daughter has mixed feelings about how hard she worked in high school. She feels like a lot of it was a waste that made her miss out on some fun however it has also enabled her to go to one of the best state colleges in the country on full scholarship. I think communication with your parents is the best resolution as hard as that may be sometimes.Hang in there, you sound like a great kid with a good head on your shoulders who will go far. So Good Luck!

Answer 3

Hi. wow good for you! keep up the good work but now listen here my friend you need to give yourself some credit whether your family thinks you should or not, holly, tolly they should be so proud of you. I can't believe they want you to work even harder than you already are. Hey you need to go ahead and enjoy your life on the side of studying as well shoot if you love music and the guitar don't stop! why be miserable for others, Like I know it's your parents were talking about here but dam.

Have you ever sat and told your father how strict he is and how he makes you feel like man, I think that maybe you should let him know that you have a life aside from studying and you would like to have fun once in awhile. Just get your feelings out and maybe he will chill and just be proud of you all the way around.

You take care eh!

Answer 4

Tell your parents that test scores and grades are the not "golden ticket" to academic knowledge, college, or even a good career. Colleges look at the whole picture, and favor students who are well-rounded and are passionately committed to something, not just those who score the highest on tests and GPAs. (I've reviewed enough applications myself to know.) Maintaining an active interest and participation in music, sports, or clubs creates a healthy and balanced mind-heart-body connection that will give you not only greater chance of success in college and at work, but a happier life.
if you're so good at essays, try writing one based on this topic, and show it to your parents. If that doesn't work, ask a school counselor or dean or teacher to speak with them about how academic priorities and college entrance requirements have shifted from when/where your parents applied.

Answer 5

that sounds horrible. you study REALLY HARD! dont they get it? ask your dad what he got for these exams, when he was at school or at least what grades he was getting. then tell him: i work very hard, harder than anyone in my class. im a straight A student. i do my best. But each person should develop different skills in his life and should relax sometimes too. Playing guitar is a useful skill and being able to play a musical instrument shows that you have good education in different areas of life. It also helps me relax. No one can study 24/7! I need to rest to be able to study better or at least sustain the same level i am on now.

Answer 6

I'm proud of you for being a good student. That will get you far in life. But you need to have a social life too. Don't give up on the fun things you like to do. Soon enough you will be out of your parents house and then you can study as much as you want, and play as much as you want. (Just don't goof off too much, you have worked to hard to do that).

Standing up to your parents will be hard, but I think it's important that you do. To be emotionally healthy you need to have a balanced life. Time with your friends doing things you enjoy is REALLY important. Good luck in studies, and life. You sound like a really great person!

Answer 7

You have got to keep a balance of things in your life. If you don't ever do the things you enjoy you will be a prisoner to your school books. Negotiate what you can with them and try not to give up the things you enjoy. AND think of it this way, not too far down the road you will be at a university, (hopefully living on campus and far away from your parents) and you will be your own boss and won't have them dictating what you should and shouldn't be doing. Depending on what degree you want to get in college you don't have to have straight A's to get it. You will have more free time then and less hassle with the fokes.

Answer 8

Tough situation, I would try talking to your parents and let them know that you study hard and are doing real well but you feel like they are never going to be satisfied. Basically, tell them how you feel. They probably feel like pushing you is going to motivate you but it sounds like it's doing more harm than good. Tell them you want to enjoy your youth too and that it doesn't mean that you will lose sight of what is important. Your parents just want what's best for you and they want you to succeed and do well but its coming at the cost of your personal happiness. If you don't think they will tke you seriously, try writing a letter or talk to someone you trust like a counselor or principal and/or someone close to your parents, like your grandparents, aunts or uncles. Your plea for help might be the wake up call they so need. They have to realize that there's more to life than making good scores, that you have to be well rounded. You have to experience your youth with friends, and partake in extracurricular activities. You're only young once, and they need to know that it's your life, and that they raised you to be responsible but you're not happy with their dissatisfaction. Good Luck kid, hope it works out!!

Answer 9

Stand up for yourself. Tell your parents that you love and respect them and you are doing your best to meet their expectations, but you need to be well rounded and balanced, and studying 24/7 isn't right. Tell them honestly that you need to be able to have something you enjoy, like your guitar playing, to keep you sane. Tell them that this constant pressure for you to do more, more, more is causing you to hate learning and you'll be so burned out that when you make it to a great university you're afraid you won't do as well as you should because you'll hate it and be resentful of the sacrifices above and beyond the call of duty that you were called upon to make.

If they won't listen, tell them you think you should all go for family counseling. Good luck!

Answer 10

Keep up the good work.....but slow down a little. You need to give yourself time to unwind and relax. Sounds like you are just overworking yourself a little too much. Enjoy your band playing and don't let your parents discourage you in anything you want to do aside of just studying ALL DAY LONG. Sounds to me like you are a very smart & dedicated student.....Don't over do it ..cuz you'll burn yourself out. Tell your parents to take a chill pill and smile! Good Luck & an A+ for you!