He is in college and i am a freshman at high school. 5 years difference .... but we have so much in common... he goes to my church and we have been friends for many many years. and i know he just doesn't want "some"
is it okay to date him?
2007-03-05 08:40:11 · 16 answers · asked by *sweet baby* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would talk to your parents and see how they feel about it.
2007-03-05 08:44:01 · answer #1 · answered by Rabbit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I want to say age doesn't matter, but when you're that young I think it does. The older you get the less it matters, and what is 5 years anyway? I dated a guy who was 5 years older than me. My friend's parents are 11 years apart in age. Age shouldn't matter, but when you're a teenager, I've noticed it often does. A 13 year old should not date an 18 year old, in my opinion, the differences in maturity are really obvious. You said you're a freshman in high school, so are you 14 or 15? And he is in college. There are so many unknowns in your scenario. It is a plus that you know him from church. What do your parents think of him? I think in order to make this work, you need their approval on some level. And, is he in college in your town, or is he away at school? I wouldn't start something with him if he's away. Long distance can be hard, especially at your age. Look, all I can say is that if he's the one for you, he'll be there for you when you get older. Go on some casual dates with him, but explore your options. I wouldn't lock into just the one guy at your age. Especially if he's that much older. It might get awkward for you doing all the high school stuff, if you want to go to school dances and things, he may not feel comfortable with that. You feel comfortable in church, and just hanging out the two of you, but try it out in the real world, having him hang with your friends, and vice versa, and see how you feel about it. It has to work on all levels. Good luck. In the end despite everything I said, age really doesn't matter all that much.
2007-03-05 16:53:19 · answer #2 · answered by tinaroonie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a four-year age difference between my boyfriend and I, and nobody bats an eye. However, I am about ten years older than you are. In your case it is less an issue of age than it is maturity and where you are in life. How can you relate to one another? And why would a guy in college want to date someone so much younger? Does he lack maturity? Will you find as you get older and mature that he stays at the same level?
I have a friend who dated a girl who'd just graduated high school, were friends for years, went to the same church, etc. He was very attracted to her and liked her personality, but he knew it wouldn't work out because of the fact that they were at very different points in their lives. He ended up breaking it off with her due to this.
Be careful!
2007-03-05 16:51:02 · answer #3 · answered by Ehlena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is quite an age difference. Well since you have known him for many years your trust should be well built up. I had a same scenario sorta like that. I liked someone with a 4 year age difference between us. But I figured it wasn't going to work out, and now we're just friends. I've now found someone else I like that we have so much more in common. It really and truely is up to you. Good luck!
2007-03-05 16:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by Crazy4horses 5 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask your parents first if they find out you are doing that behind their back they wont like it.if he likes you ask him to talk to your parents OK. you don't want him to go to jail.my cousin was 17 and she got married with a 26 year old ,9 years diffrence.they were crazy in love .she secretly loved him for years but never told anyone until she was older ,they met at church too. she is 19 years old now and she has a beautiful new baby born daughter. when you feel so in love age doesn't matter as long as you both love each other.good luck
2007-03-05 16:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by ♥I_rock_you♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no. At your age you should be dating lots of different guys and having fun. Don't tie yourself down with a serious relationship. You have the rest of your life to settle down and be with 1 guy. Tear it up woman! Have a blast while you are young and free!
2007-03-05 16:45:30 · answer #6 · answered by Sari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long as your legal why not, i know some people frown upon older guys younger women, they think the guy is only after 1 thing just not true, but there are some guys that are what the % is i dont really know, Go for it.
2007-03-05 16:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by terryodell42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't think that's a good idea ..
5 years of age difference ..can be acceptable if you were older than this ..
but you in high school and him in college ..they are two VERY DIFFERENT WORLDS ..drop it if you are still at the begining..
2007-03-05 16:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by ^^ANGEL^^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say this but know u dont what hes doing in colloge or something find someone with a less age difference.
2007-03-05 16:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by Chrisy R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you parents thinks it's okay and he's a good guy I say go for it. My bf is 3 years older than me and everything worked out fine my parents love him and we have been together for 2yrs now and getting married really soon. SO GO FOR IT!
2007-03-05 16:45:11 · answer #10 · answered by MrS.WilSoN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and your parents about it. If its okay with all of them then go ahead. Just look into the future. Date him if you want but understand, its illegal. Don't do anything that could put you or him in jail
2007-03-05 16:44:35 · answer #11 · answered by First Lady 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋