I just turned 16 & I'm a sophmore. I'm heavy in2 animals & FFA & all that stuff. So n my ag. class this year I met a guy (whose 20 months older than me & a senior) I honestly never thought I'd be able to get along with,but go figure we started talking. Very freindly @ first then around christmas time we really started bein friends & he was very suportive during a long over due break up w/ my boyfriend & hey we're high school kids & we did some joking around txt. message that could be considered very sugestive but where kinda inside jokes 2 us that my parents saw, very bad but that'll be important later. So 1thing just kinda lead to another, we tossed around the idea of dateing for a few weeks because of his "extra curricular activities" that he was quitting (which he did for me :-) ) & some of my little quirks but we started going out valentines day. Then came the issue of my parents. "he's older.", "he drives around the naborhood (we both live in) with his radio to loud." he quit 4me
2007-03-05 08:32:28 · 13 answers · asked by curious_gurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the text message, he drives all kinds of stuff like that, that parents worry about, but they agree to meet him (oh & he go into a fight the day after we started goin out 3days of OSS, 5day ISS) and so he came over one evening and when over to a place we have and feed a horse and talked. My step dad sayed "he seems like a nice kid" course I was just so excited and all I didn't really under stand what he ment by " but why do you want to date him?" this bite me in the butt later when before church, which I had invited him (and his parents) to, my parents got together and told me I needed to break it off because we didn't have much in common , he didn't seem to care for animals, or school or want to go to college and that he was to hard and grown up because he'd live a rougher life than me (which he has) and I know this sound really bad but since his mom is basicly a bounty hunter and his stepdad a former navy seal they were in a since lower class. Now I'll be honest my Step-dad had alot
2007-03-05 08:43:10 · update #1
of money that he lost in his divorce then he got really sick a few times so things have benn hard for us but I'm really pretty smart, I take alot of upper level classes and I know where i want to go to college and I know i can w/o a problem I even thing I know my major. But life really isn't that easy 4 my boyfriend he's smart but he just doesn't have the connections and really the want to go to some big college, it would be extreamly hard to affort aswell so he wants to go into the Navy. Well Hopefully I given enough background info, but my problem is I really care about him and I don't want to end it what should I do?
2007-03-05 08:48:47 · update #2
Hes only 17. And i told him what my parents said well sorta siad and he wrote me the sweetest letter any guy has ever wrote telling me that he really does like animals but he does really say that because they cant aford it , and "if it takes me changing to be with you just tell me what to do...and I gave up my 'extra curriculars' for you ... if I can give up something I love for some one i like , I'm willing to do anything for you. You mean so much to me, i hope we can find a way."
2007-03-05 08:57:24 · update #3
My parents don't thing "he" is a bad person so much but that he "grew up on the wrong side of the tracks"
2007-03-05 08:59:58 · update #4
Most parents are that way they are very protective of their daughter and are just afraid that you might get hurt.Your parents might think right now that hes a bad guy, but you should prove to them that hes not.Parents most of the time do jump to conclusions.That your going to get hurt, but they don't really know that.Tell your parents that you can prove to them that hes a nice guy and that you should be aloud to go out.But don't argue with them that's the worst thing you can do.After all I know one thing for sure that every parent will be protective, emberassing,and even an outcast (my mom), but you always have to trust what they think is right.
-good luck, yasmin
2007-03-05 08:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by yasmin a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen! I wouldn't make any rash decision either way. Have you sat down with you parents and him and talked? Talking it out is the best way to find out where you, him, and your parents stand. It is very important that you make it clear that you are not going to take sides. Leave it up to your parents and him to work it out. If they can't work their differences out, then there is a big chance that the relationship will not work out as well. But the only way you can find out is by being "adult" about it. If your parents see how mature you are handling the situation, they may trust you more to make these kinds of decision on your own. Talking can't hurt.
2007-03-05 08:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by flaquita4vida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my suggestion is that he is to old for you. why should a 20 year old man be dating a 16 year old young lady some thing is totally wrong with this picture. age do matter because you both are in different age groups, not because you may have something in common with him call for a relationship as girl friend and boy friend. some guys cant fool girl there age that is why they prey on younger girl and have influences on them. there isnothing wrong with just being friends do your self a favor and stick with guy your own age. you don't want another heart ache so leave him alone. listen to your parents
2007-03-05 08:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by claudia w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say" u guys r lucky i fell in love witha guy and not an expensive car" lol. but no just be like 1 year and 8 months isn't that much older and he only plays his music loud to express himself. but if they don't buy that(which they honestly probably won't) u should most definetly listen 2 ur parents cuz they kno whats best for u and they only WANT the best 4 u. and i've learned SO many times that no 1 knos u better than ur parents(and u kno it!)
2007-03-05 08:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by SarahBear 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents are going to try to protect you from any guy who enters their house. Your best bet is to bring him around them as often as possible so they can get to know him personally. You didn't think you would end up liking this guy and he won you over, bringing him around your parents a lot will help win them over too!
2007-03-05 08:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by ...Melissa... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what the question is, but your paretns seem old fashioned...like most are. Your bf....I would KEEP!!! He seems really sweet and changes for you. Not all guys do that! He's a keeper. Tell your parents what he means to you and be serious. Tell them his good points and tell them that he has changed his (negative in their eyes) annoying habits for you! I wish you the best of luck!
2007-03-05 08:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen to your parents. If you still have interest in each other in a year or so, then go with your heart. Be smart, be safe.
2007-03-07 17:10:53 · answer #7 · answered by chaotic_mum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,try keeping your dating hidden from your parents. dont bring it up too much and hope that they will forget about it. they are just being overprotective i think. he sounds like a good guy.
2007-03-05 08:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by Mystery_gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't even read your long winded story but your parents are right live with it.
2007-03-05 08:35:39 · answer #9 · answered by rob c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
parents i will always put them before a *****
2007-03-05 08:36:44 · answer #10 · answered by keekee123 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋