I've been dating my boyfriend for eight months, and knew him as an acquaintance about a year before that. Things have been going very well between us. We spend nights and weekends at either his place or mine, and most times we eat dinner together as well. We fight very seldom, and when we do, it's resolved quickly. Recently we went on a two-week vacation together, which went really well. I thought 24/7 with anyone for two weeks would make me want to tear his/her head off, but we both had a blast!
We have a lot of the same values and desires, same sorts of living habits, same spending habits...
What else should I consider? He's alluded to maybe living together, but I've always answered in a noncommittal manner or changed the subject since I'm very cautious and a little commitment-shy. I dated my ex for over five years and we never lived together.
We're 24 and 28, both of us live alone at the moment. I adore this guy and he says I'm the best thing that's happened to him.
2007-03-05 08:22:16 · 5 answers · asked by Ehlena 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you're an adult. if you want to, do it. you've only been together for 8 mths. maybe wait a little more.
2007-03-05 08:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are hesitating a bit much. Wait till you hit a year into the relationship. As well make sure you are financially stable to be on your own again should this not work. Don't want to find yourself hanging out there in the wind. And do not go into any joint accounts unless you 2 are married. I got stuck with a $5000 Mastercard acct from my ex. Just look out for #1 that's all I ask. But I would definatly give it a little more time....wait till you can say he's the best thing that's happened to you before you make this decision ok! Good luck.
2007-03-05 16:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by GOLDIE3769 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Moving in with someone is entirely different than spending a two week vacation with someone. That's all fine and dandy that you got along so well during your vacation. Try living with someone day after day, month after month, year after year. That's a whole different ballgame. Be sure about this guy. He may seem like the best guy in the world right now but it won't be that way when he's under your nose 24/7. Good luck to you.
2007-03-05 16:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you get on really well. But remember living together brings about a new discussion in your relationship which is finances/bills. If your concidering moving into together, sit down and talk first about finances, who will pay what, will you just pool your money together, you might be great with your budget and him not so, this will cause arguments.
As for your ex, I personally couldn't see myself with someone for 5 years and not living with them (obviously im a non-catholic girl) but just don't look back at past relationships to determine this one, if it feels right and you want to spend the rest of your life with this guy, then go for it. If you don't see it lasting forever, why bother moving in together only to move out shortly after.
wish you all the best
2007-03-05 16:34:52 · answer #4 · answered by Kristy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure why not? When is the wedding? That's what married folk do.
2007-03-05 16:26:30 · answer #5 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋