he said long time ago they "dated a little bit" but now its over and she has a boyfriend. he wanted me to meet her and go out with them, i refused.but i am worried that the guest is sleeping in his room for 4 days, noone knows what may happen...your comments
2007-03-05 08:08:38 · 15 answers · asked by Rita B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is impossible at this moment to say if you have anything to worry about and not. If you and your boyfriend have a strong relationship built on trust and respect which from the fact that your b/f seems to be the case from his perspective) then I would doubt you have anything to worry about. However, will this nag you, will it play on your mind and come back to haunt you whenever you two quarrel? If you think it will, or even might, then my advice in common with others is to meet her. My wife very reluctantly met one of my ex girlfriends and was immediately put at ease with her. I think she will be happier to meet any others if the opportunity arose.
If you really know your guy you will be able to tell if he is playing straight with you I would think. Equally, if you do not see him in these four days (which I am assuming is the arrangement you agreed to) how does he know you are behaving yourself whilst he is entertaining an old flame.
I do realise it is difficult and it is not bad that you feel the way you do but you should try to confront your doubts and meet her, I do think you will feel easier about this situation and so will your boyfriend.
Whatever you do good luck
2007-03-05 08:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by worldwanderer007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to break this to you, but there is nothing you can do.
If the two are (still) interested in each other, whether for love or just sex, it will happen. If not during the 4 days she sleeps in his room (?), then at some other time. Asking him not to ha eher over will change nothing and might put you in a negative spotlight.
Just hope that he will remain loyal to you.
If you are really worried, tell him so in a diplomatic way. If he doesn't reassure you or call you jealous, you might have a problem.
2007-03-05 08:17:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It feels like there's an more suitable than friendly relationship occurring between the two one among them. How a procedures that relationship is going sexually, it rather is tough to assert devoid of understanding the two of them. however the habit is surely irrelevant and potential that there's a nearer connection between them than "merely acquaintances". i may be lots extra in all probability to assert that this replace into all harmless if: a million) She did no longer of course have emotions for him (storming out of the room proves that she does). 2) They have been adolescents acquaintances. those friendships are in many circumstances extra like kinfolk relationships, the place there may be extra actual closeness, yet they the two view one yet another as kinfolk and can by no potential pass that line. (It would not sound like it somewhat is the case for those 2). i might probable be extra frightened with reference to the lady pursuing your boyfriend than him pursuing her. even if, if it leads to him dishonest on you, it is going to harm as lots the two way. there is somewhat no less than flirtation occurring, and maximum in all probability lots extra effective than that. Sorry!
2016-12-18 15:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, some of these people's answers are quite worrying, i am a male myself and i don't think you have anything to be scared about... we all need different company every now and again, i also advice you get to know this other girl because it will help break any ice, plus when you get to know her you will feel safer and less worryed.
Good Luck.
2007-03-05 08:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by James G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you refuse to go out with them, and whats the problem with her sleeping in his room is he in there with her,if hes asking you to join them on a night out why refuse he hasnt got anything to hide
2007-03-08 22:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by kaye j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contary to belief men and women can be friends.. so they've shagged but obviously not compatible
when she's he see if you can all go out and get to know her
if he doesnt want to then you have something to worry about
but he has told you and not tried to hide so it could be legit!
2007-03-05 08:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by tweetypie771 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all she would not be staying at his house at least not alone or we will not be together. my boyfriend tried to get place with one of his female friends and i was not trying to hear it. your a good one because i would not stand for it. good luck
2007-03-05 12:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by kishaspot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u shouldnt have refused his offer for you to meet her and joined them at his house. n one knows what may happen w/ you there either.
2007-03-05 08:12:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
er i wouldnt put up with that.
i have met my fellas girly mates (even the one who he kissed years ago) and i wouldnt be happy with that arrangement with any of them (even tho i get on with them all).
2007-03-05 08:13:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are right their is something going on.I have just seen them through the widow get over their quick...................
2007-03-05 08:16:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋