Why would someone do self-destructive things and sabotoge themselves at the expense of others when they have much better common sense than their actions indicate? Is it low self-esteem? Mental problem? Like I used to be a very consciencious person who never broke any of the rules. But I was always insecure, shy, and I never ever developed who I was because I was always on edge and more worried about my hyperanxiety andperfectionism than figuring out who I was. I was top of my class. Then after high school I went to a year of college, developed a very serious case of bulimia, slept around, got pregnant, started stealing, and many many other things...that all amount to just being very careless Though I knew so much better and was a very bright girl what could have caused me to destroy my life? Could I have never learned to care about myself due to being worried about being perfect and never doing anything "bad?????"
2007-03-05 08:00:18 · 7 answers · asked by katalina 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
We can all be very self destructive at times. Smoking and excess body weight are 2 classic examples. Why we do it? Its difficult to say, studies have been done and conclusions are wide and varied. The important thing is to try and turn things round so that the damaging behaviour stops and constructive behaviour takes its place. Maybe therapy would help. I found it very useful in helping turn myself around from a place I didn't want to be. Good luck, you can do it. Its hard, but possible!
2007-03-05 08:22:25 · answer #1 · answered by huggz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is a very complex one, it does not mean that I do not have an explanation though. The moral values are weak and vulnerable to the serious thought. Ok, treat others as you expect to be treated, but that saying does not solve the problem. Sometimes you want to get something and others around you seem to restrict your access to that. It is very frustrating indeed. Who we call normal people usually refrain from it because they are afraid of public reaction to their possible immoral behaviour. You should not worry in one thing: you are not worse than many other people that seem to be law-abiding. The question is would they be that good guy if the circumstences turned ugly? For ex, in Titanic, so many people just fled with their life-saving boats leaving drowning and frozen people. They would have greeted one another 4 hours before. I believe that there is a cure for your condition. May be you are just too smart to be satisfied by faulty moral values. Religion and sprituality are the only remedies to your problem. Only people who are afraid that they will pay for what they have done in their lives in the hereafter can possibly be really moral. Try learning about religion and let the idea of God enter your life. I am not a Jesus-freak or a missionary.
Just think about it. Good luck repairing your mistakes.
2007-03-05 16:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by lastdemocratalive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my life. After many years I learned that I was taught at a very early age that I was stupid, not worthwhile, and would never amount to anything better than a peon. Somewhere along the line I realized that none of these things were true. What taught me? Lots of reading of psych books and self-help books along with some personal successes and growth. A wise counselor once asked me a pertinent question which made me realize the root of my problems. It was akin to unlocking a door. Suggest you try two things. First, get some counseling. Second, tape a sign to your mirror stating that today is the first day of the rest of your life and you are not responsible for what others did to you. Regardless of your mistakes, there is always tomorrow. You will surprise yourself one day soon and recognize the real you inside the shell you have built. Good luck!
2007-03-05 16:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by Marilyn S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sad you think that you would have made these choices consciencely..know that is the furthest thing from the truth. As human, we have certain undeniable urges and needs, that even the best of us do not understand. You obviously overcame your anxieties from your youth, but you are now seeking something that is sorely missing from your life. I personally found God and have found so many answers to my questions in the Bible. Some go for self-help books or seminars, some will get counselling, some will seek out a loved one to comfort them, ect. Please seek help..there are alot of resources out there for you to choose from. The good news is you are aware of it and want to change it...know that you didn't choose those paths consciencely..but you can consciencely change them. God Bless
2007-03-05 16:27:47 · answer #4 · answered by shawn t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found it to often be the case, that when one spends a great deal of time in life at an extreme, then things tend to boomerang and they go the other way. another part of it is, getting out of public school, going to college, no longer having the guidance of your parents and peer group to keep you in check, you just got lost. some part of you knew better, but a larger part was exploring your freedoms without accepting your responsibilities that came with the freedom. Hopefully you didn't destroy your life so completely that there is no foundation left to rebuild upon. Consider remembering what was really good in your life before you lost yourself, and build on that.
2007-03-05 16:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is in our human nature that we make mistakes. For we are mere mortals, the only one who was perfect in every way and never made a mistake was Jesus Christ himself! Try to model your life after his and when you fall short call on him for his help and he will always see you through!
Be Blessed in the Lord and know that you are not alone!
2007-03-05 16:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by youngwahm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes doing right is painful and doing wrong easy
2007-03-05 17:45:15 · answer #7 · answered by rl153 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋