I want to know if there is a psychological reason to being a "poor loser" everything i tried to find online said "Lose more often" or "just bite your lip" and crap like that. 90% of the time i lose at something i am an extremely bad sport and say mean things and have even been known to cry (at everything from football to video games to monopoly). I once told my wife that "There is no way i should lose to you, i am WAY better at this than you" after a game of chess that i was LETTING her win!!! Anyway, back to the point... other than the typical "suck it up" answers, i want to knwo if there is anything mentally behind it or a plan to decrease my reaction to losing. My wife says it's part narcassism and part over competivness, but that still doesn't help me. I dont WANT to be a poor loser, but cant control my reactions.
2007-03-05 07:55:00 · 10 answers · asked by Mark S. 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm not saying i lose all the time and i suck and all that junk. I know i win often enough and i know more about the real world than most people my age (i'm a soldier currently on my 3rd deployment to Iraq). It's just when i DO lose, i take it very badly and always have. I was never pushed by my parents to always be a winner and almost positive i put all the pressure on myself.
2007-03-05 08:13:43 · update #1
I was never a bully... i was a little skater punker in school and when it comes to non-competitive things i am a really fun, happy-go-lucky guy... and it's not EVERY time i lose... just most of the time...
2007-03-05 08:16:36 · update #2
I agree, it's possible that it's an insecurity issue. It's possible that you equate winning with your own value, much like a person would use their level of success at work to determine how successful of a person they are. Do you try to be the best all the time? Do you spend much time thinking, "I'm better-looking than him", or, "My wife is prettier than his", or, "I'm smarter than him/her"? Those would be tell-tale signs of underlying personal insecurities.
2007-03-05 09:15:04 · answer #1 · answered by josh m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not quite sure why but i do not think it is competitiveness no one wants to lose but so what we all cant win does it in any way make you feel inferior when you lose if so that sounds like an insecure problem to me in order to be able to know a person would need to know were you ever a bully not being mean but it helps to figure the problem there could be several reasons that will lead to the same thing,think before you act if you find yourself getting frustrated get away from the situation for a bit if nothing else to the bathroom and think about how funny this can be laugh at yourself and realize you can have alot of fun doing that
2007-03-05 08:09:36 · answer #2 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are spoiled. You're probably mid 20s and grew up in a generation that were told that everyone's a winner every time. Now you're out in the real world and you never learned that sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. In amongst all that complaining about losing I'll wager their were some wins but you chose not to recognize those.
I agree with the people that told you "get over it"
2007-03-05 08:07:29 · answer #3 · answered by H.C.Will 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-07 18:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by poijhutg p 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Losing is part of the fun of playing. Cant you just respect the efffort of the other player? Use your aggression to practice harder for next time. Noone likes to lose
2007-03-07 09:34:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you recognize your behavior is hurtful and insensitive yet you continue anyway indicates a larger problem with impulse control. You should seek professional advice and counseling to help you find ways to alleviate this condition.
2007-03-05 08:04:07 · answer #6 · answered by jgcii 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude, its all based on your maturity level.. As your get older you will see... If you are bad loser, then by that theory that would mean your would be a bad winner as well.
Dont take losing personally, and learn from your losses.. If you do that trust me you will look back and say I am glad I lost when I did because if I didnt then I wouldnt have learned how to win
2007-03-05 08:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by Hank123 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
individuals weren't even even think to be even competing for a medal. us of a did plenty extra effective than envisioned. Hockey is your game, confident... What befell to the Canadian Basketball team interior the summertime Olympics?
2016-10-02 10:37:23 · answer #8 · answered by trapani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible your parents tried to make sure you won everything you tried, even to the poing of rigging it for you? Or maybe you have borderline personality disorder. My ex-husband has that, and he will even throw the game board if he loses.
And the backtracking is not a good sign either. Do you have a problem or don't you?
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2007-03-05 08:03:25 · answer #9 · answered by Kacky 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Dude, its all up to you.
I know its the same patronising cr@p that eveyone will tell you but its true.
Hold that head high!
2007-03-05 08:02:31 · answer #10 · answered by Mighty C 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋