im 18 and my boyfriend is 28. he treats me like a princess and is always there 4 me. he is the best boyfriend iv ever had. hes close to my family and helps out alot around the house. i feel that i love him and i know he feels the same. its just the age difference i guess is alot. 10 years =/
and i know my dad will have issues with it late on when i tell him ( i dont live with my dad).
should i leave him ...just because of the age difference?
I dont want that. .. please give me advice on what i should do!
thanks
2007-03-05 07:48:30 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your heart tells you to be with him then thats what you do. You can only live for yourself, not for anyone else. You can't please everyone, so don't be unhappy, so your dad can be. At the end of the day you should come first in every decision you make.
2007-03-05 07:53:15 · answer #1 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I've been there with the older women and yes it can be a great thing but you have to realize your own situation. Look it's not that there is a 10 gap but it's the age. This is no disrespect to you but what does a almost 30 year old want with a teenager? He may be in hte relationship because he may feel that he can control you or something. Besides you have to think of this what if he wants a family soon and you are not ready for that yet? He's getting older and by the time he's 30 and up he may want to settle down and have kids, and if you are only 20 or so and not ready then what? I say just make sure that both of you sit down and make sure that you are on the same page about what you guys what out of your future. There are going to be somethings that you two will see differently on but as long as you get it out in the open things could be ok. I would just take my time with it and see how things turn out. I hoped this helped you some. Good luck
2007-03-05 08:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is wrong. You obviously care for the guy and he cares for you. He is close to your family. Give your dad a chance to see what he says. You should always respect your dads feelings, but you are 18 and there comes a time in your life when you have to start making decisions on your own. If this guy is good for you, your dad will soon see that. If you let this relationship be ended JUST because of the age difference you could possibly be ruining a happy future with someone you love very much. I say you should follow your heart but also be considerate of your dads feelings. I wouldn't go and say "Well, I am 18 and I can do whatever I want" but I would talk to your dad and maybe say, "dad, I really care for this guy. I know that he is a lot older than me but we really get along great. He is good for me dad. Please give him a chance and trust my judgement on him. You raised me right and I want the chance to prove to you that I can really make good choices for myself." Something like that would be the route I would go. Good luck in whatever you decide.
2007-03-05 07:59:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if you really love him you should stay with him. My boyfriend is older than me too and my dad doesn't like it, but my mother does. That's all that really matters to me, as long as my mom likes him then it's fine. But if you really feel like its a problem, then end it. But from what I see you really like him, and he treats you good. Your dad can't tell you who you should date, he should only care how your boyfriend treats you. So do what you think is right, follow your own heart. If you know your gonna be happy with him then go for it.
2007-03-05 08:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by Leese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is nothing but a number....If both of you love each other for you are not regardless of the age issue, why should you seperate ?? Don't rely on others to make yourself happy, it's up to you to provide yourself with the happiness you deserve. Besides who's going to end up going home with him...You or your dad ?? The answer you choose should be the one dating him. Good luck
2007-03-05 07:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by the_wicked_itch_of_the_west 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're 18, ten years is a big difference. However, if your family is okay with it other than your dad, then that's no reason to just drop him. If your family is still close to your dad, let them tell him why they like him.
2007-03-05 07:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age doesnt matter, if you love the person and they treat you well, then who cares what pepole think, as long as your 18 , then I see nothing wrong.
2007-03-05 08:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't. To me age is nothing but a number. And if he treats you the way he does, why would you? Besides older men are better ;-).
2007-03-05 07:52:59 · answer #8 · answered by Cardiophobia <3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is so damn wrong but hey u r NOT the problem here. HE IS.
he has issues!!!! honey ur 18 and hes taking advatage of that
he lived his teen years let u live urs !! dont be a fool !!!
2007-03-05 07:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have to be an a
2007-03-05 07:56:20
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