Is love marriage better than arrange?

Question

Please explain me. i'm totally confused for my future.

Answer 1

Arrange Marriage for those fools who cant get a partner in there life .

Love Marriage are for those fools who think they only have brains to make all decision but yet fooled by other person .

Love-Arrange marriages are better than these 2 , but yet its marriage .

Answer 2

The facts will support both kinds of marriages. There are advantages to them and there are disadvantages. We in the West are programmed to only think of love between two people as the primary ingredient to a good marriage. Unfortunately things happen that may destroy the love and then the marriage falls apart. Arranged marriages are made for a variety of reasons not the least of which is a financial consideration. The mates are chosen by their parents who claim to have more experience and insight into who might be best for whom based on the errors they made in their own marriages. They don't always work out because their children aren't them. And with all the independence of people these days - being forced to make a life with someone who is a stranger isn't all that beneficial. There's no answer to the question you pose - it's up to the individuals themselves. If they want to have a hand and input at choosing the person they desire to make a life with and grow old with then they'll opt for Love marriage. But if they don't care who it is that they're with then they can leave it in the hands of others and hope for the best.

Answer 3

Love marraige is comparitively better than the arranged one. It is because in the past few centuries women were dominated by men and no equal rights were given to them. They had to follow strict rules like they should not go out of the home at all after it gets dark, they were not allowed to work in all fields where men worked. So women of those days didn't have any contact with the men. When the issue of marriage comes they were neither able to nor allowed to choose their own partners.Since women didn't come out of the house even men don't know anything about them.So arranged marriage was the only in those days.
But that is not the case in the 21st century.Women have devloped in all the fields and they have got the maximum exposure in the society what a men can get.All the women began to study and they work with us in indutries, IT companies etc. So men and women of these dayare able to easily communicate among themselves. Some people choose their partner depending on their outer appearance and depending on their talent or understanding between them.But the best way for both the sexes is, choose a life partner who matches both the criteria.
Arranged marriage of these days have totally become a most stupid thing in the world.They circulate the bith leaf and the photo through a pinch and he finds the correct match for us. These pinch guys show some 2 or 3 photos every week to get their brokerage and finally we become the clown in the whole mess. Who is he to decide our life and why should we marry a unknown girl shown by him suddenly who is going to accompany till your death.Divorce cases are more in arranged marriage only compared to love marriage couples.
At the same time if you love a girl it doesn't mean that you have to against the parents to marry that girl. Infact many parents ask their son or daughter ask them whether they in love or not when they are planning to arrange a marriage or not. If you are in a good position in life and then if you say about your love to your parents, no parent will refuse unless they discriminate by cast,creed etc and in that case think once or twice to make your own decisions to marry that girl. So the best is first be in agood position in your life and then find your partner by yourself and then marry that girl. All the best

Answer 4

In the arranged marriages I have seen, the parents and grandparents involved were very careful to see that the bride and groom knew each other fairly well, that they liked each other and that there were other things involved that made for a strong marriage, like proper education of both parties, enough money to start out life together, a physical attraction and various other things that should be thought of in the first place...... and that they had a chance to socialize with each other a little so neither one was nervous and upset ...

In one case, the two happened to know each other in school when they were both very young. The liked each other even back then and when her mother was busy looking for a husband for her daughter as she was graduating from college, she happened to think of a friend who happened to know of someone whose son was also looking ..... they all got together and the young pair hit it off again, just as they had when they were children ...


I have known of many happy arranged marriages ..... people do not just heartlessly throw people together .... it is up to them to see that the young people are happy together or else they will be responsible for the unhappiness that is because of them, their carelessness, and their lack of responsiveness to the young people .... and it is shame if it ends in divorce .... because people did not take time to find the right person ....

Sometimes if we choose someone only for love we may be swept away ..... so in addition to love, the right considerations must be made, just as in an arranged marriage .....


Peace & Love

Answer 5

If u r an Indian with lot of family values, then arranged marriage would be better. Because no parents will think bad for thier children. U will receive lot of blessings.

If U r in a country like America. U have to earn ur life n make urself happy. So go for a love marriage. Everybody will be happy for u.

All the best ! :-)

Answer 6

Marraige is like singing a duet song when you know nothing about the rythm and the lyrics. Both invloved should contribute perfectly. They gotta knw whne to pitch in and when to stay mum. They gotta balance the melody when the other is out of tune.

Be it a love marraige or an arranged marraige, if the partners are not committed, it just won't work.

As far as my personal experience is concerned, I found arranged marraiges successful to a rate of 99 percent (All I know who went for arranged marraige are happily staying together), while the success rate of love marraiges was just around 55 percent. My experiences cannot be counted on as actual statistics of the globe. But I do believe in the role you play in your marraige. Nothing succeeds unless you put some efforts from your side.

All the best...

:-)

Answer 7

my response may not sit well with most readers, because, love-marriages are most commonly done in the U.S and people from the U.S are also the most common readers on this Yahoo Answers.
while arranged marriages are more common in other cultures.

I do personally feel that in my lifetime, I will have a marriage based on love, than arrangement, HOWEVER, I am not saying that a love-marriage is better.

It appears that love-marriages result more often in divorces than in arranged marriages.

maybe because couples are filled with passion and lust than love when they marry, who knows.
in arranged marriages, you go into the marriage without any expectations, you may not be extremely happy, but the marriage does not go crashing into the ground, like most divorces in the U.S

so to answer your question, you'll get different answers based on WHO you are asking.
I personally feel that they both have their equal pros and cons. one is not exactly better than the other.
if one was, then the other would not exist anymore.

so the type the marraige all depends on the person.

Answer 8

Love marriage is way better than arranged marriage because of the following
1.) you don't really know the person you are being arranged to marry they could be mentally unbalanced
2.) You might not even fall in love with them just pure dislike oh say I don't know hate
3.) you may have everything in common and no conversation would last very long



Everyone knows that opposites attract and plus if you marry for love you decide if you truly want to spend the rest of your life with them because you know them somewhat. I personally don't think that you marry somebody then the next day it's all look I've fallen in love with you even though you may be nuts and want to kill me marry for love not money and common sense get a little wild and marry whom ever you wish just remember if you don't work out there is always divorce

Answer 9

Well, that's quite difficult for me to answer this question because I am french and arranged marriage do not really exists in my country (exept for immigrate which are go to their country to be married by their parents)
But I can tell that I can't imagine a arranged marriage for me, I think if you do net love someone, it would be really difficult to be happy and to have fun when having sex.
But it is true that european and indian don't see the life in the same way (but, i know indians quite well because i've spend 4 month to working in a indian orphenage) way, so i am not sure I can be useful for you.

Answer 10

love is based on sex. first impression how its getting? basically by attraction of the structure. that means its a basic thing of sex.so if u get married by love.. after few month, or year back.. there is some hollow in this life. but arrange marriage is not like that.. both never see before.. intresting before marriage.. may be after engagement.. starts love each other. there no sex is based. affection.. or creating something of together attachment. so this reason the arranged marriage was continuos until death. example.. our parents grand parents, all are together living more than 50 years without any prob.
every where even arranged or love marriage.. some +/- have.. all depend upon the human thinking.
but mostly arranged is better than love..
choose your own choice.. whats your mind says..