Ok- been dating him a year and it's always bothered me but here's the info. They were NOT talking when we started dating- he called her out of the blue after about 6 wks of dating me- I told him it bothered me that he would call all of a sudden he agreed it wasn't worth it. Since then he's continued to talk to her- we had a agreement it would be limited to dinner or hanging out while I worked (I work nights- him days). Friday night I came home to find her dog in the spare room and a note that she would be staying cause they were drinking (I was supposed to meet him at a bar with friends and was not prepared for her to be there). I packed my clothes in a hurry and left with a not so nice FU letter. (Thankfully I have my own place officially) BUT he's supposed to move into my house in 60 days when his lease is up and I don't know if I can deal with this. It bothers me that he won't keep his end of the deal knowing how much it hurts me.
2007-03-05 07:42:06 · 10 answers · asked by Kristin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In this situation no it's not okay, your mental well being is at stake. Sometimes it is but not now.
2007-03-05 07:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by Lexy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him away with it, people can be friends after a break up but to go out for a few drinks and dinner when you are hard at work isn't on. It will lead to more than that and you are going to be the one that will get hurt. Tell him you don't want his ex in your relationship it is you and you only if he loves you he should except your wishes
2007-03-05 07:49:31 · answer #2 · answered by kittiebann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you already told him FU so why are you worried about him. I would think you have already made it clear he was not moving in with you. Or did you two make up after all that?
No, it sounds a bit like he is keeping one of you around in case the other doesn't work out.
I had, notice HAD, an ex who pulled the same crap. I didn't put up with it for long.
2007-03-05 07:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..i wish i had a gf like u...it seemed like ur reallie understanding towards ur guy..but unfortunatly i think hes takin you for granted..it becomes a problem when you stay friends with ur exes..when your gf is uncomfortable with it..im surprised you even let him hang out with her..letting him have dinner and stuff..if i were you i would just leave him..cuz ur bf..doesn't no when to quit..i think hes pushin it a lil bit too far with the whole stayin over thing...u did a great job handlin the situation...and the "nice FU letter.." that was priceless.....
2007-03-05 07:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by notajerk411 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say its ok! Iam still friends with my ex and he has moved on and i just got married 2yrs ago, if you have a feeling that he still has feelings for her and the same for her than most likely you are right! My ex and i used to hang out when i was single and he had a fiance and yes it was kinda weird but i did not look at him in a romantic way and i asured his fiance that i had moved on but that i valued our friendship! and so far so good we all are best of friends!
2007-03-05 07:48:25 · answer #5 · answered by Domonique 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well are there kids involved if not you best kick him to the curb life is to short to play these silly childish games just last week my fiance s ex wife came to where he work at an cry to him saying she wanted him back an that they could make a go of it they also have 2 kids but he told her that he was happy where he is at so hope fully this will make her see that he loves me so its time your man stood up an figure who is the upmost in his life if not find someone whom wiull appreciate you
2007-03-05 07:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by D S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an FU letter from your ex, or from the girl? If from the ex, tell him to screw off, and if its from the girl show ur ex the note...?
2007-03-05 07:47:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the reason why you guyz split up.
but yea it could be gud if both parties dnt mind.
2007-03-05 07:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by Jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he keeps doing things that hurt you then yeah its wrong to be his friend while he can still hurt you.
2007-03-05 07:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by the greatest cookie lover ever!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say it's ok.
2007-03-05 07:44:22 · answer #10 · answered by +♪♫ rip my jeans.not my ♥ ♫♪+ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋