Are you really happy with the person you're with? Or do you feel that you have 'settled', or are with them because you don't think you can do any better even though you know there is definitely better out there?
Or do you not even think about these things?
Please explain how you feel about your partner. I need you to be completely honest here. I'm trying to figure out if my expectations are too high or too low.
2007-03-05 07:39:03 · 12 answers · asked by jade 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That depends on what kind of expectations you have for yourself and the kind of person you want to be with. Sure there are better people, but does not mean they are all the same because everybody believe it or not has something they want to change. It is not about what everyone else thinks it is about what you want and how you plan to get it, having otherpeople explain what their partners are like probably won't benefit you as you want it to. A relationship is takes work but only if you are willing to make things work and willing to communicate. People make it harder then it is because they simply give up or don't try hard enough.
2007-03-05 07:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I have been with the same man for the last 3 years... I am 19 years old and I would die without Andrew. I love everything about him. I am not going to lie there are times when we are bored out of our minds because we do know everything about each other; but I wouldn't be with anyone but him. I love him; Think about how you would feel without your girlfriend. Sometimes it feels like we are just too familiar with each other and there is no spark left; but if we really think about it there is still a lot there. You will know if you want and are ready to move on or not. I hope to be with Andrew the rest of my life; just remember that no matter what life brings you it's constantly changing and that's what make your relationship exciting. I have always felt that love and relationships are a lot like this. You will never find a perfect person and there is always going to be someone who will give you something different then the person you have now... but it's about deciding that's the person want; they have the most of what you want... even though they aren't perfect and don't have anything thing you want in a person; that person doesn't exsist... Accept the person you have for what they are and if you love them for that and that;s enough then your settled... Andrew is more than anyone else in the world will ever be.. and the fact that we have so many memories makes him even more of a better choice than anyone else.. I hope this helps... If not sorry I tried.
2007-03-05 15:47:45 · answer #2 · answered by chellysea33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we all have fluctuating feelings about our significant others. We get in fights, we think we're not right for each other. We have a wonderful day, make beautiful love, and we know we are meant for one another. I guess it depends on your definition of love...
What is love? It's when you can admit your wrong to the other person; it's when you swallow your pride and change your ways for them; it's when you remain calm when they're blowing up at you because you love them, and you know that blowing up won't help; it's when you go out of your way to do something for them without expecting anything in return; it's when you look in their eyes and honeslty tell yourself that you can't imagine being with any other person for the rest of your life.
Now apply the definition to your relationship. If all of the above apply, then you are a good match. If they don't then you need to question the reason you're together--it may be that you've settled, or are lazy, etc.
2007-03-05 15:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by f8_smyled 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am completely happy with the guy that I am with. He has made me happier than I have been in years. He's the light of my life and I don't know what I would do without him. There is nothing better out there than my boyfriend. I have looked, but I have found nothing better. I do feel settled with him. I mean, I'm not ready to get married or anything, because I'm only 15 but I love him dearly and I believe that he will be my husband one day. And he feels the same way..
What exactly are you having a problem with, sweetie?
2007-03-05 15:44:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my current gf for over a year now and I have to say that things are really starting to get serious. We're beginning to talk about our future now and I honestly don't think that I could be any happier. She just makes me feel good. Even after an argument or a moment when she made me upset, I still get that *feeling* a few minutes after the whole thing blows over. She treats me well, and we are the best of friends. Communication is key and we accel in that area. She seems like the right one for me. I think you'll know when you've found yours. And when you have you won't be questioning yourself....
2007-03-05 15:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by jacarig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel honestly like I am with my boyfriend because we have a son together. We've been together for so long I wouldnt know how to be in a new relationship. I dont feel like Ive settled but I do feel like Ive accepted the fact that we are going to be together for a long time. I love him but I kind of want to experience new things.
2007-03-05 15:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by Princess Rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships take alot of work, But if you truly love the person your with it just feels right. If you have these questions, maybe you aren't really in love. I have been with my now husband for 10 1/2 years. I feel so lucky to have someone who loves me so much. I didn't have any expectations of him I just loved him.
2007-03-05 15:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married to the same man for almost 5 yrs now, & we are very happy. When we 1st started seeing eachother, I went out of state for a month keeping in contact with him every day I was gone. I came back & we couldn't stand being apart. We started dating in June, & he asked me to marry him in October. We got married a year later (in June =) ) . Yes, we have had our problems, yes, we have been close to a seperation, but because we love eachother, & because we are in love, we talked about things, worked on our problems, & have a stronger, happier relationship & beautiful marriage because of it. I hope this helps you out. Best of luck, & take care.
2007-03-05 15:50:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I'm incredibly happy with my relationship thus far. Qualities I look for: Honesty, sense of humor, kindness, empathy, sympathy, good work ethic, and compassion. I think you're only setting yourself up for heartache and unhappiness if you 'settle'.
2007-03-05 15:43:38 · answer #9 · answered by Duckie314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i do love him
and sometimes i am happy but sometimes i'm not, we've been together for 9months so we have a pretty solid base, we've been through alot together.
but sometimes i just get fed up of doing things eg.
i have to arrange everything
hes far too laid back
and yeah
hope this helps.
2007-03-05 15:43:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋