My christian cousin had been comiting fornication ( sex with another either before of after mariage). She is not sorry for it and she thinks it is ok , to keep commiting it. I have tried telling her that it is not ok, especially if not married. She says that she just cannot stop, becuase it is like having a devorce or something.
How do I convince her that it is not right, the first time and especially not another time, without completely shunning her or judge- ing her. Help please, I wan't to see my cousin in Heaven.
2007-03-05 07:36:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You cant that is the work of the Holy Spirit. All you can do is tell her the truth and she either accepts or doesnt.
2007-03-05 07:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by Tribble Macher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your cousin really professes to be a believer, then she must take the Bible at face value. There are numerous sciptures that prohibit the act of fornication. In fact, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 tell us that those who commit such acts shall not inherit the kingdom of God. If she refuses to listen to you, the best thing you can do for her right now is pray. Read Matthew 7:6. Sometimes your words can fall on deaf ears. There comes a point to where it does no good to share the gospel with others. Does that mean you give up? Absolutely Not!. Read Matthew 7:7. You must now take it to the next level and pray. Ask, seek, and knock. Be persistent in other words. Pray that the Lord will help your cousin to see what she is doing wrong. Remember what James said (5:16) "The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much."
2007-03-13 03:07:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the hardest things for some of us to accept is that we have no control over the people we love when they are doing wrong. It is very hard to deal with when we know they are heading down a path of destruction. I have had this happen many times with my mother and some of my children. It kept me in constant turmoil (even hospitalized once) until I realized that God can't do His work on them as long as I'm trying to do it for Him. I have actually found peace in knowing that there is absolutely nothing I can do about the decisions people make except pray for them. I believe that that peace was given to my by Christ. I'm here if they need me but I no longer go out of my way to try and help those who don't want help. I pray that God will give you the peace that surpasses all understanding. God bless you, sweetheart and keep praying.
"I speak for all!" has been submitted for abuse. His answer was disgusting.
2007-03-05 15:46:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs herself to open up to God I know this guy he's 22 he is the son of my church's paster and he is a born again christian but after a while he got out of christianity and stated going into drugs his parents prayed and prayed and he thought that he was alright but he got into a car accident and he almost died and now it's been six years and if you just look at him when he told me this story i swear I didn't believe him it's amazing how God's power works on people. So keep praying for your cousin keep telling her to stop and believe in God. Then she realizes the dangers of going on the devil's side she thinks she is a christian but you always have to ask yourself am i really a christian then when God comes over her she will realize his power and everything he has over and she should remind herself over and over that God is with her.
2007-03-05 15:57:52 · answer #4 · answered by jesus freak 101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your cousin is not a self-professed Christian, you will have your work cut out for you. There will be little you can do, except to appeal to the issues of STDs, perceived immorality of her peers, loss of respect by potential future mates, etc., in other words the usual secular admonitions.
If she considers herself a Christian, then you will need to sit down with her or have a pastor or priest talk to her and review what the scriptures say about her behavior. Reminding her that her Christian Witness, for one thing, will become a stumbling block to others. And the bible is clear about those whose Christian behavior gives others pause:
1Co 8:9 But take care that this right of yours does not somehow become a stumbling block to the weak.
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1Co 8:12 Thus, sinning against your brothers and wounding their conscience when it is weak, you sin against Christ.
2007-03-05 16:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by Ask Mr. Religion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pray for her, but don't judge her. You cannot force anyone to do something that they do not want to do, neither does God force anyone to do or not do anything; He gives us the power of choice, and we are all responsible for own choices. You love your cousin and you want to see her in heaven and that's good, but it's not up to you. You can only control your own salvation.
2007-03-05 15:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by beattyb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to convince her that it is not right she has to learn it on her own what you can do is continue to pray for her that she will see the right path and take it pray that God will open her eyes and allow her to see.
2007-03-13 13:27:14 · answer #7 · answered by eve p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've said all you could it seems to me, at this point you have to pray for her, get others too also and leave it in God's hands. You definitely don't want to shun her, she needs to see that you love her despite.
2007-03-05 15:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by Rossonero NorCal SFECU 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do for her at this point but, pray for her and the most important thing too is fasting for her. Remember when the disciples went out and they couldn't drive out this one demon and finally Jesus did and they asked him why they couldn't and he said that one took prayers and fasting. One thing we don't do enough of is fasting. I myself have a problem with this one. I am diabetic so I have to watch it.
2007-03-05 15:43:08 · answer #9 · answered by Midge 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done what you needed to do. Just keep praying for her and put the situation in God's hands.
2007-03-13 13:00:32 · answer #10 · answered by kairos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋