I gave birth to our son 5 weeks ago, he ripped me when he came out. I am still in pain, bleeding, don't sleep more than 5 hours at night, so sex is the last thing on my mind. But my husband just doesn't understand, he doesn't force me to regular sex, but he keeps putting his hands under my underwear everytime I turn my back to him, he keeps asking for blow or hand job, and I just CAN'T. I simple don't feel like it yet. If he doesn't shut up soon, I am afraid I am going to hate sex and him as well. I tried to talk to him about it many times, but he just doesn't get it. I am not talking to him since last night, when he said that if I keep being like that, he will find somebody just for sex. I mean, I just went throught labor and delivery, why doesn't he give me a break???!!!! Other than that, he is an awesome dad and husband, he helps me at home, makes enough money to support a family, loves me and shows it to me every day, he just needs lot of sex {and he had it when I was pregnant}.
2007-03-05 07:31:35 · 6 answers · asked by hvezda 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
WHAT A JERK!!
I am sorry for you but he is acting like a TOTAL asshole!
YOu just went through the most traumatic thing a body can go through, usually a doctor preferrs that you abstain from sex for 6 weeks.
"when he said that if I keep being like that, he will find somebody just for sex."
Im sorry this advice is useless to you but a man that would say that to you 5 weeks after you have a child is a selfish inconsiderate child who does not care for you feelings.
If it was my husband, I would leave him.
2007-03-05 08:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by Pro_Dog_Trainer 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Nobody "needs a lot of sex." He's perfectly able to survive with his right hand and a bottle of lube while you heal and recuperate from childbirth and take care of your newborn son. If you can't talk to him yourself, I suggest the two of you find a marriage or couples' counselor - having a child is a major change in a relationship and having some help dealing with that might change his attitude and help both of you cope with each other while getting used to your new family.
2007-03-09 13:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by shoujokakumeijchan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a friend or relative that you could stay with until he promises to change his behavior? I'm sure you have already had a talk with him about this? If not then I would say try that first. If he really doesn't understand, then you need to get away for a little bit, until he can learn to control himself a little better. You say he is an awesome husband, but shouldn't that include respecting you, your thoughts, your feelings and your body?
I hope you all the best, hun!
2007-03-05 15:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by Rosie B 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
ohhh i HATE LOATH THIS when men act so selfish.......
ok tell him to take a shower and jerk himself off... gosh girl you just gave birth.... and if he cant understand that then he is just thinking with his *ick .....
right now and is wanting to get your attention with sex that to him is the only way he can have you to himself with out interupption ....because to the men our babys take us away from them and they feel ABANDONED and that is STUPID for men to feel that way but they do... and then they start ignoring you and then its the constant arguing about not having sex....
WELL i went through that and then i thought of a way to fix this i took my husband to a sex shop.. and i got him a toy that is the shape of a woman and i bought him videos and lubricants all kinds of stuff and i would help him pleasure himself by kissing his neck and lips while he was using his toys ....
and after i healed i let him play with me again
you should use this technique it will make the healing process seam less intence for him and you...
2007-03-09 13:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by SAD NINA... 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
buy the guy some porn and lock him in his room with you outside! Or carry around a spray bottle full of ice water!
2007-03-09 13:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by Lulu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would buy him a porn video and a bottle of lube with a note saying "i will let you know when i am ready. do not ask until then. have fun."
2007-03-05 15:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋