i fell in love with this girl at school, (we're both 15) but i have no chance with her and would never ask her out because i'm really shy, but because she thinks i'm a retard, a wierdo, and a few other things i cant exactly say here... how do i either get her to fall for me, or get rid of my feelings for her?... i just HATE being in love with someone i know i have no chance with... it's tearing me up inside...
2007-03-05 07:31:25 · 10 answers · asked by BORED 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know i'm in love because i told someone who is married exactly how i feel about this girl and she said i was in love. i know that's what she thinks about me because i asked her if she liked me, and she said a little, but when i got a friend to ask her (i didnt trust her answer to me because soon after she answered me, she answered to one of her friends and said that i annoy her) she said what you see before, plus the extra that i cant say.
2007-03-05 07:47:40 · update #1
You have to refocus your spare time; join some clubs so you can meet new people, hang out with friends more. Just try being friendly with her, too. If you come on too strongly, it will probably scare her away. Good luck!
2007-03-05 07:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by Duckie314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your own bluff. You have nothing to lose. You think that she thinks badly of you, but she may be just teasing you and may really like you. Since you think she'll never go out with you, go ahead and ask. If she says no, you'll be ready to move on and look for someone who will really like you. If she says yes, be glad and spend some time with her.
In the meantime, work on yourself. If there are things you don't like about you, fix them. I'm talking about inside, emotionally and spiritually. The physical stuff is just surface and superficial. If you like everything about yourself, just be yourself and be patient. You will attract those who sincerely like you and those that you'll want to spend time with.
Concentrate on making yourself happy and making yourself a whole person. Don't look for others to make you happy or complete you. You've got a long wonderful life ahead of you full of learning experiences, both joyful and painful. Don't avoid either because they are the very stuff that life is made of.
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Please believe me, you will be in love many more times in your life. It just feels like this is and will be the only one because you're fifteen. Enjoy the feeling of being in love, but don't let it consume you and destroy you. Enjoy that you can love, but don't expect that it will always be returned. Love lets go. Love does not possess.
2007-03-05 15:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) to get her to fall for you is far from your reach, this is why because she already thinks those things about(the ones you just said)But if I were you I would try to be her friend and show her how good you are and that you are none of those things.
2) If you want to forget her completely because she is tearing your heart apart. I think you should move on and find some one that really likes you, just wait sooner or later the one for you will come just around the coner. Don't think about her soo much because if you don't show your affection for her, she will notice and come after you. Good Luck!
2007-03-05 15:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by Ash C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First HOW do you know she would not go out with you..have you asked her? If she has in fact called you names that you can not say here..did you do something to provoke her? If not is it possible she is joking with you...sometimes at that age girls do not know how to express their feelings either and call boys names to get their attention. I think for starters you should ask her out to a movie with friends and see what she says..if yes well go from there. If no then move on believe me it seems like you will never get over her now but at your age another girl will have your attention before you know it.
Good Luck
2007-03-05 15:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by healthynow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I don't care what your married friend says. You are not in love. It is infatuation. You'll know the difference once you're an adult and in a committed adult relationship.
Try avoiding her in the meantime, and ask out someone else. You'll get over her a lot sooner than you think once you stop obsessing.
2007-03-13 11:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to happen a lot during your life. People always want what they can't have and women are the ultimate nightmare in this scenario. How do you get over it? Time and someone new.
2007-03-05 15:35:20 · answer #6 · answered by kungfumasterzod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you're in love with her? It sounds like an obsession mistaken for love.
2007-03-05 15:36:31 · answer #7 · answered by Hibbler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um... you're 15 and you've "fallen in love" with another 15 year old who you clearly dont even know... HAHA, get over it... and if you cant do that... talk to her for god sakes... what kind of moron just sits there and stares... thats creepy man
2007-03-05 15:43:59 · answer #8 · answered by Immanuel Kant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her u are not a weirdo and retard, show her u r better than anyone else
2007-03-05 15:36:02 · answer #9 · answered by liljon365 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep wasting your time....the right girl might be looking for you now and you not know it...give it up and move on...quit whining
2007-03-05 15:35:26 · answer #10 · answered by Michael K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋