i have been seeing this guy, i really like him ! we've already done thee unevatable, and continue on doing it! anyway i dont just want it to be like that! i want more! i want an actual relationship, he says hes in it for the same thing. i dont know what to do or how to tell him! i just dont like being introduced as his friend! i want to be more ! how do i make this happen?
2007-03-05 07:26:24 · 19 answers · asked by princess_prtty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Start with the exclusive dating conversation, and see how that goes. And your already banging him, so hopefully you are not in the f_buddy category. Maybe the cart is before the horse you think?
2007-03-05 07:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has commitment issues,so...............start introducing him in the same way. See how he reacts. Or start talking about other guy friends you may have. The key is to get a knee jerk reaction that really let's you know if he into you or just sex. It'll work. Some advice to you personally: You're giving him too much control over your emotions. Take back control. One other thing as a last resort....Give him a night of your best, mind blowing sex and when he's getting his eyes out of the back of his head, hit him with the issue. Kinda let's him know what he'll be missing out on, and someone else might get,and actually appreciate. Just remember: You got the candy! Make him hungry for it and it's up to him if he starves!
2007-03-05 07:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by Matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have read over what you've said and it doesn't seem like you want more, I think you and he are in it for the same reason. You just want more respect in the relationship, meaning you want him to respect you enough to introduce you as his girlfriend or special lady in his life. Labeling you as a friend keeps you in the same category as all his aquaintances and you deserve more in that aspect because you have went the distance. So let him know that now your relationship has soared to another level and you want to be recognized as someone special and not just a quick fix by a friend.
2007-03-05 07:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by Kendra J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have the "Where is this going" talk. No one likes it, but it's necessary when your stance in unclear.
Just come out and ask him. Just say that you're having a great time, and want to continue having a great time, but you want something more than just sex. The worst he says is he doesn't want a relationship, and you move on. Luckily, you're not in love with him yet, so your feelings might get hurt, but it will be easier to walk away.
But if he says Let's Go For It, then you got everything you wanted :)
Just ask him and thank me later :)
2007-03-05 07:31:43 · answer #4 · answered by SChi25 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's giving you a message that he too did something 'inevitable'. And probably that is the reason he tells you that he is in for the same thing...the inevitable...
He knows, you do not have to tell him....if he cannot understand..do move on..looks like he luvs to intro you as his pal...which is not what you want..so clear up and .before you get upset knowing what the truth is all about...
The more you go deep into this relationship, where it looks like you need more of love than the ''inevitable'', the more it is going to hurt you if this guy really does not care for you more than that...take care, clear up, or..just move on
good luck
2007-03-05 07:50:31 · answer #5 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to tell him now without being embarrassed by it , just tell him I'm sure you can do it . If your going to have a relationship you have to communicate one an others wants and needs . Perhaps slow down a bit and tell him your becoming a bit uneasy because you want to be known as his girl and not feel as if it's just a casual relationship to full fill physical desires.
2007-03-05 07:33:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regardless, just because a guy is wanting sex from you 100 times a day doens't mean that he's not into you, it just means that, YES HE'S GOT A D*CK!
Ok, now that that revelation has revealed itself.... What's your reasoning in wanting more? You're being selfish. It sounds to me like things are going good but you want "control"! Sorry to be the one to tell you girl, but that is very unattractive! YUK!
If you want him to want you, have some backup plans. Don't be dependant upon him for your happiness. Have "other plans" from time to time and don't always be there every time he calls. Get your own life. That's attractive and you just might have fun in the process.
2007-03-05 07:31:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you guys are "doing it" and he still introduces you as a friend, he is just using you. How about this: have more respect for yourself, stop giving it up and then see if he still really wants to be with you.
2007-03-05 07:30:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communicate it!!!! Just say, hey "I am your girl friend" and you are my man you got it? good. And then tell him you want a future with him and you would love it if your kids were like him..
because in the end that is what it is all about, raising kids. how you would raise kids is the key to the relationship
2007-03-05 07:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him , tell him you don't want to be introduced as being friends, you want to be girl/boyfriend. He may say no, but it's not fare the way he is treating you.
2007-03-05 07:31:52 · answer #10 · answered by kittiebann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋