I am dating a man that is 43 and i am 28. i just got out of a 10-year marriage about 5 months ago and have been seeing him for about 3 months. He is very funny, attractive and is easy to talk to. We started out as friends and turned into boyfriend and girlfriend. He stays at my house sometimes and we hang out on weekends and talk on the phone daily. I started out not wanting anything serious but have developed feelings for him and care for him deeply. He has a bad history of women breaking his heart and is very guarded and cautious. He says it will take him a while before he can show his feelings. He is scared. I understand this and am willing to wait and see what happens but am scared too cause what if i am wasting my time? He will not talk very much about relationship issues. Another part of the not showing his feelings thing. I want to be affectionate with him but he is not touchy feely and likes his space. not sure if he will come around or has anybody out there been throught this?
2007-03-05 07:24:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let him know that you understand adn give him his time he will soon come around and see that you are not there to break his heart, after having your heart broken many of times it is hard to trust adn show your feeling again. but yea just let him know how you feel, make sure he know that your not trying to rush him, and that your willing to wait.
2007-03-05 07:30:48 · answer #1 · answered by sexy momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, give him some time, I'd say a couple months. If nothing changes and he cannot communicate or be affectionate with you then I don't forsee him changing much. Either that or he may be one of those men that do not like commitments with women. Are you sure he is not bisexual? There might be a reason that at age 43 he is not married? Just a thought.
2007-03-05 15:31:18 · answer #2 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the beginning of something great! He probably wants to be sure that you won't change months down the road (I call it the 6-month syndrome). Just take your time and if it's meant to be, it will be. Good luck :)
2007-03-05 15:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by Duckie314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a BIG age different and you may want to talk to him let him know that you wont hurt him and you will be there for him..but if he still acting like he need his space then maybe you are wasting your time
2007-03-05 15:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by MODel-08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there!! TIME, patience, understanding and if he needs a kick in the butt....books, magazines, tv programs on the subject. GOOD luck girl!!!
2007-03-05 15:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 months isn't long...give him another 3 months if things have not gotten better then think about moving on...good luck
2007-03-05 15:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋