why are they so shy? i mean guys, we WANT you to ask us out! i would feel so awkward asking the guy out!!!
why are guys so shy about asking us out, even when we show them we like them and flirt and stuff?
2007-03-05 07:24:01 · 14 answers · asked by ThinkPink 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOU would feel awkward? think about this. while you might feel awkward about asking 1 guy 1 time, us guys for the most part feel awkward EVERY TIME we ask a gal out.
girls for the most part don't have to face as much rejection as guys. yes, it's true that both men and women face difficulties when it comes to dating, but for the most part it's always the guy who has to ask the girl out and getting rejected can get old real fast.
you also have to acknowledge that while we may see a gal who is *really* attractive, we might not feel like we have a chance with her (yes, even when we get hints). as a matter of fact, hints are some of the worse things! there have been plenty of times when a girl has tried to *hint* to some of my friends that she likes him, only for him to think she's just being friendly. and then he asks the girl who was being friendly only to be rejected.
*sigh* look. we're guys, if we're shy it's because things have gone less than spectacular more often than not and so we're VERY cautious, even when the girl gives us hints... because we've read those hints wrong more often than not. so why not ask the guy out? put aside your pride once and ask him out. what's the worse he can say? "no"? heck, most guys get told worse things saying "hi" to a pretty girl who is not their "type".
2007-03-05 08:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by crush the turtle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are just shy by nature. not all of us are the go getter type. Also there may have been times where the guy has put himself out there only to be rejected. Me personally I have been the type that asks and after being turned down many times sometimes asking again just brings about the fear of being rejected once more. And as far as the signals and signs that women put out we don't get it all the time. That's why I say if there is something that a woman wants a man to know just come out and say it instead of hinting to it and dropping hints. I see nothing wrong at all with a woman asking a man out sometimes. You don't have to do it all the time but once in a while is not bad. Besides women have been talking for years about being equal and thus women can ask too. If there were women that would not be too rude whenever a guy does ask her out then maybe we would ask more. Good luck
2007-03-05 07:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most guys are quite shy when it comes to asking girls out. Rejection is pretty much the worst thing that can happen for a guy, cause pride and ego suffers. For most guys this is what stops them from asking out girls.
For the second part of the question, when its obvious that a girl likes us... Guys have great difficulty understanding girls, and quite a lot of girls flirt and wink just because they are being nice, and since rejection is such a big deal guys will need to be sure that the girl will say yes and does actually like them.
Lastly, it might be that he just doesn't feel the sparks, or that he is preoccupied or he's not interested in girls. This is rarely the case, but it happens.
2007-03-05 07:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by Olli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do girls feel so awkward asking a boy out?
Anyway. Boys are shy too! Maybe they're not 100 percent sure you like them. Or they might like someone else. who knows
2007-03-05 07:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess we're afraid of being rejected. Sometimes a girl looks so hot we think we may not be good enough. It's called insecurity and most of us guys go through it. Sorry girls, I'd love to ask you out but...what if you say no. My heart would be broken.
2007-03-05 07:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, we hate rejection. even the classic "lets just be friends" thing hurts more than you have any idea about.
even if you show them youl ike them, for some reason its kinda embarrassing to ask a girl out even if I know they like me, not that I'm embarrassed of the girl!, but I dunno, go ask your dad.
make hints, but dont show off your body as a hint, that tells the guy that your showing off to EVERY guy out there, and he'll act like he likes you just to have sex with u..... heres some ideas:
look at him untill he notices you are, then quickly look away.
smile at him if you want to get that obvious.
wear perfume.
and ask your dad for ideas, even though his ideas may sound a little silly, they work!!! parents arent totaly stupid believe it or not.
(and no, I'm not a parent, I'm 15 and I'm not an alien either)
anyhow, theres my ideas, GL.
2007-03-05 07:32:03 · answer #6 · answered by Sanwi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea very easy for women to say. How many women have insulted a guy for asking. Saying stuff Like ''Yea in your dreams.'' Theres your answer.. Women are great at preaching but dont have the courage to pratice what they preach..
2007-03-05 07:28:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys don't want to be rejected. As far as hinting to a guy to ask you out. If there anything like me, we just don't get it.
2007-03-05 07:28:17 · answer #8 · answered by Pink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of guys fear rejection, hints and stuff help but guys need to be 100% sure before they make any bold moves.
2007-03-05 07:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the guy is shy you have to give him hints you like him...talk to him and he will begin to feel you like him and he will ask you out
2007-03-05 07:33:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋