i am a young woman deeply in love with some one i cant get. however, the person whom i am with, i dont love so much.
2007-03-05 07:19:59 · 10 answers · asked by dizzykizzy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, first off if there is a person that you love that you cannot be with then perhaps it is better to appreciate the fact that you were capable of loving them and were able to see them for who they really were. However, if being with them is not a possibility you should try to move on and focus your love on yourself until there is someone who does come along that sweeps you off your feet and to whom you do want to offer your love to. If you aren't really in love with the person that you are now currently with, I think that you need to either take a look at the relationship and see if you really do feel this way or that perhaps you are too preoccupied with what you don't have that you are taking for granted what you do. I mean if you sincerely do not harbor any real love for someone and you are fixated on someone else, then perhaps the person you are with isn't right for you and that you need to be fair to them and be honest and allow them the ability to move on and find someone else who does care about them on the level that you care about for this other person. In addition, if you aren't satisfied in this relationship and really don't care about them that much, why bother staying and causing yourself added conflict and just dissatisfaction? Don't keep someone in your life on the basis of not wanting to be alone or because you just decided to settle because you can't get the one that you truly desire. This isn't fair to you nor the person you are currently in a relationship with. Life is too short to waste it on endeavors that do not bring your happiness. There is nothing wrong with being single either and on a lighter note, if you want a relationship where you are able to love completely and have that love returned, then you have to make the choice to allow that possibility by getting out the relationship you are currently in. Whatever you decide to do, I hope that if you aren't really able to get the one that you want, that you are able to accept it and move on (rather then waste your time and energy on it) and that you either find out that you really do care about the one you are with (and have just been preoccupied with the one you cannot have because of something similar to the saying that "the grass is greener on the other side and that this person you claim to be head over heels in love with is just more or less someone that you have built high expectations over and that you would probably find flaws with too), or that you are able to realize that you are indeed unable to find happiness in your current relationship and take the chance on being single so that the opportunity for someone to come into your life who you love and who will return that love can occur. Take care and good luck:)
2007-03-05 07:36:38 · answer #1 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because BOTH peope are wrong for you. The right person is out there. You need to let the person you are with go so that the both of you are able to find the person you really want to be with and is able return the love you feel. Please don't be unfair. In the end you'll be hurting both parties more. The quicker you end this the better for both of you. Best of luck!
2007-03-05 15:26:15 · answer #2 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why stick with someone you don't love, move on with your life. You could be keeping the person you are with from finding someone who truely will love them and at the same time, you are preventing yourself from finding the happiness you deserve by finding the right person for you. Don't be in such a hurry to be in a relationship that you stay with someone you are not happy with.
2007-03-05 15:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just date, don't take a full time lover and always use protection. Also if you treat people better you will be treated well yourself, if you don't like the guy you are seeing, then don't. Easy! ! !
2007-03-05 15:25:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don know
haven't u seen forest gump
life is like a box of chocolates
u never know what you r goin get
2007-03-05 15:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by willow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because you ask the same question twice. Very annoying.
2007-03-05 15:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"If you can't be with the one you love then love the one you're with."
2007-03-05 15:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by LG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your expectations are too high.
2007-03-05 15:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because u didnt try your best to get him.
2007-03-05 15:22:42 · answer #9 · answered by god of war 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plain and simple...your ******...
2007-03-05 15:24:21 · answer #10 · answered by Twizler 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋