I been having a hard time with this person, she reachme after 2 years and 1/2 since we cut any kind of comunication with her...she said that she wants to start all over again and forget about the pass, she betrayedme in the pass , and , made up rummors about me also put half of the family againts me. just with her lies, now I am very confused, because even if we start all over again I am very mad that my relationship with the rest of the other familiy menbers is ruined because of her ...what iam trying to say is that even if we try to fix things the 2 of us the damage she made is bigger that that, and is kind of late I don't know what to do, I just don't know if I should give her a second chance. when she was out of my file I feel so relieve and in peace , and now she wants to be part of our lives again , she is my mother in law. my husband doesnt want to have anything to do with her , because he is even more hurt than me, he said is up to me if we include her in our lives again
2007-03-05 07:17:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi, well it is very hard to trust someone that hurt you very and it's good that you have your guard up with this person and I suggest that you don't let it down. Okay now she must feel pretty bad about what she did and I think that if she wants to straighten things out with you that maybe she should straighten things out with the rest of the family to on your behalf first, now she knows what she said and she needs to go and let everyone else know that what she did was very wrong and none of it was true. I believe that everyone deserves a second chance and if she is coming to you now after two years, hey people change and learn from their mistakes so it's up to you but I say it's cool but she needs to confront everyone about her wrong doing before anything first of all.
Well good luck.
2007-03-05 17:52:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got a situation on your hands. Personally, I don't know if I would be able to forgive her completely. Especially if she screwed up my relationship with the rest of the family. On the other hand though, everyone deserves a second chance. Put yourself in her shoes. Wouldn't you want to be forgiven and have the chance to make it all better?
2007-03-05 15:25:41 · answer #2 · answered by jacarig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you & your Husband need more time to try & heal from the past pain his Mother has caused you both...Find a tactful way of letting her know this & hopefully she will grant you that space as long as you need..If not then you must insist on your privacy & distance from her...If time is of no help to the situation then learn to live without her in your lives & make it for the better..good luck!
2007-03-05 15:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by *toona* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont you live and learn. When someone cares for you they dont hurt you, if they hurt you once their fault if they hurt you twice your fault! Youve lived happy without this person for over 2 years why give them the chance to bring drama into your life and the life of your family?
2007-03-05 15:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it takes a lot to trust somone who betrayed you before. If you can do it, that's amazing, but my opinion is that you don't have to and probably shouldn't. You moved on so you obviously don't need this person, why bring back uneccessary hurt? If you do decide to let her back into yor life remeber that trust has to be earned, take it slow and be careful. Follow your heart.
2007-03-05 16:06:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jennah C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can not trust someone who have hurt you in the past the person may be sorry but that person may start to her you and your family again if the feeling that drove her to do those things arise again.
2007-03-05 15:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by Nocurfew313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk but i have trusted my ex w/ everything and he has not hurt me sents but it my not be that way for you b/c we was best friends be4 we got to gether
2007-03-05 15:23:06 · answer #7 · answered by t~kat_6_6_6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋