after my brokup with me he told the girl he was trying to get with that he never loved me and was not physically attracted to me. NOW, I can honestly tell you he told me many times How much he was attracted to me and he showed it when we were together. Also, his mother use to tell me I was very beautiful and lets just say I dont have a problem getting a date. I am not a vain person but, he hurt me very badly. I was close to him and his opinion of me mattered. No matter what, I would have never devalued him to be with another guy. Why did he say this. When I confronted him he told me that wasnt true, but if she is a liar why did he continue to be with her? She is the one who told me. Needless to say I severed all ties with him because I dont trust him in any manner anymore. Can someone tell me what or why he said these things about me, I never did anything to him, in fact he broke up with me to be with her. I helped him thru alot when we were together, why would he go to these extremes?
2007-03-05 07:08:09 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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It's not strange that only 1 other guy answered your question.
Only a man can tell you why he does these things, not a woman.
The reason why he did this is for 2 reasons:
1) To PROVE to his "new" attraction that he is not interested in rekindling a relationship with you. This will win him brownie points. No one likes to date someone who is not over a past relationship.
2) To cause discord with you internally - to effect your self-esteem because he KNOWS that you are attractive. Many guys will use this tactic because it is an "ace" card that we pull when we choose to put someone down.
He doesn't mean it - because as I stated, he's just trying to win over the "new" person.
Since it's effected you in some way already, this method he's using is working.
Devalue what he says and close the chapter on him if you're done.
This way you can detach from the value of his words and move forward with your life.
BELIEVE ME - he's sorry that it didn't work.
Good luck!
2007-03-05 07:35:48 · answer #1 · answered by HottNikkels 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to be honest the reason he's still with her is that he likes her the outer her, not the way she actually is. Because a guy who care for how a person is would stop being with her. Now a guy gets bored with girls that care for their well being. you helped him when he needed you and he didn't value that so why value what either one says about you. He's only trying to impress that girl who's attitude is rotten just as his.
2007-03-05 15:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was extreme. *rolls eyes* poor boy was trying to save face and build his new girl's self-esteem at the cost of yours. man, he has power. why did he say it? i don't know. why are you taking it so hard? it's a he-said she-said drama that makes me want to puke. you are better off without the loser. find a better guy...one that doesn't "lie straight face while I cry". compliments Wilson Phillips. ;)
2007-03-05 15:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by Sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just being an @sshole trying to make you feel bad. There are some guys out there that will go out of their way to make you feel that way. I would just ignore him and move on.
2007-03-05 15:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kyle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went thru the EXACT, no different from your situation and to tell u the truth if hes goin girl to girl, hes not ready for just one. mine left me when he got me pregnant. cheer up. its hard i know.
2007-03-05 15:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by Laura J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u answered ur own question ...he only told the girl that cause he wanted to get with her thats all there is to it
2007-03-05 15:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea25609 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋