my fiance and i have been dating for almost 3 years now and were getting married in july. Weve been sexually active for awhile now but i have a MAJOR question. How do i know if i'm still a virgin? When we first had sex, i had just got off my period and started to bleed again afterwards from my 'cherry' popping, i guess. But it still hurts when we do make love. AM i still a virgin, has it not broken all the way( i have heard of it only breaking half way), or could it be something more serious i should look into? HELP!!
2007-03-05 07:05:56 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Once you have sex, you're not a virgin. PERIOD!
2007-03-06 00:15:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's the key words:
"When we first had sex,"
You apparently had sex with him. Therefore, you are no longer a virgin. Even if your hymen is intact by some miracle, you have engaged in sexual activity, ergo, you are certainly no virgin. A virgin is somebody who is innocent of sexual contact.
You may possibly still have a partially intact hymen, this does not make you a virgin. It just makes you a girl with a tough hymen. You should probably see your gynecologist about this. Sometimes a hymen needs to be removed by a doctor because it is particularly tough.
Another possibility is that the two of you aren't taking enough time to be certain that you're completely aroused and lubricated. Try using a little bit of KY jelly or some other water based lubricant (do NOT use Vaseline or other petrolatum based products unless you want the yeast infection from hell!), and taking it really slow and gentle.
2007-03-05 07:11:35 · answer #2 · answered by j3nny3lf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the definition of a virgin is someone who has not had sexual intercourse. You just stated that you are having sex with this guy so no sweetie, you are not a virgin any longer. Once you have sex, you are no longer considered a virgin.
Secondly, It hurt me for a while too. It took my virgina a while to get used to being comfortable. It hurt just like I was having sex for the first time all over again. I understand where you are coming from. I would suggest for your partner to take it easy when yall have sex and hopefully it will improve just like I did=)
Another thing I will share with you is that my nurse practitioner told me to use a pillow at the bottom area of my back to kinda help with the pain. Your insides are like in a slope position so if your spouse inject straight in that can cause pain. So to kinda make it better, she suggested proping a pillow against my back while I"m lying down. Try that and see if that helps you. Good luck!! I hope it gets better for ya b/c I thought it wouldn't for me but it did.
2007-03-05 07:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by jetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES go get checked by GP although its probably nothing serious,you just want to make sure .And sweetheart no your not still a virgin.once your boyfreind entered you he would break the skin even if not all the way ,which i doubt,but your not anymore darling.But you should be proud of yourself .You have lost your virginity to him.that has to be the best present to give the man you love and intend to marry and imagine if your both still together( for the right reasons of course)when you become grandparents and you can say with pride that he was literally the only 1.That just doesnt happen often enough today.I wish i could say that,but i was married twice .Its sometimes how things go,no matter how hard you try.
2007-03-05 07:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by patsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you have had sexual intercourse you are no longer a virgin! A virgin is someone who has never had sex.!
You probably should have a check-up with a good ob-gyn, the reason for painful intercourse could be a symptom of a build-up of the wall of your uterus (I forget what it's called). Sometimes this is treatable, but either way you should know if that is the cause. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-05 07:09:50 · answer #5 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have had sexual intercourse you are not a virgin. If you are still having pain during sex it could be you are to dry or it could be something else. You should probably go to your OBGYN doctor and have a check up, tell him/her what is going on so he can make sure it is nothing serious.
2007-03-05 07:09:41 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Heart, you ceased being a virgin when you had sexual intercourse!!
The presence of a hymen is NOT the definition of virginity. As far as pain during intercourse, go see a doctor [gyn]...this is not the place for medical advice.
You might also want to become more knowledgeable about sex, your body and life in general.
2007-03-05 07:09:34 · answer #7 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have been penetrated so you are not a vigin. There may be some other issue if it still hurts to have sex. You may not be wet enough and may need a lubricant, or something more serious could be wrong. Your best bet is to see an ob/gyn or a regular doctor.
2007-03-05 07:09:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I doubt if your hymen is still intact. If he is well endowed, then it will cause pain. If you use lubricant and it still hurts, then I would go to the doctor to make sure you're ok down there. Also, long periods of sex can also rub a woman raw. 20 minutes or more can cause pain.
Just to make sure, go to your doctor. It's better to be safe, then sorry.
2007-03-05 07:12:15 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sexually active= not virgin. if you are still bleeding after each time u have sex go see your doctor. No one can answer this as well as your Doctor can after giving you an examination. =)
2007-03-05 07:09:37 · answer #10 · answered by ☆Ele☆ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me you are no longer a virgin. If it is hurting when your having intercourse you may not be prepared for him or maybe you are very petite? If your really worried and want a more accurate answer go to your doctor.
2007-03-05 07:12:04 · answer #11 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋