He did not tell me in the beginning and I found out by looking him up on the internet. He says that I am the one he wants to be with and give him time to get everything straight. I am mad because he has lied and now I am in love with a married man. I did not sign up for this relationship. My feelings are still strong for him. What to do?
2007-03-05 07:00:53 · 13 answers · asked by NikeDiva 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you even have to ask this question, than you already know the answer. You don't need us to justify your decision for you. You have already made your choice.
Something to consider: there is no such thing as "meeting the right one" while in a different relationship. If he's cheating on her with you, eventually he will cheat on you with someone else. There is nothing you can do to stop that. And you should be furious with him!!!! He took advantage of you, and it only playing a sick game. And darling, if you look deep within yourself, you will find you are not really in love with him. You are only feeling confusion based on false hopes of your future.
Dump him. Delete him from your life. Set yourself up to receive someone who is available and honest. He will not change for you. You are not that powerful. I'm sorry if this hurts, but it's the truth. He's a jerk!
2007-03-05 07:08:01 · answer #1 · answered by kari w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question.... I'm giving you a star.. I was friends with a man for a year before we dated, and I had no idea that he was married. I found out three days before I found out I was pregnant. I moved on, and it depends on if you can. I didn't want to live a lie, and it took me awhile after that (because he kept coming over even after I had the baby, and saying that he wanted me and her) to realize that he wasn't going to change. It depends on what this man is like, and if you can really if I may "trust" him or not. I wish you the best of luck though.
2007-03-05 15:07:20 · answer #2 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut your losses and move on. The guy lied to you for a whole year, is that someone you want to be with? He claims he'll leave his wife for you...so what does that say about him? Not a whole lot, in my book. He promised to love and honor his wife until death, and he hasn't held up his end of that bargain. What makes you think he'll keep any promises he makes to you? By the way, that almost never happens, as divorce can almost always be a financial mess, especially for a man.
2007-03-05 15:06:21 · answer #3 · answered by karen p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you will not continue to be the other woman, if it is you he wants to be with he must end the relationship with the wife and to look you up when his divorce decree is finalized. Do keep in mind he cheated and lied on the relationship with you....do you really think he won't do this again?
2007-03-05 15:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by sunset 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He says he wants time to get everything straight? Give it to him - on the condition that you will not see him until he has severed his attachment to his current relationship. That should tell you whether he's actually serious about wanting to be with you, or if he's just trying to manipulate you so he can keep stringing you along on the side.
2007-03-05 15:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by stmichaeldet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a man doesn't get divorced for a girl on the side. That only happens in fairy tales. You should be mad at him, since withholding information is the same as lying.
2007-03-05 15:07:16 · answer #6 · answered by MICHAEL G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes a Cheater, A Player. Dump his A** immediately. He only wants you for 1 thing. I feel sorry for his wife but in time she will wisen up and Kick him out Also. Put yourself in his wife's shoes how would you feel?
2007-03-05 15:05:54 · answer #7 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
duh??
leave him now, first your breaking up a marriage reguardless how happy he is in it, and second if he leaves his wife that hes lying to for you whats gunna stop him from cheating on you in the near future, the guys an idiot and so are you if you give him any more time.
2007-03-05 15:05:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anthony C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. my friend did this, he told her over and over that he wanted to be with her, she continued to see him and his wife found out. they still continued to date etc... well he said one night he left his wife, the next day, he told my firend it was over , served her with a restraining order and told her to never come near him or his family again!
would you want to go thru that?!!
get out while you can, it will hurt now, but it could hurt alot worse if he throws your aszz in jail.
2007-03-05 15:05:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him he will never leave his wife for you he is lieing to you if he was so unhappy he would already have left and he is playing you.And if he did it to his wife he will do it to you also. what a loser
2007-03-05 15:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋