Hi. I need advice on how to deal with a 5 year old little girl who thinks it's ok to yell/scream at me and throw a terrible attitude at any point when she doesn't get her way. She's been like this for about 1 week and it's getting progressively worse. I've tried time outs, little dab of soap in the mouth, taking away cartoons/tv for the day and finally a spanking to which none seem to even phase her. any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
2007-03-05 07:00:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My son, (who just turned 6) & I would battle about him picking up his toys in his room. He has a lot of hot wheels, etc. He would get a spanking and I would tell him he has 30 minutes. If he wasn't done, I would give him a laundry basket and he had to put all toys in there. He officially has no toys in his room, except for board games that are on his top shelf in the closet. All toys are in the basement.
You need to be firm especially in your voice. DON'T EVER back down from a punishment. If swear words are being mentioned from your little girl, SCRAPING the bar of soap on the top teeth worked great for me along with a pop in the mouth. You can try to talk to her, but you have to remember their attention span is about a zero. DO NOT reward her. You are telling her that it's ok to have an attitude, because in the end you get a treat. Stay firm, don't take her crap. You are the parent. Good Luck, I'm there with ya.
2007-03-05 08:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
When my 6 year old daughter would yell at me, I stop her and tell her that her yelling was unacceptable behavior and will not be tolerated. Then when she is calm - I would sit her down and let her know that we dont always get what we want and that even though we may not like it - we accept it. I tell her that when she yells at me - it hurts my feelings.
then - I let her know that from now on - when she yells there are consequences. ( For me - I did the 1-2-3 method) If she did not stop yelling at 3- she had a naughty spot - Much like Suppernanny. She had to sit there for 6 minutes and any time she got up ( before 6 min)- the time started over. Only after 6 min and an apology with the understanding of what she is apologizing for - would she be allowed up. It may take a few times and some patience on your part- but hopefully she will learn that Mommy is not being respected when she yells - and that it is not OK to act this way. There are better ways to express your frustration or anger besides yelling.
2007-03-05 07:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by kris 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I sure hope you can nip THIS in the bud, or it's going to get much worse!
Stick to your guns with the time-outs / revoking privileges. Try standing her in a corner too. Let her know that you love her, but you will NOT tolerate that behavior. If it has just started, where did it come from? Has there been a recent dramatic change in her life? Is she seeing it on tv? (SuperNanny or something?) Try to find out why she is doing this now and deal with the root of the problem.
(Praise God, my oldest daughter didn't start this until she hit puberty, and my youngest was a junior in high school before SHE started - right at their "social life peaks" while still under my roof! But they both learned real quick that behavior was NOT going to fly! Revoking driving privileges, phones, dances, etc are miracle workers at that point in life!)
2007-03-06 06:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe just try to sit her down and talk to her - get her a bowl of ice cream and sit with her - reward her for listening. Kids are smarter than we think.
Explain to her that mommy/daddy love her but that it's hard to help her if she's screaming all the time. Ask her to explain why she does it, is it because she doesn't like what mommy/daddy are saying or asking? You might be surprised with her response. Make her feel like she's allowed to say no but that it's not acceptable to scream and yell because it won't get her what she wants. Explain that mommy/daddy ask her to do things sometimes because they just want her to be happy and want to teach her the right ways to do things and if she's going to continue then you will continue to take things away from her until she understands.
She's probably just testing you, stand your ground but be calm with her, kids learn by example. Hope that helps.
Good Luck!
2007-03-05 07:13:58 · answer #4 · answered by JD 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take all of her privileges away from her until she gets back on track again - plus remove all of her toys (from her bedroom).
My daughter does this with her girl whenever she behaves badly and once she gets back on track again - the toys and privileges return.
You just have to remember who the parent is, make sure she also knows this and tell her NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! more often. It may take some time but the sooner she knows who the parent is - the easier your life will be.
2007-03-05 08:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
LOL, I am laughing because you just described my daughter who is 5 too. Got to love school huh? I usually get right down and look her in the face and say "ENOUGH" in a strong voice. This gets her attention. Or I'll say "I don't think so." This gets the point across too. 5 years old going on 16...
2007-03-05 07:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just keep doing what you are doing. She is testing you and it will NOT be an immediate fix. Don't be too distressed if it takes months to get her out of this. Just hold your ground and every time she acts up - punishment. She cannot hold out forever and will eventually learn consequences.
2007-03-05 07:09:13 · answer #7 · answered by GP 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
maybe its time for a little discipline. Show her whose boss, and that it's not ok, to do what ever she want to do.
2007-03-05 07:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by Imani 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her every day mommy is dying
2007-03-05 07:07:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 6⤋
spank her
2007-03-05 07:25:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋