I'ts been nearly a whole year and he isn't leaving me alone. He keeps sending weird messages like the day before this ball he asks me 2 slow dance with him when we are only friends! i don't understand guys ! why doesn't he get the message!? i have enough stress and i have tried telling him firmly but he doesn't listen!
On the night of the ball i was avoiding him and being a little mean but i guess i have to be ''cruel to be kind'' right?
He really needs 2 move on and take in mind that we were young and that i didn't mean to go out with him!
What can i do??
2007-03-05 06:56:42 · 29 answers · asked by Pureness =) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Flat out tell him that he is harassing you. And if it continues you will get a restraining order on him. Cruel to be kind.
2007-03-05 07:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always take the high road, so these are just my suggestions. I would avoid being anywhere he may be or show up. I would also walk away without a confrontation if he shows up where you are. Don't take any phone calls and never do anything to encourage him. In time, he will get the message. Remember, men a slow to react to all situations and this is no different.
2007-03-05 15:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by chrylmichell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys don't get it when you marry someone else and have 5 kids - they still think you have the hots for them.
Once they have been friendly to you then how could you possibly resist the urge to get back with them? You can be rude, nice, ignore them, none of this will make the slightest difference - its locked in their mind once they have planted the flag, the mountain belongs to them (Jerry Seinfeld).
I have $10.00 that says you actually danced with him that night. It was the worst thing you could do - he will tell all his friend he slept with you that night, whether you did or not. His friend probably photographed the 2 of you together.
One thing that does work sometimes is to get a beer, walk up to his table where he is talking with his friends and empty it over his head. Make sure you have old clothes on and LOTs of your friends around. Make sure they get pictures. It will be very exciting for a while.
Suggest you chose slightly better guys to be friends with.
2007-03-05 15:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by jinoturistica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak firmly and make sure your actions back it up. Speak in front fo mutual friends. Tell him if he continues the police will be involved and this behaviour will not be tolerated.
Avoid him when possible.....block his number....and obtain a restraining order if need be.
The time for kindness has passed .....start to live YOUR life...don't worry about his. It akes some people longer to get the message.
2007-03-05 15:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by shak2043 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my young friend, let me give you some advice from someone a bit older than you I am sure. Speak the truth sista, and move on, you had no problem saying it here "cruel to be kind". Well take your own advice and put it to use as needed. Other wise you will be played like too many people are, and I do not like games, and sounds like you are almost there as well. DUMP HIM WITH TACT AND MOVE ON! Good luck
2007-03-05 15:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by selms01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I didn't know a dance had so much riding on it. If you continue to run from your past you won't have much of a future. This guy must be one heck of a stalker. It's too bad you can't just spell it out for him, however you are also going to extreme of avoiding and being mean to him. Maybe that's whats turning him on.
2007-03-05 15:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh-why are you hanging around with him, in the same places, etc. It is absurd for you to think/expect that the two of you can be friends-you are both obviously NOT on the same page, so just stay away from him and stop taking his calls, etc. It is best for both of you to NOT HAVE ANY CONTACT-then with time, you will both move on. Think of each other as a bottle of alcohol and as if he is an alcoholic, so do him a favor and don't tempt or tease him with your presence in his life! Then he will be eventually free to move on. If you don't let go, how can he...and for you, letting go means TOTALLY releasing him from your life!
2007-03-05 15:03:34 · answer #7 · answered by Salsa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore his calles his messages and everything else... explain to him that if he wants to talk to u he should talk to u as a friend and if he doesnt accept that then cut him out of ur life till he lets go and starts seeing u the way u see him ( a friend and only a friend)
:)
2007-03-05 15:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt mean to go out with him?! How can you not mean to go out with someone?! Stop replying to his texting - in his case, you simply cant be friends, at least not until he's more mature and handling the situation better. Dont be cruel, its never kind, it might just make things worse.
2007-03-05 15:03:22 · answer #9 · answered by keeley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can quit complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. You can move away. You can hire thugs to..., You can avoid making the same mistake by picking the exact same kind of guy next time. You can grow up and quit trying so hard for attention. You have loys of things you can do.
2007-03-05 15:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by rico3151 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋