The other day I found out from my boyfriend that he was at a party years ago and witnessed a guy put a beer bottle up a girl (if you know what I mean) and then someone drank it. Then there was this other time he was at a party and two very wellknown girls(Im trying to be nice) stripped for the guys and were walking around naked. Later that night everyone did those girls at the same time. Except for my boyfriend of course.....yeah right! now this was when he was in high school, and now we've grown up a lot. We have a son together and are buying our own house, but when I think about all the things he used to do I just dont know if Ive made a mistake planning a life with him. It would be kind of stupid to leave him for the stuff hes done in the past right? What do you think?
2007-03-05 06:53:45 · 12 answers · asked by Princess Rach 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We were dating off and on. He used to always accuse me of doing stupid things or being slutty, and look at him.
2007-03-05 07:06:17 · update #1
The past is the past and it shouldnt have any impact on your present situation. You loved him and wanted to be with him before you found out about it, why should that change now. Keep in mind he probably thought that about you in the past because that was the kind of girls he was used to seeing and probably assumed all girls were that way. You have both grown up now and he obviously wants to be with you and you want to be with him. Enjoy each other and keep the communication open, you cant change the past but you can mold the future by being open and honest with each other always.
2007-03-05 07:41:09 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking for all the dogs in the world, well adult dogs.
I used to bounce in a couple bars and got into alot of things then and I was single then also.Now that I've matured I wouldn't do those things because I love my wife and would never do anything to hurt her or her feelings
Hopefully your husband feels the same way about you. I never talk to my wife about what and with whom I did anything.
If you asked about his past, I believe don't ask a question, you don't know the answer to. Because you may get your feelings hurt.
Only you know how the conversation came up, so only you can decide why he was talking about it. If he brought it up and it makes you uncomfortable tell him, like an adult. If you guys were bedroom talking, he may just be blowing smoke.
But I would say with what you wrote, there's no reason to leave him, he just has a past like most of us who have lived a little. right, wrong or otherwise.
The last thing to remember is you have a past a know things also, that he may never know, like, you've had a bigger, better,longer lasting lover, you've just chose not to hurt his feeling. Would you want him to leave you because you had someone else mentioned above?
Hope this help, email me if you need too
2007-03-05 15:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you should have never had him talk about this stupid stuff that he did in high school. You should have cut him off, and said I don't want to hear that stuff. Now you know, and you can't get the images out of your head. Those images can affect your relationship, and you really have to make a decision if you can feel the same way about him, if not you have to get out of the relationship because those can and will haunt your relationship
2007-03-05 15:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your issues with his past are frivolous and actually show a lot of insecurities withing yourself.
I hate to tell you this, but that's what MEN do. We LOVE that kinda stuff. any man that tells you he's just not into group sex, random hookups, bl*w jobs from strange hot women, is LYING to you and trying to make himself look good.
You wanted a man, now you've got one. If he's being faithful to you, why doesn it matter what he did in the past? At least he got to experience it before you two got together. If he hadn't he'd always be wondering "what if?".
2007-03-05 15:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was the PAST. This is the PRESENT. Your boyfriend has probably changed. At least he told you about what he used to do. Don't hold his past against him. People do change. Your boyfriend has changed if he is willing to tell you about his not-so-perfect past. You just need to focus on the PRESENT and FUTURE with him.
2007-03-05 15:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest, i used to be a "well known" girl. but i did grow up and now i have 2 beautiful kids. my advice would be to just let it go. the past is the past...as long as he doesn't do the same thing now.
2007-03-05 14:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by trisha_r_c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past is the past so let it RIP you can't have a future if you continue to live in the past so move on and get over it its his past so leave it alone.
2007-03-05 14:59:00 · answer #7 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont leave unless he has done somthing to you to hurt you in anyway.. yea hes done some (really) stupid stuff but not to you and he has probably changed.. if you cant get around it think of ur kid
2007-03-05 15:00:56 · answer #8 · answered by Poptart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes past is kinda dirty so.....is he still that way and do you love him enough not to worry about his past? I think that as long as he isn't still into stuff like that you shouldn't break up with him for his past
2007-03-05 15:01:29 · answer #9 · answered by sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what was not in your day should not hurt you. You just happen to know what's happened cos you are friends, but there are lots of us who did similar things in hs, and we chose not to tell our current girlfriends, so let it go.
2007-03-05 15:01:41 · answer #10 · answered by MICHAEL G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋