In the begining of our 10 month of relationship,I have asked my guy to take me out once in awhile. He promised that he would try but he did mention that he is not big on going out.
I think it is healthy to go out once in a blue even if its some free fun (walk around the neighborhood, picnic in the park) going to a movie or dinner is nice as well. I am not asking for Tavern on the Green...but just to be able to get out of the confines of my apartment. I just want to see him dressed up once in a blue
He seems to have a problem with going out with me. But yet he can do so with his "best friends." And he cleans up quite nicely to go out with them.
I told him that we need a break becasue he calls me crazy when I ask him to go out. Am I supposed to accept this or just move on?
I feel like some caged animal! Rather than cheat on him or go on a date with someone else go out with my friends, alone or with my daughter. What gives?
2007-03-05 06:52:00 · 20 answers · asked by Miss Brookyn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I broke up with him last night. I just wanted to know if I was wrong for feeling this way. I have come to far far to be stifled. I thank each and every one of you for your help. He is a nice guy but apparently not the guy for me. Maybe he will change but I am not going to sit around waiting. Thanks for the advice.
2007-03-05 07:47:06 · update #1
You deserve to get out of the house once in awhile and you are absolutely right that he should be the one to do it. It could be that he is trying to control you or he is just insensitive to your needs. Start going out with your friends, dress up in a knock down sexy outfit and tell him your going out, dont tell him with whom or where you are going. Give him a taste of his own medicine, I guarantee he won't like it. If he keeps acting the same way , dump him, you deserve better.
2007-03-05 06:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call the girls up and plan a night out get dressed up to Jesus and get the heck out of the apartment! If he is going to night clubs and stuff with the buds then he probably is acting very single and available. I would be damned if I sat at home while he was out having a blast with his friends. He doesn't feel threatened cause he knows you are gonna stay home while he is out. You have to keep your man on his toes! If he can't change his ways or comprimise at least then its time to tell him BOO and to hit the road. You need a real man that will take you places and that wants to show you off on his arm.
2007-03-05 07:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only confident women ask men out. Otherwise they are just to shy or retarded to do it. And then you have those women that lived under a rock for the past 40 years and only recently climbed out and still have the mind set of a woman from the 40's
2016-03-29 01:01:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are obviously some issues in your relationship. You are not getting everything out of the relationship that you should be. Also, your boyfriend seems to have some issue with being with you in public. Maybe he doesn't want to have to pay for you to go out or just likes the "alone time" at home.
Whatever the reason, I think you definitely deserve better. You shouldn't have to sacrifice your desires because your b/f doesn't want to.
2007-03-05 06:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by jwhite82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to spend as much time out with you that he spends with his friends. There has to be a compromise. If he is not willing to compromise then he doesn't deserve you anyway. It's not fair for you to be stuck in the house all of the time, especially during the time he is out with his friends. You need to tell him that either you two start acting like a normal couple or you are gone and you will find someone who will take you out. Play him the song by Beyonce, "Irreplaceable". I would think my man was hiding something if he didn't want to take me out. Maybe he is seeing someone else and is afraid if you two go in public she will see you two together.
2007-03-05 06:56:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are letting him go out with his mates, you have a right to be taken out from time to time.
To be taken for a casual dinner or to the local pub for a drink and a laugh now and then should not require an act of congress.
Tell him if going out is not important to him, than he needs to stay home with you and not go out with his mates. He can either take you out now and then, continuing to enjoy his freedom with the 'boys', or he can keep to the house and not go out at all.
If that doesn't work, get yourself all dressed up, wait for him to come in the door, grab your hand bag and head for the door. when he says what are you doing, you say i'm going out. When he says where, you say if you were that bothered, you'd offer to take me once in awhile instead. turn and walk out the the door. Let him stew for several hours.
Set up so you can visit or go out with a friend. When you've left him wondering long enough, go ahead home. When he asks where you've been, say just out. When he says where, say if it had really mattered, you'd take me out instead. Go get a pillow and blanket. Hand them too him. Say, Maybe you need more time to think about this. Go in the bedroom, lock the door, and leave him to sulk.
If he doesn't wake up after that, it's time to find a new boyfriend that apreciates you giving him his freedom with this friends enough to take you out now and then.
Good luck :-)
2007-03-05 07:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by Captain Jack ® 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say he should take you out, and spend time outside of your home together doing something fun.
You are right, it doesn't have to be where he spends a lot of money, but mabye something fun, like walk down the boardwalk, look at stuff, get some ice-cream, and talk.
I think you should expect that, and if he can't deliver, then move on.
You deserve better.
2007-03-05 06:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's an idiot. He should be going out with you, as that is a normal part of a healthy relationship. It also doesn't help at all that he is calling you crazy, trying to make it like it's your fault. It's not. If anyone is crazy here, it's definitely him. He needs to shape up or ship out. You deserve better treatment than that.
~Kyle
2007-03-05 06:56:27 · answer #8 · answered by Kyleontheweb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really feel like this relationship is strong? Not trying to instigate but maybe you two only have an 'indoor' relationship for a reason. Just something to think about... If I was dating someone and they never wanted to take me out I would def think something was wrong.
2007-03-05 06:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. You should be the 1st one he wants to go out with not his guys. He has no respect for you. If you guys don't do anything the relationship will get insanely teadeous and it will not work. Obviously he don't wanna work on it. There's plenty of fish in the sea.
2007-03-05 06:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋