I split wit the love of my life 5 months ago,we were really in love. She dumped me cus she thought i didnt trust her cus of a message she got,it was sent by my sis but i took the blame cus of family probs in r house. I near died wit a wee prob and my mum had a cancer scare. She was upset i didnt tell the truth. She went in2 depression wen we split. I wanted 2 tell her but she wudnt speak 2 me, she emailed me recently,shes wit a new guy,she told me she likes him but not in love yet,she still loves me and always will. She said she cant go bak 2 me cus she wont trust me after this but wants me as a friend. Wat do i do cus i really love her,id rather b died than live witout her, i know i can win her trust round,quite quickly,please help me guys. Ive 2 emil her bak any tips???? Ive found out her new fella is only 16 and shes a 20 year old uni student,r friends r disgusted in her and find it sick but i still love her.
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I sent her alot of letters and emails. I have wrote another letter but i am afraid to send it in case it makes me look obsessed. advice please. should i send it???
2007-03-05 06:44:49 · 11 answers · asked by Paddy I 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO. Let it go. You are not ready to be friends with this girl.
2007-03-05 06:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by rockhoundguide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in love is tough, when you break trust and respect its hard to get it back. I suppose it could be worse you could have cheated on her, but as you didn't my suggestion is this-
either let her go, say good bye and later
Or
Meet her (just her, if her fella shows, bail) for coffee, keep your hugs and hands to yourself, explain what happened (be honest) and tell her you still love her (without mush) and explain to her that you would like to have her back, but if she is really hooked into this guy she's seeing then you can let her be happy and in love with him.
When you are done, apologize, and say good bye- leaving your number with her, its up to her now.
Wait a month, place all the things that remind you of her into a box, when that month is done call her and tell her you have some of her belongings you would like to return. Drop them off and tell her, solidly- "Good bye. I hope your life is perfect and great, but I need to move on. This is my life and I can't wait any longer to live it."
It is your life, do not get hung up on could haves, or should haves, you need to live.
2007-03-05 06:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by Harmon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well its so icky he is only 16
and tell her what you told us tell her you still love her and you would do anything to get her back and that you want her back but if she can only handle being friends for now you will do that cus you would rather he in your life with the pain of knowing you are just a friend then living with the pain of not having her at all
2007-03-05 06:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, absolutely DO NOT SEND ANYMORE LETTERS OR EMAILS TO HER! If you really want this woman, show that you are not interested. She left you, and therefore, you have to proceed as if its over and move on, or at least suffer in silence and ignore her. She will either come back to you, or she never will, but that will work, if anything. Stop being all sapping, girls dont like push overs.
2007-03-05 06:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aaw this story is cute but sad but as for you i think you should do what you feel in your heart and about that 16 year old that is kinda scary cause she is 20 but that aint my bussiness but newayz yes send the letter cause you need to let her know how you feel and if you guys were really in love then if God meant for it to be just trust and believe it will be. well god bless and take care!
2007-03-05 06:49:50 · answer #5 · answered by elleshisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no do not send that. if being without her you're this bad... think how bad it'll be if you are with her and can't have her, you know? try dating other people and not thinking about her. the more you dwell on her, the worse off you'll be. trust me. i know exactly how you feel. i'm going through the same thing right now with my ex. just gotta let her go.
2007-03-05 06:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by TJ B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the letters you sent her have the same type of grammer and spelling problems, then don't ever send her a letter again!
2007-03-05 06:50:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask her to give you another chance... how does it matter if you look obsessed... and tell her everything... she ll love you. she is confused. she is tryin to be cautious,and takin the wrong step.. don be late now... or you ll regret your whole life... and she has a right to know the truth before makin the decision of her life!!!
All The Best!!!! take care
2007-03-05 06:53:47 · answer #8 · answered by ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should remain friends and prove to her that she can trust you. Time is the only way to show her that. if it's true love than you will get back together again in time.
2007-03-05 06:49:08 · answer #9 · answered by chinacat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should just tell your feelings and tell her the truth that it was your sister that wrote the letter and that u swear and that u will suicide yourself just for her love
2007-03-05 06:49:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋