1st I will tell you that I am 42 and have been divorced for 2 years. I have been dating a man for almost 8 months and am not sure where I stand with him. He says he loves me and I believe that in his own way he does...The problem is that he doesnt see me very often. We only live about 30 minutes apart and yet he finds reasons not to come to my house nor does he ask me over. He is always putting others before me...I dont want to spend 24/7 with him and I am grown up enough to understand that things happen but I would like to matter...I spent 3 days in the hospital over Valentines day and he never visited and I didnt even get a gift for Valentines day. Am I wrong to worry and think maybe he doesnt really care or am I asking to much. I am not looking for someone just to sleep with (we havent done that) but I would like at least a little interest..Please tell me what to do....or do I already know the answer deep down...
2007-03-05 06:41:01 · 6 answers · asked by nascargirl216 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i've noticed in life, as women especially, that we tend to make simple situations much more complicated than they need to be... take you, for example: you've told me all i need to know here. largely because i've been there before myself...
a year ago, i was hospitalized for a battery of testing for two days after some disturbing exam results pointed towards cervical cancer. my boyfriend of THREE YEARS could not seem to find the time to pull himself away from his work to be with me during a time when i didn't know where my life was headed, or even if it would end soon.
the best gift i received in that short stay in the hospital room was from one of the nurses... she gave me a book called "he just isn't that into you" by greg behrendt and liz tuccillo. i was slightly insulted at first, but after reading through the first chapter, i realized that she, and the authors, were right. here's a link to an excerpt: http://www.usatoday.com/life/books/excerpts/2004-09-08-hes-just_x.htm
bottom line is this: if you aren't getting what you want from this man, then he isn't the man you want. ...and if you aren't getting what you need from him, then he definitely isn't the man you need. i think you already know the answer... i know i did when i reached out for help a year ago. i let a three year relationship go, but i have never been happier.
best of luck... and remember, you ARE worth it.
2007-03-05 06:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by tracii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you do already know what you have to do, and that is to move on a find someone who really cares about you. No having slept with him will make it easier for you to do this. Don't let anyone tell you that 42 is not young enough to start again, because it is. Good luck getting out there and meeting new people!
2007-03-05 06:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by snowshoe134 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I would be concerned with is the possibility that he has a wife or girlfriend besides yourself and that is why he doesn't visit you much. Aside from that, I would say just sit down and talk to him about it. It seems to me he isn't taking enough interest in you and you may want to considering looking somewhere else for the affection you need.
2007-03-05 06:47:07 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been seeing each other for 8 months and he's still not gettin any Sugar for his Cereal...Hmmmm... That could be the problem. Hey, your 42, it's not the same as being a teenager...Man can't live by bread alone, He must have Pu-tang to go with it. I sounds like your not showing hime that "YOU" care.
2007-03-05 07:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by nalla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's a bros before hoe/s (not that you are its just the saying goes like that.) kinda guy or he doesnt really love you hat much
2007-03-05 06:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by lalanoesbest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 42, well in April, but DUMP HIM NOW!!!!!!
2007-03-05 06:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋