(for guys to answer) What would make you turn down sex to a woman?

Question

I hear that most guys want sex all of the time, but not my man..it seems like i am the one that wants it all of the time..so what i am asking u guys is...what makes men turn down sex and not be in the mood? what reasons would you torture your girl (by witholding sex) if she wanted it and not you?

Answer 1

amen to that! lol sorry im not a guy, but i would also like to know XD

Answer 2

You don't say whether he's always been this way with you, or if if's a sudden change. If he's always been that way, it's doubtful he'll change; you're just mismatched in that area and you have to decide whether the rest of the relationship is good enough to justify continuing it.

Drugs, both the therapeutic and recreational kind, can wreak havoc on the libido. Antidepressants, for instance, can reduce sex drive. Alcoholism too.

You imply that he's withholding sex just to make you feel bad. C'mon, now! Is that really the case? Is his motive really to torture you? I think that's unlikely. He's probably as troubled as you over this difference in your respective sex-drive levels.

A mature way to solve the problem is to talk it over in a neutral atmosphere. You're not going to fix the problem by climbing into bed and complaining there and then about how nothing's happening. Go to a nice, quiet restaurant, or take a drive together--somewhere there's no possibility of actual sex taking place, so as to take off the pressure--and gently bring up the topic. Try to be as attentive and as patient as you possibly can, and he may open up to you. You might hear something you don't want to hear, so be ready for anything.

Answer 3

There are many possible reasons why he might not want to have sex. And, they are similar to the ones that women use. The other partner is not as desirable. The other person will not engage in more "exciting" forms of sex. The partner is nagging me too much. The man is under a great deal of stress. The man is depressed.

It is quite possible that he is not withholding sex to punish you. But, the fact that you think that he is does not help the situation. If this is really a big deal, then you should consider a divorce.

Answer 4

I'm not a therapist, but I've kept a few in business, and I have a few ex's, the sensation I got when there was a sexual slowdown, was that the woman considered it to be her prerogative to turn my sex drive on or off, depending upon her mood. When off becomes the main position of one's sex life, you let go of it eventually and let the whole mess slide into disuse. That disuse spreads into every type of physical contact. No contact, no arousal, no eye contact, no intellectual contact, and it spreads into every type of person you can be, the whole system shuts down. Women lose any place they had in your life. As people you miight get interested in,Women come with a big cautinary blinking light.. One has no where to go, and wouldn't go anyway, because of wedding vows, and the drive is soon completely disabled and everything is at all stop. This situation where one has zero sex drive, can be tolerated fairly well. other than the knowledge that your losing the ability to have feelings. I was able to sleep in the livig room for more that two years, and had no desires at all, bcause I was going to be nothing but a beard for this last wife. Having zero interest in the opposing sex caused other problems, I started expecting things from women that I hadn't before, such as meaning what they said, and if they got mean or vicious with me, I got mean and vicious right back. I had nothing to gain from any association with women.I was accused of twisting everything said to me into something not meant. I proceeded to get very quiet. Being hormonal, or down with PMS , other female related items meant less to me as time went on. After all nothing I did was changing anybodies mind on the home front. Weeks turned to years. It's like living alone. Stopped caring about hours, nothing but work mattered. So I stayed at work. It was loveless. Whatever her problems, she could not solve them with me there, so I interviewed with her shrink, and made plans to leave. there was no other women, there was really no where to go, I was going to leave cause I was feeling mighty cold in her presence. That was divorce and three years ago, and I'm still wary and untrusting of women. They haven't changed I changed. The problem is mine. But turning down sex is easy at this time. If a women shows interest in me, I know I'm going to be out something for the pleasure of her company, and I keep my distance. I eventually met a very nice person, whose problems exceeded mine by a power of ten, she appreciated my company, but with the divorce coming down, she could not handle her problems with mine around. But we still tallk. I don't talk to the ex, so nothing changed . No sex has served me well, no more damage and I have retained a few possessions.

Answer 5

Well, I've simply not been in the mood before. I've also turned it down from girls I haven't known. I didn't a few weeks ago and I was not even attracted to her. Bad idea. I bolted within an hour and haven't spoken to her since. Oddly, I don't feel bad about it. She was really obnoxious.

Answer 6

The answer is usually a complex one but I will try to simplify it for you.........PRESSURE. Many men experience guilt and a sense of pressure to perform up to what he perceives as his ladies wants, needs and expectations. i.e. Women often complain because the man doesn't last long enough!
In a man's mind, his desire to please his woman can be so intense that he may eventually give up rather than to disappoint her.
Been there....done that!!!!!!!

Answer 7

The only reason I can think of, short of him being gay, is that he is either embarassed by the size of his manhood or he is afraid he isn't satisfying you. Personally I would love a woman who wanted sex all the time.

Answer 8

you do not say regardless of if he's often been this way with you, or if if's a unexpected substitute. If he's often been that way, this is uncertain he will substitute; you're in simple terms mismatched in that section and additionally you're able to desire to settle on regardless of if the the remainder of the courting is powerful sufficient to justify continuing it. drugs, the two the healing and entertainment form, can wreak havoc on the libido. Antidepressants, case in point, can decrease sexchronic. Alcoholism too. You propose that he's withholding intercourse just to make you sense undesirable. C'mon, now! Is that extremely the case? Is his purpose somewhat to torture you? i think of it somewhat is not likely. he's in all probability as afflicted as you over this distinction on your respective intercourse-power ranges. A mature thank you to unravel the project is to communicate it over in a independent environment. you at the instant are not likely to restoration the project by potential of mountaineering into mattress and complaining there and then approximately how not something's going on. flow to a helpful, quiet eating place, or take achronic jointly--someplace there's no danger of extremely intercourse going on, with a view to take off the rigidity--and gently boost the subject rely. attempt to be as attentive and as affected person as you probable can, and he could open as much as you. you're able to be able to take heed to something you do not choose to take heed to, so be waiting for something.

Answer 9

maybe he is too tired or not into sex as much as you are. if i could i would have sex all the time too but didnt work out that way for me either

Answer 10

If she is attractive enough for me to date I want sex with her.