What's the best way to lose weight when you are a stay at home mom?

Question

I'm 21 years old and right now my weight is constantly on my mind. I hate to say this but I weigh 267 lbs. I hate it and I don't know what to do. I talk about going to the gym and watching what I eat but I can't seem to do it by myself. And when I plan to go to the gym and work out something always comes up with the baby, I can't go and I get bummed out! And I've noticed that if something slightly goes wrong (it could be like, my honey isn't paying attention to me when I'm speaking to him or the baby is having a crying tantrum) that I go straight to sweets, literally. I eat when I get upset or depressed. Is there something wrong with me? Do I I need to go to someone for help?

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Honestly, about half the women in America feel the same way! Being a stay-at-home mom sounds like such an easy job and many people think that it means you have tons of free time to take long hot baths, keep your house spotless, work out for hours and cook a gourmet meal every night. As you well know, this is NOT true!

Do you have a friend that is also concerned about her health? Maybe when the weather is nice you can take your kids for a stroll through the neighborhood or on a nearby bike trail (they're awesome for strollers!) or even trade babysitting duties with you. Walking is great because anyone can do it and even just a little can help you get in shape.

I have struggled with motivation too. The only motivation that I have is when I look in the mirror, but that only serves to depress me and, of course, makes me want to eat. I think you need to keep busy and find things that are fun FOR YOU and make time FOR YOU (these are the hardest things for a stay-at-home mom to do, believe me.).

I think that organized weight loss programs (like Weight Watchers) or the prepared meal plans (like Jenny Craig or NutriSystem) can work for you, but they are costly and you can't keep buying food forever -- eventually you will have to learn to eat right on your own. Still, if you are getting desparate and can afford to do it, I think you will be successful.

Remember that it is not just your weight that you want to change, but your health as well. You will enjoy life (and those kids) so much more if you feel better about yourself -- and just FEEL BETTER, period.

First step is to take that first step, you know what I mean? Call a friend and make a deal with her that you will support her if she will support you -- you can call each other when you feel week and need a pep talk.

Good luck, and let me know how you are doing. Millions of people are in the same boat, so you are never alone.

P.S. Don't you wish stress made you want to work out instead of eat? Life would be so much simpler! :-)

Answer 3

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Answer 4

well i can say it is just going to get harder as you get older, so try, try, & try now. Im @ 10 years older. Same boat. I started w/ my 1st baby, your age, gained 20 lbs w/ her, never lost it. Pregnant years later, another 25lbs, never lost it. So years later, still w/ both baby weights never lost. Only difference w/ us is I am happy. NOT happy w/ weight, but just happy in life, my kids, my family. I feel if i wasnt so happy I could lose the weight easier. Going to a gym would be a good idea. I go in spurts, sometimes go for months, then my littlest gets real sick(severe asthma), & im out for a couple months, & hard to start up again. But gyms do have babysitting---& this sounds good for you. It will give you the chance to meet other moms, & women. Join a womens gym.. Much nicer, no men, doesnt matter what you wear, if you sweat--its just nice. I think getting out would be good for you. Otherwise a piece of equipment for the home. A treadmill if you have the $, i always find it helpful. Or walks around the blocks, pushing baby. Find another mom or neighbor, do it together. Have someone w/ you helps, you'll push them at times, & theyll push you a t times. Whatever you choose make it a routine. Stick w/ it. Also try weight watchers for the eating problems. Theyll teach you about food & eating & give you the encouragement. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 5

Walk.

Stop eating two hours before bedtime.

Drink more water.

Take small steps towards a healthier lifestyle.

If you can't do it for yourself, do it for your child. I'm sure they don't want to see you die prematurely from obesity or diabetes or a heart attack.

The gym is not the answer. Your bad habits must be replaced with healthier habits.

Turn off the TV and go for a walk. Thirty minutes a day, everyday, rain or shine.

It will take a long time to lose the weight, but trust me... it's worth it.

If you can't find motivation, go buy some Nike's and "just do it".

Good luck. Gotta run...

Answer 6

Only you know if its a pattern of behavior that you can change, or if you need help. There are things you can try that might help for now. Try putting the baby in the stroller and go for a walk everyday - it'll be good for both of you. There are also books out (and I'm sure you could find some articles online) that have excercises to do WITH your baby. There are also mommy & baby classes at places like the YMCA that do the same thing. Also, find another "habit" when you get stressed... Call a supportive friend, grab an apple, have a cup of your favorite tea, etc.

Answer 7

The problem as I see it is, you always try to do things for somebody else rather than yourself, probably because you enjoy to feel like a "selfless hero". But then whenever they don't give back to you you eat because you are not fulfilled.

Solution is, understand how doing things for others in the hope to get something back does NOT work (especially when you don't get anything, or you don't get what you want). Selfless acts are truly selfless only when there is nothing you even wish to get back. And btw being selfless is not always the best way to be!

There is nothing bad in doing things for yourself, and I suspect it's what you think. So you will want your husband to be supportive, or other parents, and the like, "otherwise" you will... eat.

What will happen to you when, in 20 year, your precious baby won't give back to you what you wanted? Will you put on 50 more lbs?

You aren't overweight because you are a mom, or because your husband doesn't pay attention to you. You are overweight because you CHOSE to respond to life drawbacks by eating more, so that the ones that neglect you will feel guilty for their neglect.

Assume responsibility, even though it's hard, and take charge of your life. If you do, whatever happens YOU will steer your life. If you don't, whatever happens you will be steered here and there by husband, baby, family, friends, etc etc.

You chose.

(I know it probably isn't what you wanted to hear but I think if you listen to what I said you can really get some help for your life... because you deserve it)

Answer 8

I suggest getting the stress under control and then work on the weight loss. In my opinion, you'll then be much more successful with a weight management plan. B-Complex and Stress Relief Complex would be very helpful in dealing with your stress. These are all-natural supplements. B-Complex: Often called "The Happy Food". The B vitamins feed the nerves and have a profound effect on mental and emotional stability. Stress, medications, sugars and alcohol all rob the body of B vitamins. B-Complex is water soluble and should be taken throughout the day. Stress Relief Complex: Four all-natural ingredients enable your own body reduce the effects of stress. Promotes relaxation without drowsiness. L-theanine, a naturally occurring amino acid found in green tea, helps generate alpha waves that creates a relaxed yet alert mental state. Enhances the body's ability to adapt to continuing stress. Ashwagandha, an ayurvedic herb that enhances the body's ability to adapt to stress. Helps reduce the effects of everday stress by blunting the cortisol response to stress. Beta-Sitosterol, a natural plant sterol, helps blunt cortisol, a hormone produced during physical stress. Helps make norepinephrine, which is involved in mood regulation. L-tyrosine is an amino acid produced by the body to make the neurotransmitter norepinephrine. Studies suggest that norepinephrine levels may decline with stress. Stress Relief Complex enables the body to create the antibodies necessary to cope with prolonged stress. No Kava - a "fad ingredient" that the FDA warned may cause severe liver injury. Hope this is useful and feel free to contact me with questions or the website.

Answer 9

There's nothing wrong with being overweight and don't put yourself down because of it.

I would say get your kids to work out with you, but since you have a baby it wouldn't work. lol

Start out slow, instead of eating something with 1000 calories when your depressed eat an apple or drink some water, it wont happen fast but it works. Buy an exersize machine and work out when the baby's sleeping, or buy some work-out movies.

You could also bring the baby in his stroller for some long walks or hire a babysitter, and no eating at least 2 and a half hours before bed. =)

Answer 10

Before you go for help, try eliminating all that wonderful snack food from the house. If it isn't there you can't eat it. Tell your "Honey" that you don't want it in the house, at least for a while, and stick to it. If it is at all possible, take a night out to the gym, for yourself. Have your husband watch the baby, for a couple of hours. This will provide a good workout, and some social stimulation for you.

Answer 11

Hi

you can always get a personal trainer to get you started

I am currently a stay at home wife and are also struggling with my weight and so this on the Internet haven't called them yet though

http://www.nationalhometrainers.com/?gclid=CNna_ver3ooCFSUeGAodwCpe2w

They come to your home and apparently they are not that expensive

The best thing to Do when your depress is to get something to work that frustration off. like a hobby or something

Hope the above will help