I am in the process of breaking up with my girlfriend. After we break up, I don't want to have anything to do with her. She owes me some money on top of some "promised" money. The "promised" money are the money she said she'll give back me when she's angry but pretended she never said a word when we're no longer fighting. I feel she needs to be responsible for her words, so she needs to pay back the money. What do you guys think?
2007-03-05 06:06:18 · 6 answers · asked by uncle sam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you LENT her money and she said she would pay it back then yes ask for it but if you want money that you spent on her while going out then I think it would be wrong to want it back remember everyone says stupid things when theyr mad
2007-03-05 06:16:46 · answer #1 · answered by *Tiny Mommy* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sue her. That's what I did to a psycho ex-boyfriend.
But first, make sure you have proof. Sometimes it takes a lot of time to dig up old receipts, documents, contracts, etc. For example, if you and her had a "shared bill" such as a 2-phone cell phone plan, then you should look around for the original cell phone contract that shows the 2 phone lines. If it is a contract that includes your name as well as her's, then you will probably only be able to sue for half the amount.
How did you give her the money? If you paid with check or credit card towards one of her bills, then find the cancelled copy of that check or the credit card statement showing that transaction. If you have cash, then you will be s--t out of luck unless you have a receipt. If you do not have any receipts or "proof," then wait until she is angry and willing to admit to the "promised" money that she owes you. Write up an informal "contract" stating that she owes you the money, and have her sign it. If that sounds like too much, then text message or AOL Instant Message her about the debt...basically try to elicit a written response from her, because that written response will serve as "evidence."
Small claims court allows you to sue an individual for up to $5000. You file for this with the local court of the township that either of you reside in. You have to pay court fees upfront before they will process your lawsuit, but if you win, then the court fees will be tacked on to what she owes. This usually ranges from $30-$100+. I'd recommend spending the extra on court fees to hire a constable to deliver the court notification to the girl, because this "guarantees" that she receives it so that she can't claim that she "didn't know" later if she doesn't show up to court. If she doesn't show up to court, then you automatically win. If you win the case, then the court will put a Public Judgement on her credit report and this will dramatically hurt her credit score. If she STILL doesn't begin to pay within 30days, then you can fill out documents to have up to 25% of her paycheck wages garnished. Even if the deadbeat never pays, at least you will feel confident that you stood up for yourself, plus she will be "punished" for the next 7-10yrs by having ruined credit as a result of the unpaid judgment. (Bad credit can cause a medley of problems, including inability to obtain a place to live.)
This girl sounds like a real jerk and you should dump her! If she's not making any effort to pay you back now, don't think that staying with her will motivate her to do it...if anything, it might motivate her to think of you as a "sucker" and to keep mooching off you! Don't believe her if she threatens to not pay if you dump her...because if she has that attitude, that's a sign that she wouldn't pay either way. I think you'd be a lot happier without her. I went through all this with an ex, so that's how I know.
2007-03-05 14:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by buffalo_billz_2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is always a touchy subject because...well it just is! first of all instead of being angry and flying off at the mouth with her. u need to resolve this amicably. no arguing. explain to her that although the relationship is ending u'd still like her to honor her committment. say this exactly ok>>> tell her that even though our relationship is ending, u know that she isn't the kind of person who dishonors her committments and that you respect her for that and that you know she will do the right thing because it's in her heart! TRUST ME you'll get your money back. because what ur doing is making her doubt her values and morality, and pple want to believe that they are mostly noble and good pple, ne type of negative depiction about themselves that they see they will want it to dissipate! so in order dor that negative feeling to be relieved they will do what is right! If this doesn't work sue her ! Although that's a drastic measure, it usu settles it!
2007-03-05 14:16:49 · answer #3 · answered by LU S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a job for Judge Joe Brown!
2007-03-05 14:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by deejay30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um... if u already broke up with her of course u can ask her to give u back your money but becareful how u say it cuz she might be angry then say no
2007-03-05 14:10:41 · answer #5 · answered by cay_0325 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good bye money!!
2007-03-05 14:15:00 · answer #6 · answered by Mark N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋