he's cheated by bringing someone to the house while i was at work before and disrespects me and does not return my patiences and understanding
2007-03-05 05:55:58 · 15 answers · asked by amberlf2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was in a relationship that should have been over after 18 mo or so but it kept on for 3 years. There wasn't even cheating in my relationship and it had a lot of effect on me, the worst part being that I dropped my standards lower and lower over the years and kind of forgot how I was supposed to be treated. Leave that guy before you get jaded or give up on feeling special. Also, remember that 25% of people 18-24 have (or had) an STD. In my exp cheaters don't cheat just once and that mean's you're at risk for viruses, STD-related infertility, HIV, etc.
2007-03-05 06:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting out of a relationship like that can be extremely difficult. I know. A 2-year old relationship can turn into a habit as bad as a 20-year relationship. But you feel unhappy and you can't go through your life feeling like that. or you'll catch your self in the middle of throwing plates around and screaming, cursing your partner for making you the person you never wanted to be.
A neat trick is when you miss him, just think, are you going to miss the bad things, the sinking feeling in your gut when you remember how he's cheated on you.
Good luck
2007-03-05 14:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by izzy9954 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww hon, the situation sucks. I think you know the answer to your own question. You need to leave. The being alone part will suck for a while, but you obviously have internet... so enjoy some time hitting up the dating sites if for no other reason than for entertainment. Wait a bit to start dating, just browse and figure out what you really want. Take good care of yourself so when your ex calls and wants you back because you look so good, you can laugh in his face!
2007-03-05 14:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by megokane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will miss him like crazy; there is no way around it. However, you deserve better than that! There is someone out there that is perfect for you and will put you first and treat you with respect! You just need to trust yourself. Make the leapp, and leave him. Don't look back. He will try to contact you; it will even get to the point where he will still contact you every few months even a year later. You just need to realize when this happens that you need to reach your full potential in life....afterall, you only live once. Carpe Diem! Just live your life well, and don't do things that will leave you with tears and regrets.
2007-03-05 14:02:27 · answer #4 · answered by goaliegirl87 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, about 3 1/2 years here. He stopped respecting me and would come and go as he pleased. I knew it was because I let him do it to me. I was so used to the routine of having him there everyday (except when he'd disappear) but it never got any better and he wasn't going to commit. He was just playing with my heart. You will get used to it. Don't stay in it just for the comfortable or familiar feeling. It's not worth it. You have to get to a point where you know you are worth more than that.
2007-03-05 14:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by Green Eyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that, for far too long!!! Try 17 years of it~!!!! He never gave me, "proof" , but a woman's instinct's usually are pretty accurate, you know.. And we had far too many fights, and arguement's over this subject!! And he was my "Rock" and my "Soul-Mate" so we thought, anyway!! I still love this man to this day!! We talk on the phone all the time, and at the end of our call, he'll tell me, "I love you, Christy" and all's I can say now, is "Ditto." Because, he hurt me, so many times, over & over again, you know.. But, I feel I might date him again, uncoditionally once our two teens are raised-up, in 4 & 6 years! But, I wont live with him again, ever! He's just too "Controlling" for me!! Plus he is very bad with money, and I on the other hand am very careful with money.. We are opposites, in so many ways, about things in life, but I still love him, very much, and miss him alot.. We've been devorced now, for going on 4 years in April.. but I just cannot go back just yet, atleast not until my teens are off to College, or have their own places.. Then I may consider it, but not before!!! You have a "Wonderful day, for me!!" And just dont think about it for one day, you know...Life's too short, hun!!! Smile!!!
2007-03-05 14:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation. What I did was cheated on him for this other boy who I really liked. Then about 3 mths later i was so into him that i wasent worried about the first boy. So I left him and never thought about him I was to busy with the second man. So try that
2007-03-05 14:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has done this kind of stuff to you then it is over!!!
You need to get this creep out of your life and make him realize that you are not a floor mat. He is not worth another chance. Be strong and make your life better for yourself, not just someone else.
2007-03-05 14:03:07 · answer #8 · answered by amanda r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its so hard to leave someone but don't be stupid.its time to leave this guy because hes never going to be faithful to you and obviously doesn't love you.as much as it hurts you will so much better off without him.it can be scary about the future and you think your gonna be alone forever but you won't you'll find someone better who loves and respects you.
when you do leave him stay at a friends or familys house.
2007-03-05 14:04:24 · answer #9 · answered by emmabugg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should you go out with someone if he's cheating on you? If he's doing that, break up with him. He's hardly going to haunt you for the rest of your life for it, is he? If he's found someone else, you do the same. What's the worst he can do?
2007-03-05 14:00:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋