I don't seem to be able to trust my boyfriend no matter how hard I try. I am always reading more into whatever he does or says and I keep thinking he is going to end up hurting me. I don't like being this way and seriously want to change. Any suggestions?
2007-03-05 05:52:17 · 16 answers · asked by Sweet Cheeks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just alittle more information....he has not done anything to make me not trust him. This is all me!
2007-03-05 05:56:19 · update #1
I wouldn't/couldn't be around anyone I don't trust, much less consider them close enough for a relationship!
2007-03-05 05:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, trust takes TIME. Just like building credit, you have to spend time with each other and let both of your actions lead to building trust.
If you both have high integrity and good character, then you'll build trust.
If you are having "trust issues" for no apparent reason, then one of two things (or both) are happening: either you have not been together long enough to know each other well enough to have that trust, or you are projecting your own character flaws onto your partner.
You will destroy this relationship you are in and bring about a communication breakdown if you do not focus on your partner's actions rather than your own ego.
I should note that valid reasons for mistrusting somebody are as follows:
1. Bad attitude
2. Low integrity (they are an actor, manipulative, they lie a lot, doesn't keep promises, erratic).
3. Insecure: has "trust issues", carrying emotional baggage.
2007-03-05 06:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been on both sides I know this is hard. I've never cheated but I understand how it's sometimes hard to trust and be trusted when you and/or your other have been hurt before, so I sympathize. I just tell myself that if you take the distrust into every new relationship then it'll never work because your looking for something to be wrong, even when it's not there. The new person doesn't deserve to be treated like the last person who hurt you, unless they're giving you reason to think otherwise. Like others have said... If you can't trust each other then you're dooming yourself and the relationship to misery and eventual failure.
2007-03-05 06:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he done anything to make you feel this way? Have you been like this in previous relationships? If you haven't been like this before, I say trust your instincts. They could be telling you something. However, if you're a naturally non-trusting person by nature, then you should probably talk to some type of counselor to figure out where the root of your mistrust lies and start from there. Don't make him pay for mistakes that someone else from your past made.
2007-03-05 05:55:18 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maximum of those solutions are truly, truly unhappy. look, i have been damage by technique of people yet i'm no longer particular. human beings damage one yet another because we are human. And it truly is genuine, there are such truly some human beings available you won't be able to believe. besides the undeniable fact that the genuine question is: do you damage, mislead, and manage others? Are someone perpetuating the topic matters that save you from trusting individuals? i have self belief the perfect in human beings because it truly is the in reality there is to stay for me. If i'm incorrect? i'm getting damage. yet when i became someone who couldn't believe absolutely everyone and believed the worst, then regardless of the truth that if I did meet someone genuine, i does no longer see that. i could in reality see my personal bitterness and distrust and that i could omit out on the threat to understand the few reliable human beings there are available. So i'm no longer a suspicious man or woman, even if thinks i'm naive or no longer. i'm a Taurus.
2016-12-05 06:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive no suggetions as such but a relationship is failing if there is no trust. Im assuming he has given you reasons along the line somewhere that have placed this mistrust in your mind. My advice to u is, - if you cant seem to find that trust in him , Leave. i know that probably isn't the answer that u were expecting but its exactly what I would do..... Easier said than done though,,, I wish u all the best with it... x
2007-03-05 05:57:07 · answer #6 · answered by Point 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Plant a trap for him and see what happens OR break it off as a whole or for a bit and be single untill u learn to trust
2007-03-05 05:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lexis 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have to try hard to trust anyone, that should answer your fears...get the message?
2007-03-05 06:09:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
trust is very hard but its needed to ensure a successful relationship.if your having problems with it why not talk to him about your feelings.
2007-03-05 05:59:20 · answer #9 · answered by emmabugg 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that's bad, lol. This is how my mother behaves. Maybe you start developing pshyhic abilities and see inside of the poor boy.
2007-03-05 05:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by ParaskeveTuriya 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋