I Love Him But..?

Question

I want him to quit his game ..
I want him to stop being mean.
I want him to say Baby You Amaze me.
I want him to tell me how good or bad i look .
I just want him to feel the impact that he has had on me and i want to have a big impact on him. I love Him.. But is There a way to get him to stop and pay a litle more attention..?

It's been 7 months.. I know he loves me as well..

Answer 1

You can't make somebody be the way you want them to be. If you love him you have to except the things he's not. If that doesn't work for you kick him to the curb and find you a man who will treat you the way you feel you should be treated.

Answer 2

1) Whatever he does, be true to yourself. Do not change to a mean behaviour cause he does hurtful things; otherwise it would only aggreviate things.
2) - Talk to him about how he makes you feel. I went through something similar, and this is how I approached him at the right time: "Sweety I would like to talk to you"..."I need to express that I felt hurt when you did/said" ... Be ready for any type of outcomes either deffensive, or understanding on his part, which ever happens keep your cool. You got the right as a person to express your hurts. This way the other person has the option to clarify something that you took as hurtful, or learn to respect your feelings by avoiding doing the same thing and showing understanding.
3) I learned that by avoiding conflict I was hurting my relationship cause the other person won't read your mind if he/she is doing something that comes across as hurtful. Learn to present your needs in a loveable way: do not scream, no calling names, try to make your point clearly. It would be great that if you have not done it before that you ask him the following question at some point: "If we ever need to have a discussion, what would be the best approach according to you? As mentioned before, you may mention to him that you would like understanding/open mind, no name calling, no slung talking, others you may have. A conflict does not separate a couple when done it right, it makes a couple to growth stronger and closer.
4) Do not quit just cause he keeps acting immaturely. Sometimes it takes the mature of the couple to help the other
reach maturity if he/she is worth it. Only you can answer that to yourself. Under no circumstances play his games, if you want this relationship to growth. If he acts like a jerk and you express your feeling but don't hurt him back, he will realize that he is acting bad and hopefully quit....After you give it a try for a while, and he doesn't change his ways then it's time to move on... Best of Luck!!

Answer 3

First off, are you just looking for attention ??? All the things you described in your question needs to be defined because what game is he playing ?? Is he cheating ?? Being mean as in he hangs out with you all day Sunday but Sat he was hanging out with his friends and you consider that mean ?? The things he says to you are just what you want....A relationship is about give and take. Just because you tell him every day you love him but he does't doesn't mean he doesn't show you he loves you other ways that perhaps you don't show him. He may show up unexpectedly just because he missed you and when do you do that ?? If it bothers you that much then talk to him about how you feel.....But don't whine and complain about it, just bring it to his attention and if nothing changes, goodbye, otherwise it might change and you two could grow from it. Good luck !!!

Answer 4

You have your needs for attention, but their not being met. Sit down and talk to him. Tell him what you need and want. See what he says or why he doesn't do the things that you want. Maybe he just doesn't know or think about it in the same way. Either way, if you can't work it out, then do yourself a favor and leave. It sounds like he's fine with it but you need somebody else to give you what you want.

Answer 5

Men just don't get it do they. We pluck our eyebrows, shave our legs spend $$$ of looking our best so we can be pushed aside and only be loved on when "they want to".

Most of the time its like that I hate to tell you. Then once in awhile you find a man that is all about you, then he's too nice and we get bored and dump him.

Secretly, we like to work for the attention and that is our reward. But how do we get him to take more notice? To get him to be more attentive to you.

Sounds crazy but, have you tried not wanting his attention? Don't ignore him but just act like what ever he does thats cool and find something to do while he's playing a game or out with his friends or watching tv. Sometimes guys seem to want us MORE when we don't act like we want them.

You can also try seeting up as special day one day a week for "your own time".

Answer 6

Let him know how you feel. Communication plays a big role in relationships. If he chooses not to change after you explained to him how you feel, then maybe you don't need to be with someone like him.

Answer 7

If attention is important to you...and if that's what makes you feel valued by your significant other and he's not doing those things then how are you going to feel appreciated? You know what to do, but the question is...if you love him so much do you have the courage to walk away.

Answer 8

I would sit him down and tell him how you feel- straight from the heart... That should straighten him out and realize he loves you too. Guys doesn't show their emotions.. You have to bring them out for them... Good luck.. I wish the best for you and this guy...

Answer 9

the most important factor in any relationship is honesty

you need to sit him down, and tell him exactly how you feel.

he obviously loves you

and your crazy for him

he will understand, and he will make a difference, open your heart and let him in to how you feel

good luck!

tifferz

Answer 10

GAWD.

Stop the nagging. You WILL NOT change him. Best to get out now rather then wait until you have popped out a few kids, etc.