Do you believe that parents can fully devote themselves to each child's needs or is it reasonable to admire their willingness to take in all of the kids?
2007-03-05 05:46:16 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think each family considering adoption should make a realistic assessment of what they can handle.
With adoption, parenting can sometimes take more than the "usual" amount of commitment and energy due to loss and grief issues the children may deal with. A strong support system within the family and community is key.
Parents might consider asking for help on occasion from grandparents, church friends, or friends in the adoption community to alleviate some of the stress a large adoptive family can face.
There are families with 5 children or many more who operate wonderfully as a team, and do it well. Sadly, our current society does not see the value in large families, and many people feel children are a burden.
If an adopting family has proper education in adoption issues, are willing to seek out counseling or other support services as the need arises, work to meet the needs of all family members, and are willing to support the adoptee's desires related to honoring ties to birth family/culture/identity, then I believe it will be successful.
So yes, adoptive and non-adoptive parents can devote themselves to each child's needs in a large family, but it takes determination, teamwork, realism, education, and a strong committment to the child's needs while not ignoring the parents needs and self care.
2007-03-05 06:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by mamaH 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe each child doesn't get the parents full attention but they get a family. An opportunity to have siblings and a houseful of people who love them. Seems like a great deal for the kids to me! And Yes you can't help but admire people who can take on a houseful of children others discarded. Being willing and able to do that deserves some kind of recognition.
2007-03-05 13:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by MissWong 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like many have said, I think if you have enough money to support them, adopt away. It's actually like any other family. I am from a family of 7 and we all received devoted time from our parents. It's probably not like having one kid, but I wouldn't change it. I have a large family and always desired to have 7 of my own and am nearly there. As long as you can support and care for them, it is great to adopt a kid who would otherwise be under State care.
2007-03-05 14:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by downinmn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think adopting lots of children is a lot more admirable then giving birth to a bunch of them. If someone has the resorces then I think it is a fantastic choice! My cousins has 5 adopted children and they are all around the same age. She home schools two that have learning disabilities.
2007-03-05 14:08:32 · answer #4 · answered by kana121569 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if the parents have the financial means and the want to adopt and want to have that amount of children the more power to them!! My aunt has 5 kids and want to adopt 2 more. They are all well loved, well rounded and happy children!
God Bless!
2007-03-05 13:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by knight_janette 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I THINK IT IS GREAT . YES THEY CAN DEVOTE TIME TO EACH CHILD. IT IS LIKE HAVING 5 CHILDREN OF YOUR OWN. YOU LEARN HOW TO MAKE TIME.
2007-03-05 13:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by CNT 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think any body who is able to adopt should adopt as many as possible. every kid deserves a home.
2007-03-05 13:49:37 · answer #7 · answered by i totally agree with you!! not 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you believe you can and really are devoted to it, do it.
2007-03-05 13:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by Lorelei's Mommy ( & prego) 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋