Ok ladies, I am a single, 24 yr old guy, & after being single for 7 months, I'm ready to get back out there & meet new women, & begin dating again. My only problem's I'm a gentleman, yet I love sex! But who doesn't? Just because you love sex, doesn't make you a pig, I mean, I ACTUALLY care about every woman I've slept with (only 4). So, I spend most of my time in coffee shops, barnes and noble, etc. My question is what would be the best way to approach a woman I don't know & ask her out on a date while in those places? I figured I go straight to the source, & ask women this question. I want it to result in a long-lasting relationship, but don't want to scare her away. What do I say? Anything charming, or witty come to mind? What to avoid saying? What would be the best opener? Thanks SO much for your help ladies, the more specific on what to say, & what not to say, the better; I want to actually win her over.Think of things you'd like to hear/wouldn't like to hear. Thanks! :D
2007-03-05 05:45:23 · 12 answers · asked by chrissexysmile 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am taken but I will tell you the truth. A lot of women like sex and don't bother with that whole good girl/bad girl stuff. Be honest that is the first thing I have never been mad at a guy for just wanting to have sex. If you are looking for a relationship two make sure that the woman understands this. I would just approach a woman normally at a dinner or at a club or anywhere actually. I have been approached (and approached) guys in almost any location imaginable.
Also, try to make yourself presentable but don't over do it or some women might think your gay. Definitely wait a couple of dates, if you want a relationship, to talk about sex right away.
2007-03-05 06:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by ambr95012 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm 19 and I think if some guy just come up to me and asked me out in a bookstore I would for sure say no just cause well, you don't know them AT ALL. If you see a girl you're interested in, make a comment about what books she is looking at. Make some small talk and then invite her to go have a cup of coffee at those places in the bookstore. That way she'll feel comfortable because she won't be going off somewhere with a stranger and you'll be in a place with a lot of other people. If you're in a coffee shop, cut in while she's in line and pay for her drink. While she is waiting for it to be made, talk with her, nothing too personal though, and then, either have a seat and enjoy your coffee with her or, of she is in a rush, ask to get her number. I think the main thing is to not be too pushy. Read her signals. If she is clearly not interested then say you hope she has a nice day, and walk away.
2007-03-05 06:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like the manner in which you say it would make all the difference to me. If you do like most 19-25 yr. old guys do these days, I would probably come off snobby.
Like... barnes and noble
"Yo that's ma book man.. I love that ****."
I hate hate hate when I hear a guy that has been consumed by MTV and other media and doesn't seem to have a bit of intelligence in him or doesn't seem to have an independent thought.
Just be sincere. If the girl is not on the slow side and has some intelligence and thoughtfulness, I think she'll be quite surprised at hearing someone that just sounds like hisself without all the additives. That's rare these days.
2007-03-05 05:54:36 · answer #3 · answered by nothingconstant 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well hon flattery will get you everywhere. You say you love sex but you dont ever want a woman to think you just want her for sex. Why dont you start with smart conversation and then just ask the girl out. Women like gusy with confidence. You NEVER tell a woman you first meet that you want to be in a long lasting relationship because that will freak her out. What to avoid is CHEESY pick up lines. You win women over by being a gentleman and just by being yourself.
2007-03-05 05:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing to me has always been intelligent conversation- and most girls you find in B&N etc will probably feel the same. Ask a question or mention something about the book she's looking at, the topic she's interested in. If you can get a conversation going, you'll probably be well off. I'd say don't move too quickly, but sooner or later you have to make it obvious you are interested in her.
2007-03-05 05:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by Alona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off there is no right or wrong way to approach a woman other then being yourself....Don't meet a woman by proposing marriage to her. Just remember, just because your meeting a woman doesn't mean she's going to be the woman of your dreams. That is the process of dating especially with you being so desperate just to date women. You need to be willing to let things ride themselves out. If you meet a woman at Starbucks, she may not be around next week or next month but it couldn't hurt to talk them and see if they could be Mrs. Right. Just make sure you have the balance of she may or may not be the one but it wouldn't hurt to talk to them nonetheless. Good luck !!!
2007-03-05 05:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by the_wicked_itch_of_the_west 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont like when guys freeze up you have my attention say what you want/feel and let me get on with my business example if we are in a book store (I did not come to talk or to get hit on, but to enjoy reading) say hi and say hey nice sweater, you like these types of books?, then say something to wrap it up can i cal you sometime get the number and be gone unless the girl is totally the opposite from me and stay there and chat good luck you will need it !
2007-03-05 05:55:18 · answer #7 · answered by Friday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it a particular girl? is she a regular? is she reading? if shes reading something, start by asking her about what shes reading then be like "o by the way im so and so, whats your name?" then engage in a conversation there. but only make it long term if your sure. not every girl wants a long term relationship, and not everyone is perfect for you. i wish you luck, youll find the perfect girl for you, some day. crossing my fingers!
ta ta for now
tifferz
2007-03-05 05:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by tiffanylovestodance 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're looking for a "good girl" - look around at a church, join the choir, attend their singles' socials! The rest will come easily...
2007-03-05 05:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Post your profile at YoBling.
Let them initiate a conversation first.
Search yahoo & google. It's on the front pages.
2007-03-05 05:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋