my boyfriend get's mad at me every other night, because he say's im not giving him enough sex. we make love just about everyday, but sometimes im just not in the mood. he'll get mad and say that he feels like im playing games with him, or just stop talking to me for the rest of the night......... am i wrong? i love him and i love making love to him but sometimes i just need a break.
2007-03-05 05:44:25 · 8 answers · asked by jazzy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you have unequal sex drives, which he should be understanding about. He's not wrong for wanting sex more often than you do, but you're not wrong for wanting it less often. Part of being a couple is learning to compromise on things like this.
Making love every day is definitely way above average, and you deserve a break once in a while. If he gets upset with you, he's being selfish. Inform him that you're not a rabbit, and you're not there to put out every single time he wants sex.
2007-03-05 05:54:18 · answer #1 · answered by gamblin man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your wrong, by doing it more often, I honestly believe the thrill is gone (for me anyways). It really doesn't matter how often, it's the quality not the quantity.
If your boyfriend truly loves you, then I don't think he should be bothered by, how often he gets it. Your not playing games, he is, especially when he makes you feel guilty for not being in the mood. Make sure he knows that you'd rather be in the mood than just fake it. If he ever loved you at all, he'd respect your decision and understand why.
If he's just looking after his own needs only, I'd be looking for a new boyfriend (he sounds needy and selfish), it doesn't sound like a whole lot of love or respect here.
2007-03-05 14:08:37 · answer #2 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... I would get mad at him for not understanding your feelings. He should be more resonable with you. You should talk to him and ask him if sex is all he wants you for, because you don't want to find out one day that he is out cheating on you because you didn't give him enough. And if he does do that to you, then skrew him anyway, not literally!!! ha ha
2007-03-05 13:56:21 · answer #3 · answered by amanda r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not wrong....your BF should stop putting so much pressure on you. It sounds like you have sex quite often. He may need use his hand more and let you have some peace...
2007-03-05 13:53:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
making love isnt wat a relationship is a bout its about trust and care and things.... if he loves ya then he'll care what u think..if u dont mind ill tell u about my bf...like he wants to make love like all guys do but i said no im afraid of the consiquinces and he said o.k. ill just wait...and he said eventully? i said ya..thats a good word..now we r good as ever...but he repects me and i repect him and its a really nnice relationship b.c. of that :)
2007-03-05 13:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by Martariesa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's not the right time for both of you... the best decision is to break up with him.... he only wants sex from you....
2007-03-05 13:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by anastasia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to do it every nite he should understand your feelings too..tell him well we can do other stuff too and we dont need to have sex every nite..
2007-03-05 13:49:12 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Sean's_Mommy*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex life will fade eventually... he should calm down.
2007-03-05 13:50:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋