in this situation how to start foreplay cos both of us are very shy and not have heard much about sex
help us !
2007-03-05 05:43:06 · 6 answers · asked by amitgaik2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You just need to relax over the whole topic. Try not to be so shy about it, and maybe try and talk about it all. Your worries and concerns if you have them.
If you put alot of pressure on having to have sex on your wedding night, you may both have trouble with it, and it could end up much more forced and awkward than it should be. There is no reason it has to be on your wedding night, and if you both state that from the get-go, then it will likely make you more relaxed when the time comes.
It's best to just 'go with the flow' so to speak. Don't try to plan it all, just see what happens.
If you are still uncomfortable about not knowing what to do, maybe do some research. It may seem embarrasing but it's a natural thing to do. The more you know the more comfortable you'll likely be.
2007-03-05 05:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by Shanti76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.... Hmmm.... I would say that something to try first off would be maybe massages. Get yourselves comfortable with being naked together. Start kissing her gently, then on the neck. Move down to her breasts. Use your hand to stimulate her down ther (slowly, gently) even put a finger or two inside so she can get used to the sensation of being penetrated. If I were you I would give her oral. so she will be relaxed and lubricated. Take your time nobody likes a speedy gonzales in the bedroom :)
When it comes time for actual sex listen to her if she is telling you anything. Go in slowly and gently for you do not want to hurt her. It could be a little painful / sore for her the first few times but that is to be expected. The key is to make sure she is lubricated or else it will be bad for both of you.
Outside of that... Got to a local sex store like lovers package or something. They have lots of good books in there. Maybe watching a little porn would give you some ideas too.
Good luck :)
2007-03-05 05:56:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try not to be so shy in front of your spouse. You are spending the rest of your lives together, and if you truly love one another this should come naturally. But, also don't do it until the two of you are ready, you don't have to do it on your wedding night. But, the important thing is that the two of you communicate with each other about your feelings and decide together when to do it.
2007-03-05 05:51:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In ongoing discussions with people about being a virgin until your wedding night, the following question came up: are you willing to risk finding out on your wedding night that you and your partner may not be sexually compatible or really not have sexual chemistry? As virgins, you are now facing that question.
All couples are different, so advice from someone else may not work for you. However there is one point I want to make. Are you comfortable with your bodies? If not, any sexual activity will be very difficult.
I wish you good luck.
2007-03-05 06:06:10 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just take it slow. Try some candles and soft music, dance together. That should start things. Remember to be open and honest and allow your partner to be. If things are going to fast or if someone feels uncomfortable the other needs to try and understand. The first few times are always uncomfortable, it will get better.
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2007-03-05 06:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by Question Addict 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-05 05:53:17 · answer #6 · answered by Andrew S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋