why would you not want to adopt older kids 10 +?

Answer 1

Children of all ages need a mom and dad. So yes I would adopt a child of 10 or older!

Answer 2

Yes there are kids of all ages needing adoption, however the older they are the more problems come with alot of them. I would not want to adopt a male teen as I have a daughter and would worry about her. I have been foster parenting kids of all ages and I will not take kids over 6 now because there was too many issures with the older ones. I had some steal from us. tell lies to the social worker because they were told no they couldn't do something, another would just run off. it was too much of a hardship. they had counceling they had to go each week and drug rehab and not only do I work full time at a hospital I do have 5 kids of our own and those older kids picked on my kids and my kids come first. I want to make sure my kids grow up in a happy stablized enviroment. Now when my kids are all grown and out of the house then we will take on older kids again, just not now as there was so many different issues and problems that came along and it caused a lot of friction with my kids and caused fighting between my kids and the foster kids. Now there are families who can deal with 10 and older kids with no problem and have time to commit to them and that is awsome, but in my case it hasn't worked out for my family. it was tearing us apart which was not healthy. you need to make sure you look into the background of the child and if the child has been moved from one family to another family a lot then you need to investegate and ask the past families what happend. they will have a different story then that of the kid you are talking to.

Answer 3

Many families thinking of adoption are focused on babies, or young children. There are so many older kids out there who would love to have parents and a family. Children 10+ are likely coming from years of foster care, and/or difficult family situations, and they will definitely require a great deal of patience, empathy, and love. They also often have so much to give to someone willing to take on the challenge of an older child. For those deciding, spend time with older children. Volunteer at a school, or an after-school or community program. You might find you really enjoy older kids, and it wouldn't matter so much that you hadn't always been their parent, just that you are able to be the parent they need now.

Answer 4

Children of all ages need adopted! I think adoptive parents of children 10 + may need a bit more patience and empathy as normally a child who is older comes with more independent thought and learnings from their previous life. It can be a tough transition to go from one way of living to another, so its good to be mindful of that. Also, if they were in an abusive situation, they may have emotional trauma that needs special attention and extra nurturing for.

Answer 5

Some people do, some don't, mostly they do not because they want to celebrate the childs life as it is first born like anyone that can get pregnant. I do think it'd be great for someone to adopt older ones too

Answer 6

I would adopt a child no matter the age. Everyone always goes for the babies, because they think it is easier because they won't know they are adopted and things like that, but all kids need a family. You should discriminate because of their age.

Answer 7

Some parents believe the child's personality is already "fixed"; whereas, some believe younger children tend to be more "moldable" in their personality. However, I personally believe you can mold an older child's behavior and attitude too like you can with younger children.