ok im sure alot of you have read about ym gf and i, been going for 2 and a half years, and its amazing! but we almost broke up cuz i was being stupid, i was accusing her of cheating, and b4 that she was obsessed with sex, and now shes not really thinking about it =/ what can i do to make my girlfriend think/want sex alot more? lol i have been working out, getting a better body(not like im ugly) like when were at her house, i might put my hand down there, and she will kinda get mad and say "im not in the mood babe" , help me!!!
2007-03-05 05:35:49 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont need help getting laid, trust me, lol but really what can i do, go down on her more?
2007-03-05 05:39:20 · update #1
thanks alot for all your awnsers, i herd some things that help and dont, but i cant explain everything we have gone threw, and all the details in just a paragraph, but thanks alot everyone!
2007-03-05 05:48:36 · update #2
Start with turning her on gradually. Start with a back massage or do something really romantic. You have to work up to sex and turn the mind on as well as the body.
2007-03-05 05:38:34 · answer #1 · answered by sheila 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girls don't always want sex the same way that guys do. Guys can see a hot woman and want it, but women want to be seduced and pampered and made to feel very special before we get into the mood. And if you force the issue (by putting your hands in places she doesn't want them to be) you'll just make her want sex even less.
You should probably tone back the aggressive "I want sex!" moves and focus more on making her feel special and loved and wanted. Especially since you just did something stupid like accuse her of cheating. She's probably still mad about that. Spend some time treating her like a princess and give her time.
2007-03-05 05:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that before you want to have alot of sex with your partner you should show her how much you care about her, and if you do care about her you should trust her, you can't love someone and not trust them, jelousy just means that you have no confindense about yourself and that is a big turn offf, if she is being accused of cheating then she must be upset and the last thing she wants is your face in front of her, besides girls like a little romance before alot of sex, you have to meet her half way, she may care about you but, stop showing it, you gotta win her back!
2007-03-05 05:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by kika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going down (as long as you're doing it right) will always get you 2 thumbs up. But if she's n ot in the mood she's not in the mood. You can't make a woman want you just make things interesting in hte bedroom to spice things up to make her want you again. Role playing, full body massage something new and go from there. Good luck and knock her socks off when you get the chance.
2007-03-05 05:49:06 · answer #4 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a question for u,why would u think she was cheating, because u did or because she look like she was? i think that she probably like it but she want to show u another that sex is not all she care about or she is probably mad at u for being so stupid. u better talk to her and come clean with her. if u love her u better respect her and tell her the truth and communicaton is what is all about maybe u 'll end up in the bed after talking it out. treat her good cuz i remember my friend, when she was with her bf and they where having problems she stop liking him she would let him touch her there either. so u know what to do. good luck
2007-03-05 05:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by sweet angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok here's a woman's point of view. She needs you to love on her, not sexually!! Hug her and talk to her and when she talks to you, listen, NO REALLY LISTEN!! Men don't understand how important our emotional state of mind is. That is foreplay to us. I think foreplay starts in the kichen. cook her dinner, then wash the dishes for her. don't leave the mess for her to clean up, it ruins the mood! Draw her a hot bubble bath, lay out something pretty for her to wear, not like a slut outfit, but something she feels sexy in. Tell her 5 things you love about her (not sexual either). Everything you men think about is sexual, we are not built that way. We are emotional beings and need comforting and love. Can you define love? Try..... What does love really mean to you? Women need an emotional connection where men need sex to feel loved. We both want to feel loved but express it sooooooo differently! Try, really try to give her attention. Massage her back, without reaching to the front! Yes we all know that trick. Rub her feet (without trying to suck her toes) know that one too..lol.. Just give her attention, she will get turned on because you are so sweet.. Oh, by the way, this will only work if done on a daily basis, you can't just do this when you want some or she will catch on and it's over.. Must be done daily to let her know how much she is truly loved and respected and cared about. You will be tired of the sex you get I promise! Good luck and remember love on her don't try to be sexual and she will!
2007-03-05 05:47:17 · answer #6 · answered by justwondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to try a better approach. Sometimes women need a bit of warming up. You need to put her in the mood man. Dont just jump in and expect to be pile driving in three seconds flat. You seem young dude. I think a little more age under your belt will help to teach you some of the more mature techniques you will need in life.
2007-03-05 05:40:18 · answer #7 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry it all over, there is nothing better in life then dating someone during the 6 to 14 months of a relationship. The sex is unvelievable. But like anything else, she gets tired of it, and you also are probablly slacking off not knowing it. She will never get that excited about sex ever again, sorry
2007-03-05 05:41:01 · answer #8 · answered by Chet the Body 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you ruined it by accusing her of cheating. Doesn't matter how good you look. Better have an honest conversation about what's going on, because I don't think she's forgiven you for the accusation.
Sounds like you're not much of a prize if you can't get that your accusation hurt her. It sounds to me that you don't much care how she feels, you just want to get laid.
2007-03-05 05:39:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to humble yourself! You seriously damaged any feeling of trust when you accused her of cheating. I hate to say it but you're the bad guy here! Buffing out is a cheap way of trying to win her back. If that works, and I'm betting it won't, both would show that the relationship has no depth!
2007-03-05 05:41:03 · answer #10 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋